UV777
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Joined: 7/7/2008
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:15:41 AM | | I went off this site a while ago because I was so disapointed in the men on here. I decided to give it another chance and guess what, I've been back for a couple of weeks and here I am scratching my head again. What's up with men on this site? Or what's up with men in general?? You chat online with them and they seem interested then you don't hear from them and you see that they read your email and deleted it but didn't bother to reply?? They seem interested, so what is it? Do they see something better, younger, and don't bother to tell you that you're really not what they're looking for anymore? Really, I'd like to know, maybe someone could save me some time and disapointment, and I don't have to waste my time on here anymore! I've been on dates and the guys "seems" really interested and if I show some interest too he ends up saying I'm going to fast and he's not into instant relationships! What gives? Isd everyone only into casual dating and sex (even though their profiles say "Long Term") or is it ME? I hope someone can shed some light here so I can stay on this site, otherwise I'll have to try some other cheezy way to meet people! | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:21:42 AM | Men all suck.
I know this because I read all the threads like this that tell me we do. I think you should just give up, obviously the problem lays with an entire gender and not you. Just become a hermit, a recluse, a social reject. This way you can avoid having to sully yourself dealing with an obviously inferior gender. | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:28:08 AM | Actually, it makes perfect sense to me.
A long term relationship is just a short term relationship made into a habit. One date becomes two dates, becomes four dates, becomes eight dates, and suddenly you're spending all your time together.
Hopping into your first few dates with the INTENT to have a long term relationship is a serious warning sign to many guys. It's no better than a guy walking into a first date with INTENT to have sex that night. | |
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UV777
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Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 4 | |
| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:30:06 AM | | Thanks for the advice, you almost convinced me there is really no hope outhere! | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:31:28 AM | I'd answer your question, but I don't get it either.
I've met alot of women on other websites, that I could talk with and take seriously.
But this one, I have a hard time with. Which is a shame because its a nice site. | |
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UV777
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Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 6 | |
| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:33:41 AM | | It seems that's what most guys want, and really, there is nothing wrong with sex, but that's not all I want, lol. One more thing, I don't tell the guy I want a long term relationship on the first date, so I don't see why they would be warned! | |
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UV777
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Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 7 | |
| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:44:36 AM | | Ok, everybody forget about this thread, it's a perfect world, you will find true love on this site or any other sites, it's just me, I guess wanting to have a relationship is not the thing to do nowadays. Cheers everyone! | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:46:52 AM | | I think that goes both ways. I'm sure a lot of men think the same thing about women on here, maybe more so because the men probably out number the women 2-1. Don't give up though, all you need is to find one good one. | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:47:22 AM | Ok, everybody forget about this thread, it's a perfect world, you will find true love on this site or any other sites, it's just me, I guess wanting to have a relationship is not the thing to do nowadays. Cheers everyone!
Insufficient validation?
This is the 'Ask a Guy' forum. Posting about how much you hate men in a male question forum is not how you seek validation properly. Try Myspace or something like that if you want validation for your man hatred, it is a friendly environment for that kind of thing.
Good luck in your quest! | |
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UV777
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Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 10 | |
| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:04:22 AM | | Oops, I guess I hit a nerve, I really don't hate men or I wouldn't be here seeking a man, I'd be looking for a woman, darling! I was just asking why some of you behave this way, hence "ask a guy", I'm sorry if you felt singled out! | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:06:34 AM |
Oops, I guess I hit a nerve, I really don't hate men or I wouldn't be here seeking a man, I'd be looking for a woman, darling! I was just asking why some of you behave this way, hence "ask a guy", I'm sorry if you felt singled out!
Ah, the timeless 'between the lines' trick! I may not like you, but I like the cut of your jib. What you lack in abilty to not hate men, you make up for with style and I respect that. Wasted on me really, but I appreciate talent regardless of where it is found. | |
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UV777
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Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 12 | |
| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:11:48 AM | | Crazytimes1, I have to say once again, if I have a lot of reason to hate men, but, reaqlloy I don't, so just let it go, and for your information, I just found out that people on here are friendly as long as you don't post controversial subjects, like this one, I guess the truth hurts, but no hard feelings and best of luck to you too! | |
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UV777
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Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 13 | |
| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:17:09 AM | | I will end this forum now, I can see that this is going nowhere, sorry to even have brought it up. | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:52:50 AM | If you really like the guy you gotta fight for his attention.
Ive talked to girls on here who kind of just wanted to me to do all the work. Ask all the questions, Always message her first, ect. If I'm always making the 1st move how do I even know if this girl likes me or if shes just humoring me.
