| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 3:12:37 PM | | I've not been having any success whatsoever with this and other free dating sites. I'm tempted to give chemistry.com a try. Has anyone here had experience that or another site? What's the review? | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 3:52:38 PM | No the pay sites are definately not worth it in my experience. I dont think it matters if you pay or not, I got the same responses either way, same as you are now.
unfortunately I think to many women on these dating sites either are only half serious, to self flattering or quick to make assumptions before they really know. You can pay money but people online think it is anonomous, and they dont care if they are rude or waste your money. I have paid to speak to ppl, had them accept which cost money and then ignore you. There are way to many rude people online to make it worth while i think. I am interested in talking to ppl to find out who i am not interested in. I think many females are only interested in talking to Mr Right, and like to guess and assume who that might or might not be, instead of finding out first hand. I know there would be expections but from personal experience they dont weigh up to make it worth while. | |
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seanjc
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Joined: 12/29/2007
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:11:22 PM | | Not to mention they're waaaaay over-priced. For example, eHarmony charges almost $60 for one month. Sure some folks do meet their SOs on them, but not everyone. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:23:58 PM | | I was on two paid site...match and yahoo..but they are all basically on the free sites too..keep your money. They pay people to email you ..just to keep you interested and keep paying. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:41:52 PM | The thing I hate about paid sites is that people can sign up and make a profile without paying, you just can't respond or email anybody. So if you pay and then search for people, you're going to find alot who haven't paid and they can't respond to you if they're interested. So basically you're paying to send emails to people who can't write back. You might as well sit around emailing yourself. Grrrrrr.
If I ever pay for any site again, eHarmony would be the only one. Even though they do the same, I like better than chemistry.com or match.com. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 5:35:34 PM | I used lavalife about three years ago. My contact / response rate on that was about the same as what I've experienced on POF, so I don't think I'll bother with pay sites anymore. In addition, I think paysites tend to foster a sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectations in a lot of people. They may approach the idea of seeking a mate like buying an item out of a shopping catalogue, thinking "I'm paying good money, so I deserve the best."
With the success of free sites like POF, I don't think the paysites are going to be able to stay competitive for much longer. They'll have to either drop their fees and become a free site or fold altogether, but that's just my opinion. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 5:45:00 PM | well it depends on what your looking for and what the site has to offer . myself i live too far away from a major city for a dating site to really be effective . so for me its definity not worth the money .
but it depends on your situation and numerous other factors . | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 5:48:52 PM | | I have heard a ton of success stories off of EHarmony, thats the only one that I have really heard alot of positive success results on. | |
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armbar
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Joined: 10/14/2006
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 6:04:56 PM |
The thing I hate about paid sites is that people can sign up and make a profile without paying, you just can't respond or email anybody. So if you pay and then search for people, you're going to find alot who haven't paid and they can't respond to you if they're interested. So basically you're paying to send emails to people who can't write back. You might as well sit around emailing yourself. Grrrrrr.
I agree and most paysites...women can join for free and have all the bennefits without paying.
I think that paysites would work better if everyone had to pay.No free profiles etc.That way only serious people would join and wouldn't be wasting anyones time or money .Cause they would be wasting they're own also.
As for eHarmony been there for a while and women treat me pretty much the same as here.Show interest..then just stop comunicating.Very frustrating... | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 7:04:10 PM | No, I tried Yahoo some months back for a bit and it's no different from these free sites as you'll just be spinning your wheels.
Keep your money. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 7:17:57 PM | | i am a paying member on singlesnet and i have met several from there. I went out with a wonderful guy yesterday and had a ball. And we plan on seeing each other again. So it was worth it to me. As long as the person your interested in is a paying member you can email and not have to pay. But one of the two has to pay. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 7:21:02 PM | OP
Don't listen to the Debby Downers :-)
I looked at your profile and that match dot com place you may actually be ok. Your young enough not to have to worry about serious relationships, children, ex husbands and other random pyscho stuff that older singles have to deal with. You have an obvious long term direction in life.
