| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/15/2008 6:16:12 PM | | Im not sure how everyone feels on this subject,but this is my take on it.I meet someone ,we date,we spend quality time together and feel eachother out,after a week I evaluate ,or way the possitives to the negatives and decide if I want to continue the relationship.Am I being too critical too early or am I saving feelings between her and I early enough to cause the least amount of damage,?My question is ,how long do you date before breaking it off or taking it to the next level? | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/15/2008 6:20:59 PM | | My 2 cents is that you should just keep doing what works for you until it doesn't. | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/15/2008 6:25:57 PM | | Im hopeing that Im not being too critical too soon ,dont get me wrong Ive been wrong for a number of ladys also and it always seems to fall in that time frame,Im wondering if this happens to others or am I just going about it the wrong way cause up to this point ,it has'nt turned out so well,lol. | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:13:03 PM | | No.......I think if after seeing and conversing with a woman for a week, and you want to walk away........there was nothing there for you. It's when you can't wait to see and talk to her again, and she's on your mind constantly that you want to persue that one. | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:40:05 PM | | How much time are you spending together during that week, talking and getting to know here. I think there can be red flags after one conversation, or one date...or not til after a month into things. So it's always good to stop and evaluate. Just make sure you are man enough to tell her ''i don't see this happening'', and not just disappearing....and if you see it's not going to work, don't sleep with her anyways just to get a few jollies, cuz your name will be mud after that. Not that I think many men care. | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 4:12:21 AM | | hey raiderfan,the time verys,Ive met ladys and knew right off that we were wrong for eachother and we parted ways then ,the week time frame are women that Im attracted to physically and want to get to know there personality and tempermants,alot of things pop up over a week,and ofcoarse if we dont get to spend time with eachother because of our available time for a relationship ,that also factors in.In your opinion is that being critical,or am I just over thinking it?im just worried that we will get too attatched too quick and if there are issues we cant resolve,,we've taken it to the next level prematurely and end up waisting our time,, | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:48:52 AM | | Excuse me for being bold as to ask but I feel as arlie1969 is willing to ask this question I too am curious to know his timeframe, as one of the so called women who didn't make it to level 5 even though I was willing to give up my life in Australia to be with him earlier this year after two months of communication. How do you expect a relationship to work if the first little problem ends with a slammed door?? Maybe arlie69 needs to look at the big picture and do some soul searching before he considers commiting to a relationship in the near future. Life's a gamble if your not willing to take a risk how will you ever know? | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:05:36 AM | I believe there was a trust issue along with distance that came into play hun,we both agreed on that ,but I do feel if we were closer and not half a world apart ,things would have been different ,atleast I hope it would have your a sweet heart  | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:29:57 AM | Pls. ...you put yourself out there for people to respond and this is my response..
Firstly the distance was obvious there's an ocean between us, I was willing to take the risk to commit to a relationship with you. I don't recall agreeing on anything, but I do recall you sending me a goodbye email and end of story. The trust issue between us would not have been a concern had you been honest and upfront. Ask yourself honestly... can you seriously commit to any woman? | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:41:43 AM | | Im gonna take it that you are leaning toward me being too critical,lol,this was a question for all to respond to thank you for your input if you wanna e-mail me justcruzen ,please do ,we have always been able to comunicate,write me if you wanna talk,,as far as being honest ,its what I pride myself on ,Im upfront from the get go,and as far as commitment,I was true to you for 2 months and had never physically met you ,if thats not comitment than I dont know what else to say hun. | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 7:18:51 AM | | I guess after two months there should be a commitment and I don't recall attending any POF get togethers . I feel two months is nothing in comparison to a lifetime of commitment if two people really want to share a life together.. As for being critical which was the original question on this forum... What are your thoughts? | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 7:28:51 AM | | in our case I dont feel I was critical,I felt that it was alot to put on you to make such a dicision ,and felt that ending it would save you the grief I was putting you through ,and by the way you passed every aspect of my criteria,I went to pof gatherings then and now ,Ive never hooked up at one ,thats not what there for,yes some ppl meet and find a relationship out of it,but in my case I dont go there looking for love just input... | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:46:05 AM | | arlie, I don't think you can date, spend quality time together and evaluate in one week LOL. Usually, you have a date. After that, you set another date and so on if both agree. Spending quality time is anything from shopping, zoos, watching TV together, discussions, etc. Still don't think that can be done in one week. Also, meeting family comes in. Again, don't think you would meet somebody and run home with them and say this is my soul mate. Now, the amount of time depends on the circumstances of togetherness and both feelings. Not a week LOL | |
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| the first week ,critical?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:33:33 PM | thanks cajun I believe I may be meeting them too soon and should ask more questions pre date and hopefully I can stop the madness,lol,,your such a wise man,,, | |
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