| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/16/2008 12:39:54 PM | It seems almost unreal, to sit here and think "wow I'm 32" where did the time go. I use to just look at a girl and think, ok she's kind of attractive. Took a while to approach and even express but now every woman that comes this way I have to look down to the ring finger. Things change in you. I feel this desire to settle, to be a parent and I don't recall that at 23 or so. To find someone that seems to understand my mind more then my personality. I still believe in attraction and chemistry but today it seems everyone that has it, has to be looked at like a potential mate. Until life points it otherwise.
Am I crazy? Do I just over think? I don't know but I'm 32 and I haven't been in the dating scene in years. | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/16/2008 12:49:37 PM | Yep, I hear ya.
It's not so bad though. Just know that now is the time to really start to think about settling with the right person, if that is what you want. | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/16/2008 4:05:34 PM | Did you really mean to say "Settling with the right person"...
You should never settle for anyone... if you have a great connection, than decideing to be with them is great... but don't settle... you'll never be happy, and you'll always wonder... what if... | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/16/2008 4:35:08 PM | | I cant speak for him....but I'm thinking he meant settling down with the right person. You know....make a life together. | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/16/2008 5:29:57 PM | You're not crazy...just human. I think that most of us when were in our 20s just want to go out and experience life and all that it has to offer. But when we hit 30, we start to look at find that right person for us, settling down and having a family. I've gotten to the point where I just want to find that right person for me, settle down, get married and have a family. The partying and dating that I did in my 20s no longer interests me.
Good luck in your search!  | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:10:07 PM | ok canadianchic2006 your right, but maybe I am being too picky in my search and discounting great options, great women that may have clicked with me if I only had considered her qualtities beyond those that are skin deep,
Misha | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:57:52 PM | at only 32 I would hold out for another few years yet for the right person, else in a few years time you'll have baggage with you when next you search for someone new. I dont think people settle for anyone even in their 50s or 60s, certainly not 40s as we are all feeling younger nowadays then a generation used to. My mom keeps telling me to slow down, not do so much hard work etc because she thinks I am getting old, but at 40 I feel as fit as at 30. And before I got a ring on someone's finger I felt that my dating opportunites were as wide as they have ever been. Lots of people have tried it once and failed and are trying again, you are sure to find someone right for you, if you look everywhere, which means not just online.
love and peace
hug someone new today 
regards from 40, defender of the faith, the weak and the ridiculous. | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/17/2008 12:08:39 AM | | I feel you Just a Country Girl, been there done that. Now if I can only find the perfect gal. It's tough out there, especially here in Miami, but I'm sure it's like that in every city. | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/17/2008 12:39:31 PM | I think it's tough in big cities, because you're always anonymously rushing.
No one knows you, people assume that you're hot therefore either conceited or taken.
And in relationships there is no pressure to work out your issues, because next hottie is waiting the moment you waltz away from a disagreement with your current squeeze. 
Plus work.. career competition to think of. So much time spent at work.
So easy to lose yourself in the crowd. So much temptation. Parties all over.
It's hard to focus on being with one person for some guys.
In less populated areas the trouble is probably more in meeting the one than keeping them.
Or am I wrong? | |
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| Dating over 30 ....
Posted: 7/17/2008 1:27:04 PM | | No freaking way will I ever "just settle". If I did I think I would always wonder, and I still do wonder...................................... | |
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