| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 7:33:21 AM | How willing are people to put themselves in danger to get a date? Something happened to me yesterday that really makes me wonder.
I had lunch with a man from POF (no, he wasn't the danger); we didn't click, and after lunch, I went to a couple of places to shop. The first was Barnes & Noble where I chatted briefly with a man in Starbuck's while I drank an iced mocha, then left and went to Target. On leaving Target's parking lot, I noticed a note under my windshield wiper. Thinking someone had dented my car and left insurance info, I pulled off the road to retrieve the note.
It was an invitation to call or "come by" a man's motel room.
I had no intention of doing so, but my curiosity was piqued and I did call. What kind of man leaves a note on a windshield? Did he think I was a prostitute?
I called. He wanted me to come to his room to "have a soda." My curiosity did NOT extend that far! He said that he saw me in B & N but hadn't "exactly" followed me to Target.
Creepy.
How many women would have gone? Men, do you try to find dates like this???
Should I feel creeped out? I have had men try to pick me up from Wal-Mart to convenience stores, but nothing like this ever happened to me before. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 7:39:04 AM | lotta creepy people in the world... no, i would never attempt anything like that - why would you even consider calling ?  | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 7:39:38 AM | I can not imagine anyone who would have gone.
You should have given the note and number to the nearest cop, it might be someone they are already looking for. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 7:46:00 AM | | Well first of all it didn't really sound like he wanted a "date" with you. Basically he just wanted you to come back to his hotel so you could fck. The creepiest thing happened to me a couple days on my space. A man actually found out through my pictures on there where my house is and has been messaging me telling me he knows which house and has been driving up and down my street to see if I am outside. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 7:57:45 AM |
why would you even consider calling ?
I am a writer, and everything is fodder for stories. I was, most simply put, curious. I blocked my ID when I called, and it went through the switchboard, so he wasn't going to call me back or trace me through my number.
It also makes me wonder, how many people watch us when we are never aware that they are doing so? | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 8:11:10 AM | ~OP~ Ekkkk. How did he know what car you were driving?  That screams ickiness to me. Not to mention dangerous for you or anyone else he comes into contact with. It's really easy in your particular state and in mine to run a public records search on auto license plates. (Awww, the glory of PO Boxes as addresses!) I don't know, personally, I wouldn't have called that number if I needed a hotel room ~ but that's just me.  | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 8:35:27 AM |
. How did he know what car you were driving?
Yeah, how DID he know? I thought of that, as well. I don't have a P.O. box and I am sure he didn't follow me home because I live in a rural area where I would have seen a car following me. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 8:55:31 AM | I would not have gone to the hotel room, but I certainly would have called and thanked him for the interest. While chatting, would have asked all the questions you are asking here. How, what, when, where and why?! What his name was, new to town etc.
I would want to know the answers for sure. That would tell me if he was creepy or not. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:10:45 AM | | Yes, you should feel creeped out. He followed you, put a note on your windshield. He probably has your car's license number. Very creepy indeed! I'm also a writer, but something as bizarre as that is never worth it -- not even a call in my estimation. I think it's better to use my imagination for a story -- don't need wackos. I'm curious too, sometimes too much, but I try to use my common sense in strange situations. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:22:25 AM | How many women would have gone?
Unless they are insane, I would think none.
Men, do you try to find dates like this???
Umm, no lol. If I was interested in her, I would have approached her in B & N. What he did is creepy, and stalker material. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:41:41 AM | "You should have given the note and number to the nearest cop, it might be someone they are already looking for."
Bingo.
There is only one type of guy who would do something like that. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:49:47 AM | | , that is scary, very scary, i would feel creeped out too | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:11:41 AM | it does sound creepy, not something reasonable people would do to try to interest someone in them.
BUT, I figure, it must work. even if its miniscule odds, it must work. this guy must have had success, or he must have gotten the idea from someone who had success, but somewhere somehow someone must have gone for it......... | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:12:37 AM | If you were to reverse the gender roles I wonder how many men would have called I would bet quite a few of them, I have a had phone #written in lipstick on my window, after leaving a bar, but it was someone I usually already knew. looking just to get together later.
I can understand your curiosity.
I have done it once or twice when I was about 17.
Call the police, I don't think so, they wouldn't bother, there is nothing criminal about leaving a note.
So what the guy found her attractive and wanted to meet her, its the hotel room that makes it sound creepy. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:19:55 AM |
Call the police, I don't think so, they wouldn't bother, there is nothing criminal about leaving a note.
I agree--it really wasn't a matter for the police. He didn't threaten me. It isn't against the law to be creepy. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:20:35 AM | Ok.. do we think this world has become a little paranoid? There are for sure people out there that you should be aware of but..
