| You know, that is totally unfair!
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:25:32 PM | | Ok, I have noticed that several of the women I have viewed on here has said blunty, no fat men, that is so nasty, while I am inclined to agree, I personally like small petite or thin women, I did not say that I would not talk to fat women. If I had put something like that in my profile I would have been hunted down and castrated by the female population in general. How is it fair and balanced for women to be able to dislike fat men, but if we do we are shallow pigs who think of nothing but looks?!? | |
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MizQ
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Joined: 6/26/2008
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| You know, that is totally unfair!
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:30:27 PM | If I had put something like that in my profile I would have been hunted down and castrated by the female population in general.
Nah, we save the castrating for different types of offenders...
This isn't the Fox News Channel, so you are not going to find fair and balanced here, unfortunately.
Personally, I do not prefer to see it in any profile, regardless of gender. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 10:35:13 PM | I noticed this almost immediately, mizq. I just think it's funny. Especially the women's profiles I've seen with "IF YOU'RE NOT HOT DON'T BOTHER I WILL DELETE YOU!!!" or something similar. 
This just in; women can be shallow too. Fancy that.  | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 10:37:22 PM | | It would seem much more polite and kind to put what you WOULD like instead of what you wouldn't. Though I am not one to talk. Its easier to be rude on the internet I suppose. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 10:38:17 PM | The keyword Zippy, is personal preferences.
I have them, you have them. We all have them and that is just what it is.
Since you like thin and petite women, I would want to know that up front, rather than to waste my valuable time writing to you. I don't think that you are shallow if you prefer slim women. I just think you are unenlightened.
Your rampant overgeneralizations about the female hunting and castrating population here, are greatly overstated. Until you get a clue, about just how abusive some men can be, regarding overweight women I suggest you stop worrying about it and concentrate on finding someone who is suitable for you. It will save you irritation. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:12:26 PM |
If I had put something like that in my profile I would have been hunted down and castrated by the female population in general.
You're assuming the female population in general would be viewing your profile to begin with in order to have seen it. I'm sure you do get female views on your profile, but I think in reality, your nads would be safe.
To put it bluntly, women don't mind if you have preferences... they really don't. It's all in how you state them. If you're rude about it, they should be bent out of shape. If you handle it with class and compassion, they may not be happy, but by and large they'll accept it and move on. No one likes to be told they're not someones preference, even you I would imagine. Think about how you'd like to be told you don't fit someones ideal image.
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:12:41 PM | Hmm.. Well, atleast you know how they feel. If they feel that strongly about it, would you want to talk to them, really?
I'm, well, plus-sized, at the moment.....and, if someone didn't want to talk to me for that reason, I think i'd rather know up front..... I, personally, wouldn't want to waste my time talking to someone who feels that way.
But yeah, it's rude for a woman or a man to state that they don't want to be contacted by a "fat man" or a "fat woman", or whatever they say... Not very classy, at all. We all have personal preferences, but we don't have to be rude about it. Oh well. Like I said, atleast we know what kind of people they are, right away, right? lol | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:20:52 PM | | OP apparently you haven't read enough male profiles because plenty of them state NO BBW's, if you're over a size 14 don't bother, no fat chicks, etc. Both genders can be equally rude. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:26:35 PM | | How is that rude? It's blunt, not rude. It's stating thier preference. So what if they don't like fat guys? They are being honest. Everyone is attracted to a certain type of person. They simply put it in their profile so no one's time is wasted. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:27:54 PM | yeah, the profiles with like 20 negative things listed. no this, no that. I wonder how they get any contacts since it all seems to negative. some of them ONLY say what they dont like and its a long list. You are reading it thinking "what DO u like?"
of course I put a couple of neg statements in my profile when I first made it (I dislike too much game playing. I dislike all take and no give relationships) because those things were fresh on my mind from trying to talk to a certain girl, lol.
as far as the "no fat people need reply" type of thing, it would generally be better to say something like "im into fitness" or whatever. It is a little more classy way of saying the same thing. | |
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MizQ
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Joined: 6/26/2008
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| You know, that is totally unfair!
Posted: 7/11/2008 11:30:03 PM | I think he is just mad that he feels there is a double standard.
If we promise to not castrate you OP, why don't you go ahead and state your preference in your profile this way...
"My preference lends towards small petite or thin women".
If a woman emails you and is upset, then just delete/block her.
Now, everything is good in the land of POF again.... | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:30:49 PM |
as far as the "no fat people need reply" type of thing, it would generally be better to say something like "im into fitness" or whatever. It is a little more classy way of saying the same thing.
Yeah, I do agree it is more nice, lol!! | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:31:06 PM | If I had a dime for every man who put that in his profile, I'd be rich. Get over it. Both men and women have preferences. You say yourself that you do. But then you say you don't mind talking to a fat girl. So what do you do when that fat girl suggests that you guys meet and go for a coffee or drink?
I'd rather be up front and honest about my expectations in a guy, so as not to waste anyone's time....not just mine. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 11:38:14 PM | When women are forward and upfront men call it rude! When men do it it's called honesty.