Chemistry is a marketing scam by match. Been there.. ummm.. am there. There is no searching. You get 5 matches sent to you a day. No fishing. You either choose to contact or trash. And you must make the hard choice of contact or archive or "no matches for you!"
match is the largest and well, bigger pond type of thing. This site is a wading pool. Get your profile reviewed by the awsome people in the review sectioin (who have declined my request for latest revew btw :help ) and use this site to experiment so you can get yourself in shape. Who knows, you may get a break here also. | |
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alrion
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Joined: 12/29/2007
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 10:05:22 PM | E-Harmony was a total waste of time and money. They sent lots of 'matches' (according to them) but they weren't really matches. Also, they 'match' you with people who haven't even signed up for the site and so you can think someone might be a good match but when you try to communicate they are not a member. I also found on more than one occasion that I was sent multiple profiles that were virtually identical - so the age was a little different perhaps but the likes and dislikes etc. were so similar it wasn't funny. I'm talking about almost the exact same wording being used even though a like or dislike might be a little quirky - so it was clear to me and others to whom I showed the profiles that 'someone' was manufacturing false profiles. I'd contact E-Harmony by phone and e-mail and they wouldn't get back to me. So I'd contact them again and mysteriously during that time the profiles would be changed. I was not impressed, let's leave it at that!
I find it hilarious when people write on POF that they're going to try the paid sites because they're bound to be better - after all, you get what you paid for they say. How does that work when many of the same people are on multiple sites? | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 10:48:02 PM |
The thing I hate about paid sites is that people can sign up and make a profile without paying, you just can't respond or email anybody. So if you pay and then search for people, you're going to find alot who haven't paid and they can't respond to you if they're interested. So basically you're paying to send emails to people who can't write back. You might as well sit around emailing yourself.
That's because they start off by making it sound like it's free, then after you sign up and try to e-mail someone then they spring the "You have to pay $X to e-mail people," then make it a pain in the ass to remove your profile. I just make my profile blank, or if I can't do that I just say "I don't use this site." | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 10:58:56 PM | DO NOT join ANY pay sites,they are all scams.
For example,I joined one called Horny Matches as a standard or free member.
Was then enticed by fake profiles and auto messages to upgrade so I could E mail other members.
Did so for a month and only received cryptic replies,some exactly the same from different members.
No one wanted to meet or go on webcam though.
Better off sticking with free sites IMO at least all you have to lose here is time. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/13/2008 11:17:08 PM | Just save your money and stick with POF, When I first started to use internet daiting in 2005, I started on yahoo personals, well I ended up meeting my ex fiance , but overall it was a waste of money, ok it was 100% waste of money LOL
Doesnt matter what site you use, free vs pay, its all going to be the same, the people are going to be the same.
One other note, I tired to use other free dating sites, but POF is by far the best, but what I noticed was every site had the same people on them. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/14/2008 12:14:13 AM | I still stand by what I said.
OP, your looking to become a Dr. Your 25 and going to Med School. Get your profile reviewed here and if your looking for someone to hang with, school would probably be 100x better then an online site but your going to find people worth dating on that match site. Just get your profile reviewed and get rid of the kind of geeky stuff. I can't give you much help with that because I'm old, jaded, pathetic and cynical. :-)
If the cost of the site is a major concern then don't do it. If its not a big deal who cares.
Well, I guess the other possible site that you could try is what is popular at the school. They know better then anyone on this site.
Don't take dating so seriously. You have other things to do.
I have tried several. Match is the largest. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/14/2008 12:30:45 AM | | This site is hardly worth it so why pay? Probably have better luck at the produce section or the library lol. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/14/2008 12:45:14 AM | OP, listen to aries he knows what he is talking about if you are trying to became a Dr. you dont want to be bothered by a girlfriend. Just hang out with the girls at school.
I know from experience that all the dating sites are the same. Just watch out for the scammers on the paid sites there is a lot of them....
Hope you have better luck than I have.....
Peace out... Sparky. | |
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medana
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Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 25 | |
| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 7/14/2008 2:44:10 AM | i've been doing online dating since the year 2000. paying sites only worth it if they are specialty sites, like elitemeeting, sugardaddie or redlightcenter. mainstream dating sites r not worth paying for, at least not one that i have seen?
actually, i am wrong, there is one - hotornot. that one is great because it's so simplified, and it's $6 not $20 or more, and if one of the two is paying member convos r possible.
i agree w the ones w free profile but inability to respond... it's a trick, i go thru all that work, u tell me it's free, then i can't do s.h.i.t. w all that work, since am not gonna pay, so if they end up like that
POF is great, i love it | |
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