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Posted: 7/16/2008 1:50:48 PM | Does it show interest when you send a message and you see that it hasn't been deleted?
I 've tried very hard to put a lot of thought into any messages I send to anyone .I try to give a general description of who I am and what excites me what I am passionate about and what makes me unique and special and what kind of woman I am hoping to meet and write it in a style that isn't too over the top but tries to show that I am geniune and anxious to at the very least begin a new friendship. | |
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| Does it show interest when
Posted: 7/16/2008 4:59:04 PM | Do a thread search, this topic is redundant.
Just remember if a man or woman is interested, they'll let you know | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 5:18:19 PM | | Some people are just to lazy to clean out their inboxes and don't delete messages. Form letters sent to everyone, no matter how impressive, are just form letters. I'd rather get a simple hello than a form letter. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 8:52:06 PM | Sometimes I will read a message a few times, read the profile, go back to the message. Keep it in the box for a few days, Read it again. Then decide if I want to reply. I also work night shift on the weekends, so, sometimes, I will leave emails to be given serious thought the following Monday. Very rarely do I reply right away. One reason, I want to make sure he is not going to send me an email every other hour or day to make sure I got the first ten.
I say, if it's not replied to in a week, she wasn't interested. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 9:02:03 PM | | This is only me, but I very rarely delete an email. I'll typically only delete an email if the writer was overly rude or obnoxious. Personally, I really, really wish POF would do away with the "Read/Unread/Deleted" status on messages. All it ever seems to do is cause anxiety and frustration. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 11:09:34 PM | | thank you gor that perspective I never really thought of it in that light but certainly would work at weeding out the needy types and the ones that have questionable motives . Thank you for your opinion it does explain what I sort of thought might be a possibility but needed a different point of view | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 1:00:20 AM | Does it show interest when someone leaves ALL the solicitors' doorknob hangers on the door? And all those little bags of rocks with landscaping cards? And business cards stuffed in the door jamb?
Does it show interest when these are never removed and just pile up on the doorstep and blow about in the wind and rain? Is there a chance for these solicitors that came unbeckoned with their lame cards and gimmicks?
Does it show interest when a refridgerator magnet with a plumber's ad on it is used to hold up a photo of a friend? Does it show interest to use free holiday return address tags that come from your bank?
I wonder....so many overtures....!!!  | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 1:09:05 AM | OP, one of the things I look for when I get a letter is if a man is sincere. If I go to his profile and both roses are gone I figure he is sending them out to people he hasnt established any type of relationship with, which appears needy, especially if he isnt on anyone's favorites. Granted in the past 30 days you could have met someone and sent them the gifts and things not worked out, in that case I have no desire to be a rebound.
I also dont like to be burdened by other people's life. You have a profile that you can put the information that makes you feel you are passionate and unique and special. So if you want to be taken seriously...take yourself seriously...imagine getting 10 emails a day like yours...a person goes into overload and just says screw it and moves on to something else vs having the CHORE of deciding how to handle the emails. You could put in the email why you feel this person meets what you are looking for vs telling them what you want...they shows you have invested something of yourself by actually reading their profile. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 1:26:06 AM |
Does it show interest when you send a message and you see that it hasn't been deleted?
For me it mean "You were not rude enough to be deleted. I will try to respond with polite thank you when I have time. But if you have not getten a respond by now or a day, I am probably not interested." | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 3:35:52 AM | I do not delete messages unless they are particularly stupid. Generally I am happy for them just to delete themselves after 30 days and save me the hassle. Reading but not replying does not imply interest.
Apologies to the people I just plain forget about though, some people I do mean to reply to sooner or later, particularly those from the forums. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 5:15:44 AM | I respond to most of the emails I get and if I read but don't respond, it is because I received a word word message or one with  or  or and I'm unsure what the proper response would be. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 4:20:34 PM | | I was interested in you SpiceyCougar. I still cant figure out why you blocked me though. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 4:22:45 PM | sapphireeyes, as much as that make sence it is not all that true.
If I go to his profile and both roses are gone I figure he is sending them out to people he hasnt established any type of relationship with, which appears needy, especially if he isnt on anyone's favorites.
The reason I say this is that I did sent a rose to someone who is on my favorite list. We never met in person, we never had feelings for another other than finding a great person in each other, and we never talked dirty to each other. When I started to read the forums I read alot of what she commented on. I found her input to very valuable and of great thought. I asked her for advice on helpingme with my profile one day and she helped me. After I was finished writting my profile she said she liked it very much and suggested minor changes. With her advice I had more responces than before. I value her friendship and she is the only person who left a testimonial. And with her help/advice I sent her a rose as a token of my appreciation.
back to you OP,
Some will return message, some will not. Some leave them in there as a previous responder said and let them delete themselves. Some may save them as a back up. So many reasons but not told directly. Maybe a way for more intrest is keep your email shorter and let your profile fill in the information after they look at yours. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 4:32:00 PM | Absolutely! Plan the wedding now and avoid the rush! N O T !
I'm certain women do it just to drive men like you crazy, post threads
about it and get arrested for posting a redundant topic! lol
Read up on it! It can mean just about anything! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 8:36:50 PM | | well thank you for your enlightened opinion but I guess i was just hoping that it might men interest but you know what you have just gone and proved a theory right everyone as an A****le and an opinion thank you for reminding me | |
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| Does it show interest when
Posted: 7/18/2008 8:41:31 PM |
Just remember if a man or woman is interested, they'll let you know
Ding! Ding! Ding! We have a winner! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 11:10:02 PM | | Just because she read the message and didn't delete it doesn't mean she will ever write back. I don't delete any messages I get...no reason really other than I can't be bothered..lol Some I reply and some I don't...I am guessing most women are the same....just don't take it to heart. | |
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| Does it show interest when
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:31:33 AM | No, OP it doesn't show interest when you see that your message hasn't been deleted and just sits there in the inbox. Don't get excited about the fact that your message hasn't been sent to the "trash".
Like others have responded.........some just let the system delete them at 30 days. Don't sit around waiting on a reply.......ever.
And if you ever see "read/deleted", move on and don't wonder WHY they read and delete without responding to you. It means "not interested." Just thought I'd throw that in because I see another thread coming if this happens to you. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 5:46:58 AM | Tell you what....
After you send a message go to your sent window and delete your sent message. That way you have no idea if it was read/deleted or if it is just sitting there... the only way you know if she is interested is if she mails you back... as it should be.
~Charmed~ | |
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