Worded wrongly anything can be taken as insulting. Word it right and it is just a personal choice that all can relate to. Be nice! Play fair and happy fishing. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 12:09:01 AM | | Man have I gotten the hate mail over this. "I am only using 150lb test - if your over 200lbs I hope you break the line & swim away." I actually tried to be polite and not just say NO FAT CHICKS. I agree that would be rude. I don't know about fat men? Sorry - but here is my take and opinion for what it is worth. I am 5'8 157 lbs. not a big guy so I am not interested in a big woman. Some gal 230lbs taking the top position would just crush me. Ya laugh - but that is just the truth. Fact is I know what I like and don't like. If you sir are 280lbs and the gal is 121lbs - you would crush her! If there is no attraction & no chemistry what is the point? I have some female friends who are pushing 300lbs on the scale - very nice people. I don't judge people that way - but for my mate - that is different. Petite gals that weigh less then me and are not taller then me , or older then me is what is going to turn my crank. Women should not be offended - after all it is not my fault they ate 3000 Big Macs too many. I have also noticed a lot of gals want a guy 6 foot or taller - so should I be offended because I am 4 inches too short? I think not. I would rather someone be honest and describe what they are looking for. But I concur they should do it in a way that is tactful and not so blunt and rude. If they are that way - you don't want em anyway. Just my line of thinking. To all those posting here in good faith and honesty - Good Luck there is someone for everyone. Godspeed>>>> | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 12:19:39 AM |
When women are forward and upfront men call it rude! When men do it it's called honesty.
Worded wrongly anything can be taken as insulting. Word it right and it is just a personal choice that all can relate to. Be nice! Play fair and happy fishing.
That is exactly the opposite of what the OP posted ...
And he does have a point.
Personally , I think people should state what they are looking for , not what they aren't looking for. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 12:30:28 AM | So are you upset that you believe women will hunt you down and castrate you for saying, "no fat chicks" or are you upset that men don't hunt down and "castrate" women for saying no fat men?
I don't see what's unfair. We can't control the actions of men. If you want men to attack women for having "no fat men" in their profile, then go speak to the men.
People have preferences. State them rudely and most people will get disgusted by your behavior. State them politely and some people will still get pissy about your preferences. Those that get pissy just for the fact you have a preference aren't worth your time, so don't worry about them.
You can state whatever you want on your profile, but you're taking a risk when you do it. You already know the risk, so getting upset that it exists is pointless. You choose what's best for you. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 1:04:42 AM | Women tend to use the words BLOCK and DELETE in their profiles and in forum postings quite frequently. It's rather blunt and impolite, especially coming from people who SAY they have superior language skills and want more conversation. You'd think they's come up with something more friendly....maybe BAN and BAR ACCESS ??? 
All and all the words really don't matter, because when a man is interested, such words will not deter him from writing an email if the permissions allow it. It's like a career theif/burguler looking at a common lock. They've already decided what they are going to do, the lock is only a small hassle. So the warning is forgotten almost before it's read. But to kinder more gentler folk, the warning makes the writer of the profile seem anti-social or snooty.
I guess that's truthiness for ya!  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 2:00:10 AM | Ohhh sunshine, I just am not sure what your complaint is... Both sexes put all sorts of stuff in there profiles, some that may seem rude and uncalled for. As many women have already stated, and I just can't resist but mention again... MANY MANY men have the same blatant rude sounding sentiments in their profile as well.
However I suppose since it is unlikely that you look to see what kind of things other men state, you would know just how blatant, and or rude they are about things they deem as important qualitites.
Trust me, these things really are fair and balanced, and it isn't even foxnews, just take a stroll for kicks to see what other men state.
If you are not into BBW, state it how ever you would like, but the best money would be to just not add some sort of negative in there (at least it works for me). Really, what does it communicate to the rest of the POF world????
If someone is not your type, thank them for their e mail, and let them know that you are looking for someone a little different.
Personally I have found being kind to anyone no matter their build, looks, or what have you, is a good way to help build these peoples esteems. If a person feels good, they are more inclined to do things to better themself. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 2:16:31 AM |
How is that rude? It's blunt, not rude.
Agree with BrokenMemories. You can't say it's "unfair" for individuals to have personal preferences. You won't change any minds, and that's not usually possible anyway. There wonh't be a match. So pass on it. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 3:21:27 AM | Have you read the countless Threads on here about bbw's ??
They're truly the pits ----- full of cruel,vile comments from men who are repulsed by bigger women.
Ive never read such hateful,hurtful remarks on any other subject in the Forums !!
Ps. Im not even a bbw............. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 3:30:57 AM | Interesting...
You've been here quite a while and you're just NOW discovering that women will post a preference like men do? The horror!!
No one's going to hunt you down and do anything...unless you're into that kinda stuff.
State your preference, ignore those who don't fit into that prefernce or send a thanks but no thanks response, and keep moving.
*Some* of us don't put those types of things on our profiles...some do. It's called a preference/choice/whatever and we all get to have one. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 3:32:51 AM | This is another topic that gets so overdone around here.
Your profile is your profile - do with it as you please. Say whatever you want. Be as specific as you want. Exclude anyone you want.
If you get a little backlash for it, just ignore it.
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Posted: 7/12/2008 3:32:58 AM | Why do you care what some people have on their profile?
If you don't like it move on to another.
It's really not that complicated.
Personally, I'd much have someone point blank state that they aren't into fat chicks instead of the insipid "looking for someone fit and active". Because fat people can be fit and active too.. so that doesn't automatically exclude fat people whereas no fat dudes/chicks need apply is pretty dead on.
Is the problem with the word fat? It's just a word. It's a descriptor.. much like blonde, green, curly. | |
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