| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:19:14 PM | I have been communicating with a lady via POF from China for a few weeks. She seems great. Has anyone had any experience of scams and con artists communicating with Westerners to try to rip them off?
I am well aware of the scammers from Russia and other Eastern European. Hence I am very suspicious.
Would be interested to compare note with anyone else developing something with a Chinese lady! | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:23:15 PM | | do you consider a dowery a scam?.............immigration wait times [coff, coff, bribe,coff] a scam?........sponsoring the whole family or sending cash back "home" a scam?...............oh and "all" out of country girls love older men........lol | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:32:37 PM | Welllll....I am not trying to make any enemies, but the few who I have had the *cough* pleasure of exposure to in the forums...seem like all they are seeking is a trip to the U.S. and a hubby..probably so they can then b1tch about how their husbands are controlling, domineering, and want a geisha for a wife?!
I also know a realllly great guy who was in the military...brought his wife back from one of the Asian countries and she ended up carrying on an affair with someone for YEARS, got her daughter sent over after a 4 or 5 year absence, and then divorced him and took everything.
Now, are ALL Asian women as such?? OF COURSE NOT. However I would be EXTREMELY leerie of online situations...and realllly listen to those red flags! | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:38:10 PM | I have not run into any from china but I would say if she ask for money, its a scam.
If she professes her undieing love for you with out knowing you for long, than its a scam.
These scammers will tell you everything you want to hear and make you feel like your on top of the world. Then they will have an urgency need for money. If you don't send it they will try to make you feel bad.
Not saying she is a scammer but use caution and don't let your heart guide you.
I have dealt with many scammers, feel free to email me if you would like to talk. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:52:31 PM | Of course, no blanket statement about Asian women
can be made. I am a very pro-diversity person, however;
it seems the Chinesse women are terribly good at manipulating American men.
They lure men with the "demure me, 10 steps behind" coyness,
then they bleed him dry, or her Mother and entire
family all move in with the new couple.
From personal reports I've seen that the guys feel betrayed,
taken in and foolish. Any man or woman can do this to their other half.
Not sure, we should prejudice each other against one nationality.
What do others think? :angel
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:59:34 PM | | Ni hao, and Aloha Gee, scammers exist everywhere, POF have their own, false presentations, phoney truths, and misleading bio's, smile on, trust a must in any endeavor your choose. I 've been to China twice, and plan on visiting again, lovely place, plenty of grace and beautiful ladies, learn the language, culture and respect, and lol. I have friends in Shanghai, and was previously involved while on my travels, so many beautiful ladies, good looking for me, no cookie's for free, xie xie, peace, R | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:03:40 PM | Of course! All chinese women are scammers. All black males are unemployed (and extremely well-hung). All Irish people are drunks and all of us who post in the forums are providing answers to questions we know absolutely nothing about.  | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:09:23 PM | Thanks for the input!!
I think I am playing this with a high degree of caution. Money has not been mentioned! I find the whole thing amasing as I send an email in English and I get a really well written reply. Apparently a language student translates the reply as my lady can understand English and writes a reply in Chinese to be translated.
I had a mate who was scammed by a Russian girl a couple of years ago (he sent money for flights, idiot) so I know the basic format. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:16:23 PM | OK, let's get this into perspective shall we.
Firstly, I am a Chinese female, but I am not from China...
I am British born, but I also hold traditional Chinese values.
I understand what people are saying when they're querying the sincerity of females from China...and quite frankly, there ARE scammers, who are out to just get a visa out of the country, and it is very common. As to whether you meet one of those, or you meet a sincere one is another matter. I guess it's like meeting the right person, and finding out what they really want from the relationship.
I can't speak for others...but I can tell you a little about the traditional Chinese customs as I know it...and they're genuine. Bear in mind, that I have been brought up in England, so it may not be the complete picture, and it's FYI only.
Yes, there is a dowry from the Groom's family to the Bride's family, and it can be a hefty sum. If you think this is a scam, then don't go for a traditional Chinese girl. However, this isn't the end-all situation...it is still negotiable depending on how stubborn the family is 
It is tradition for the husband to provide for the wife. In the old days, the wife does not need to work. The husband provides for her needs. If she does work, then what she earns is for herself and her family. If the husband can go as far as actually providing for her family as well, it is regarded in high-esteem and basically he gets lots of bonus points in her family's eyes. It's a prestige/status thing.