He did no harm to you.. or your vehicle.
Think maybe he thought you were gorgeous and it's a compliment?
Maybe he was just avoiding a good ol' slap in the face when he asked you back to his room.
I don't think you should worry. Next time.. Don't call! | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:26:18 AM | Gadzooks, no! I would not have gone. Nor even called.
Creeped out? Yes!
I do believe calling the police would have been a good alternative. Especially after you did call him, knew where he was and he admitted to following you to Target. Creepy stalker guy. I'm sure the police would have had some questions for him, or at minimum would have made him feel uncomfortable enough to not do it again. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:31:03 AM | Now I understand why 911 is jammed with calls ^^^^^^
sorry for not staying on topic lol. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:37:32 AM |
Think maybe he thought you were gorgeous and it's a compliment?
Truthfully, I was flattered, but the following part was what got me.
And I am not worried, but nothing like this has happned to me before, and not only was I curious about my "incident," but I am still curious about how often this takes place. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:49:44 AM |
Yeah, how DID he know?
He may have seen you from the time you parked your car and followed you in or he's seen you before and knows what you drive? Either that or he ran a plate from some info he overheard you giving to a cashier. Outside of that, who knows.
On one hand the attention could be flattering, on the other hand it could be a bit over the top to be normal...and could give you the icks.
The world is truly a place that never ceases to amaze me. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 5:55:35 PM | A few good points on here. Firstly, I am sure when you were getting into your vehicle he took note. And he was obviously very much attracted to you or something compelled him to "not exactly follow you" there. Who knows if it was shyness or he just couldn't get your attention in the parking lot. Yes, the hotel thing does sound a little crazy. I am not sure about meeting guys at hotel rooms at all, much less someone whom leaves me a note.
As for the calling him, I can understand. Curiosity is something that often times gets the best of us. Besides, if there was a true cause for concern with this guy, you may have been able to detect it during the phone conversation.
So, all in all; Creepy, OH YEAH!!! I wouldn't have gone and I don't know of anyone off hand that would have. I like to think I have SOME common sense. But, you think if there is someone crazy enough to offer it, there is someone crazy enough to accept the invite. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 6:19:28 PM | Hi Gwendolyn
Leaving a note because you think someone is hot is NOT criminal nor creepy in and of itself, in my book...its the hotel room invitation that makes it creepy/scary. I dont know what type of woman he expected to actually have gone to see him???
I'm like you Gwendolyn...I like understanding "why"...Social Psychology fascinates me.....I too would have called, but from a blocked number, if only to get inside his head and at least learn whether he's actually dangeous to me or not...I'd have asked how DID he know which car is yours? My guess is that he's seen you around town before, or maybe when you got out of your car to go into B & N...maybe that's why he went INTO B & N too???
I've had guys leave notes on my car by the beach, market, gym, etc....
At one job years ago, after work, I'd come to my parked car to find a long stem rose and a poem about me on it...this went on for several days til the person finally revealed who they were...we ended up going out for while and he was the most romantic guy!!!) not scary, not dangerous...just really shy, but very cute and romantic!
I too, once left a note on a guy's beach cruiser while he was in the health food store...I'd seen him all day all over the city and thought he was so cute!...we ended up dating a few times, but there were spirituality differences, yet we're still friends to this day! Turns out he's a trainer and we both know a lot of the same people in town....it can turn into a good thing...you never know~!
We have to remember, (guys and girls with pics)....everyday, our pics are up here...
many people log into POF who dont have pics, or just to cruise around the site....and these people then see you in public..they KNOW you, but YOU don't have the same advantage that they do, because they've no pic posted....
they give you this wierd look...I've seen it before...like they KNOW you...I cant prove that they've read my profile, but there's just this STRONG deep gut feeling that they know much more about me because of having read my profile...all from that look they give me...like they want to say something and just stare at me...I smile, hoping they will talk, but they don't say anything...it can be awkward...
I sometimes wish only those with pics could look at your pics/profile
likewise,
Those without pics would be forced to interact only with others WITHOUT pics....
Just a thought...
Have a great day everyone!!!
Dance | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 6:26:23 PM | You should have called an escort service and had a "professional" meet him at his room...
But hind site is always 20/20... | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 6:44:56 PM |
Creepy.
How many women would have gone? Men, do you try to find dates like this???
Should I feel creeped out? I have had men try to pick me up from Wal-Mart to convenience stores, but nothing like this ever happened to me before.
The fact that you called him makes me think if he had better conversation you may have met him.
Most people would have tossed the not and checked their rear view mirrors and taken all kinds of turns going home out of worry, not call the dude up and see what he had to say. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/14/2008 7:04:43 PM |
Men, do you try to find dates like this???
Umm... NO! | |
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