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Posted: 9/23/2004 6:29:34 AM | Ok where does one draw the proverbial line when it comes to age difference. I ask b/c I potentially have a date this weekend but she's WAAAY younger than me. Like 10 years younger.
If, I were 50 & she was 40 I wouldnit thing much of it. H3ll, if she was 10 yrs older than me, I'd be flattered! But, thing is I'm only 28! SO..... yeah that's right she's 18!!!!
OK would anyone else feel like as much of a perv as I do now if they were in this situation? BTW, she contacted me so, I feel a little less weird but still. 18. D*mn that's young! I guess what I'm asking is should I go? Just some opinions would be nice cause I really don't know what to do. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2004 6:50:42 AM | Alot of it depends on how she acts. There are alot of 18 year olds that act like they are older...just with there thought processes and such. Therefore it might work out. Just be careful though because she is only 18 and she might not know exactly what she wants yet out of life. I know that that was how I was when I was 18 and I'm only 22 now and I'm still not for sure sometimes.
I can understand though kinda what you are goin' through. I'm talkin' to a 35 year old and like I said I'm 22. There is an age differenc there....a rather large one but we do get along rather nicely.
Just go for it...if you like the girl...and she likes you...heck why not!!!! Others might think differently though. But in the end it's your choice darlin'! :)
I hope I was of some help...if not...I'm sorry! Good luck though!
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Posted: 9/23/2004 10:54:57 AM | yeah, I know age doesn't really matter, it just feels kinda odd. It seemls like this happens a lot to me though. I don't know why but it's never anyone even close to my age. Also have a couple of ladies interested who are closer to my mothers age than mine! Oh well, may as well play the WHOLE field.
Havn't had much luck on at all on POF yet(still workin up the nerve to message a few) but hey, the forums kick maximum @ss. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2004 1:30:11 PM | Be aware Romeo, she migt be even younger and lie about her age.
You're sure she's eighteen?
Tom | |
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Posted: 9/26/2004 5:16:58 AM | | ah man, this ain't wrong. So long as you're both honest and open minded about it, you're gonna have a blast. Enjoy it buddy! | |
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Posted: 9/26/2004 5:23:15 AM | | It all relative man maybe she is a mature 40? | |
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Posted: 9/26/2004 5:40:26 AM | | Oh wait I read that again .. shes 18 ahhh I see your dilemma. well if she acts mature.. go for it i guess. I have only dated one that was that much younger than me and we had a great time together but it didnt work out because she had no real life experince. So it was hard for her to relate to me when I wanted to talk. She just wanted to make love and drag me to the next party. I am all for that but there has to be alot more to keep my interst .. what about you. | |
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Posted: 9/26/2004 3:58:11 PM | | Did you say 18? You Need to think about this one a little longer. Maybe long enough until she is 25...maybe? LOL | |
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Posted: 9/26/2004 5:15:09 PM | | imho, an 18 yo girl is easy to have control over, doesnt know who she is yet. is that what attracts you to her? They dont know yet that having someone control them is not healthy for themselves. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2004 8:41:40 AM | | no, it's not a contoll thing. I'm just not trying to limit myself on options. That's ,however, actually one thing that kinda worried me. It's like she was amost looking for an older guy for some reason. I talked w/ her a bit & we never really connected. I don't know really why I was going to go out. Just seemed like she was interesting & funny. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2004 11:13:30 AM | | There are plenty of girls out there in their late teens, early 20s who always go for the older men. I'd say it's a "daddy complex" or something, but that's not necessarily it all the time . . . although it can be. Take for instance the girl I'm dating now. She's 23, I'm 27. Not that big of a deal. The last guy she was serious about was 35, though - and that was a couple of years ago. What the hell is that? | |
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Posted: 9/27/2004 5:57:41 PM | | Age is just a number. Go out and enjoy yourself and since you find her interesting she might be matured too.. If you find she is not what you are looking for then so be it at least you give yourself and her a chance. Otherwise when you look back you may wonder if you have missed the boat.. | |
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| age difference...
Posted: 9/27/2004 8:10:55 PM | | i'm in a situation now that's kinda like yours...I mean my boyfriend is 26 and im 21, not a big difference...at least I dont think so...but he acts like it's such a huge deal sometimes. Although i'm very mature for my age and I do tell him this...he still says that same line "you're 21 and I feel like i'm taking you away from experiences..." What he means by experiences, I have NO idea, but seriously, if she likes you and you like her equally, there should be no issue of the age factor. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2004 8:35:50 PM | | Um, yeah, 5 years at your age doesn't mean a heck of a lot, especially since most women mature faster than guys do. I know I'm 27 and I'm still debating what I want to do with myself. Not sure why he'd see such a difference there. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2004 1:34:05 PM | | This is my first day at this on-line thing I enjoy hearing all these opinions I am 47 and over the last 2 years since my divorce I have dated 3 girls one was 23 one was 27 and one was 21 we dated from 3 mo to 1 yr with the 23 yr old I am not an old perv not looking for a long term relationship each one of these young "ladies" are very special to me still and we always had a wonderfull time togeather go for heck it will probaly beat anything else you were going to do that night | |
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Posted: 9/28/2004 1:48:57 PM | | you could go out with her just remember that it will never turn into anything long term (more than a couple of years) If it does turn into long term there will be a good chance of stress on the relationship due to the fact that she has never lived on her own and learned who she is and how to be self dependent. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 9:58:50 AM | | I have seen people in love,not a bs love but the real deal.Some as far apart as 25 years going strong.Getting old together know.You do grow to each other if in love.They endured a lot.So i know love will last seen it,theres hope. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 12:13:41 PM | | Like someone else said, if she's mature for her age then why not? 28 isn't old either. By all means, take her out and have a great time. But be sure she IS 18, she could have lied just to get on the site or be 'legal' to message you, lol. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2004 5:06:55 PM | | I am 19 myself and I prefer older guys, I feel that age is nothing but a number its how the person acts and treats you not how old they are. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2004 4:57:40 AM | Well. I've given some time for the "weirdness factor" to fully sink in & haven't mssgd to her in a while just to give each of us some room to think. But, she mssg'd me last night saying that I never called & stuff so, she's still interested. I got her number agian & am gonna give her a call later today. I'm mature enough (I hope) to not put her in a bad situation & not make a whole ordeal out of the life experience thing.
However, that is one thing I DO think about. I mean I've been around & seen & done a lot. I pretty much am the wild child. Been rode hard & put away wet for most of my life. I'm a tattood, heavily pierced , a little wild, hard-core guy; which seems to be something that younger women seem to go for. It's weird, I used to try and hide being different from the "norm" & had no luck. Changed all that & started to embace my "alternative" style & bam. It's like night & day. Can basically go out w/ whomever I like. Go fig, huh? Thing is however, I'm not really looking for the casual sex that most of `em are looking for. Don't get me wrong, sex is fine, I just think that there oughta be a little more! | |
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