There are probably other points, but if you are sincere in pursuing a long term relationship with a Chinese girl, find out about her culture, values and beliefs before you commit yourself. If you're not happy with it, then don't pursue. No-one is forcing you to do anything. Like any other girl you meet and get to know...don't hold any illusions or be blinded by stereotypes. There could be that rare diamond in the mountain of glass. You just have to find it. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:25:20 PM | Miss Traditional
Thanks very much.
It is a little early for me to worry about marriage and dowrys etc. I really appreciate your input. I realise that everyone is at risk in any dating/meeting/relationship situation.
Maybe my post is a little naive as not many people admit to making an error. But maybe someone has a lesson they are willing to share.
My question really seeks replies from people with direct experience, such as yourself!
Thanks again. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:37:12 PM |
Um, geisha is Japanese
Um, who cares?! A point was being made...I have no intent of getting a grade on my comments.  | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:39:02 PM | gee305, you are welcome. I am glad my input has shed some light, although it could never really be the answer you seek. It is possible the one you know is the rare diamond, or not, but only time can tell. And only you will be able to find out, unless someone has had experience with the same female in question.
As to experience, I am sad to say I have none. As I said, I was brought up in the UK, so basically, I don't need a passport out of China...I don't want one to get in either. :)
Feel free to ask more questions though if you need to. Happy to be of service. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 4:43:19 PM | You should be as careful as you seem to be about women from China...about any stranger (woman) you meet online.
No one race has more scammers than any other...it's all relative. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:01:22 PM |
Um, who cares?! A point was being made...I have no intent of getting a grade on my comments.
Well, mayhaps you need to do a bit of research so you don't look like a tool when you make a cultural difference... Would you like to be called Canadian if your American? Because you know, some people think they are the same thing. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:03:41 PM | "What do others think? "
If you like Chinese ladies I think thats great. But, why can't you meet one who is already here??
"Would you like to be called Canadian if your American?"
Wouldn't bother me in the least.....Some folks are just too sensitive. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:08:15 PM | I would suspect that their Nationality has nothing to do with it. How can you even determine that the profile they have made is them? Possibly they are American men? Perhaps they are American men who are fat, bald and live in a van down by the River?
I think one must be concerned at all times of not assuming what we see, is what we get. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:19:29 PM | Oh gee!! Isn't America big enuf for you? We have our share of ladies from China right here. You can see what you are buying as well.........(please excuse the sarcasim - I have heard too many stories): | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 7:21:19 PM | {quote]Well, mayhaps you need to do a bit of research so you don't look like a tool when you make a cultural difference... Would you like to be called Canadian if your American? Because you know, some people think they are the same thing.
Yeah...thanks for your advice, sweetums...however, if you read my post where I made the "geisha" comment, you would see, it had nothing to do with culture, or even Chinese/Japanese, for that matter...it was sarcasm...saying that the next posts we will be reading will be that of one of these scammer women complaining that their green card, marriage of convenience, husband was "simply looking for a geisha."
And looking like a "tool"...is that the sharpest one in the shed? Frankly...I am not here to impress others or care if they think I am a "tool" or not. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 7:28:25 PM | | ANYWAY, don't just make assumptions because she's Chinese. Anyone could be a potential scammer until you know otherwise. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 7:57:18 PM | Would you like to be called Canadian if your American? Because you know, some people think they are the same thing.
Most people around these parts refer to Canada as 'America Jr' or the '51st state'. It might be offensive for you to be called an American, but really we don't mind being called Canadian. It's like someone saying I'm from Delaware when really I live in Connecticut.
I'm pretty sure the scams have gone global. You have to protect yourself and not give out too much personal information. This goes for messaging someone from China or even the next town over. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 8:06:19 PM | | i've run into some problems, with some aupairs from thailand. looking for instant marriage(i'm talking about the first date). i'm not saying this is the norm, but just watch yourself. anybody that into you, is looking for something else. | |
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