If a guy doesn't message you back, or always call you, or whatever. Try calling him. | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:53:06 AM | UV777, the topic starting with you saying men in general are ****ed up and you wanted to know why they were, so you wouldn't waste your time with them anymore.
Many posters decided to mess with you here, because they saw a jaded woman. And anyone on the forums for long, knows that jaded folks can't/won't allow themselves to be fixed and eventually leave in disgust.
People who appear jaded are often seen as nothing more than entertainment on the forums.  | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:53:19 AM | Never be sorry for questioning.
Alot of us just have alot going on, we talk to a cutie and are way psyched out and realize a week has gone by and know we have missed out. Not a pointless thread  | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:55:32 AM | Your email restrictions are kind of interesting. You are seeking someone who might be as much as 13 years younger but no more than 3 years older. Older women who look for younger men are, I suspect, often seen as being more interested in a casual fling than in a long term relationship. Perhaps the love of your life is just 4 years older than you and can't contact you... Perhaps he didn't want to put a picture on his profile, or doesn't have a digital camera (do you know what percentage of men in their 50's are internet-savvy? It may not be as high as you think).
From what you say regarding their response of "don't rush me!" when you show interest, I suspect you are coming across as a little desperate to find someone, anyone. I mean -- how many men are you talking about having met and been interested in taking things further with? If you are seeking someone to fill a certain role in your life then perhaps they are picking up on this and would rather that you cared who they are rather than whether they can plausibly step into the role you have in mind. If your repeated feedback is "slow down", doesn't it make the most sense to do that? Take your time to get to know them for real and to allow them to get to know you -- isnt' that what relating to a person is all about anyway? | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:18:57 AM | | What is up with the females in this chat, they have all the choice and pick guys to reply to like a pair of shoes in your vanity closet.... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 5:15:39 AM | I am just as baffled as you are, it is strange. Is it people really don't know what they want or is it they just know they don't want me? | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:24:13 AM | | It's just the way things are. If you have the chance to date offline, then you'll have better luck. | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:33:44 AM | Re the Opost
"...Isd everyone only into casual dating and sex (even though their profiles say "Long Term") or is it ME? ...."
I think that option A may actually be pretty close to what really happens, especially if one bothers to replace "everyone" with "most" (men and women). It is the do as I sau and not as I do "thing", men AND women with lots of lip service on LTRs and the like but a reality that does otherwise! | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:12:19 AM | Ok, so, you were disappointed and went off the site. I don't know why you thought it would be any different when you re-upped and came back to this "jungle".~tilts head~
A lot of women do exactly what you have stated you are experiencing with the men you are coming in contact with. ~shrugs~ It's just a hazard of this medium.
There are some people who come here with too high of expectations and quickly become dissolutioned and more jaded than they were before. There are some who come here to "play" the field and serial date, FWB, FB's and there are some who come looking for their last relationship and truly do want to find it. Ya just have to weed 'em out.
And yeah, some do see "something better" they think and their interest goes by the wayside. People lose interest in one another all of the time......even in the real world. ~sits idly by awaiting the flicker to go off over OP's head~ | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:21:35 AM |
I hope someone can shed some light here so I can stay on this site, otherwise I'll have to try some other cheezy way to meet people!
You can always ram the next cute guy you see in the supermarket with your cart to get his attention lol.
Taking this site seriously is your biggest mistake. Just use it as an avenue to find someone, but dont rely on it. Think of it as entertainment with a chance of meeting someone for you. Now get to the market lol. | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:47:27 AM |
UV777 wrote:
I have a lot of reason to hate men, but, reaqlloy I don't, so just let it go, and for your information, I just found out that people on here are friendly as long as you don't post controversial subjects, like this one, I guess the truth hurts, but no hard feelings and best of luck to you too!
The problem, UV777, isn't your posting what you call a "controversial subject". It's actually not very controversial at all. The problem is, that this topic has been done to death in the forums, and it's just getting ooooooold to respond to the same topics over and over and over again. Conduct a thread search and add your negative remarks about the bad, bad non-responding, bad, bad men (bad!) to one of those many, many threads about this very topic that have already been posted. This is a redundant topic, so expect your thread to be deleted by one of the forum moderators rather sooner than later. Do yourself a favor and familiarize yourself with the forum rules: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4891106.aspx | |
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| What's up with everybody?
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:57:34 AM | The OP's question seems to be "why won't men be just exactly what I want them to be, and do just exactly what I want them to do, and when I want them to do it - automatically?".
I have the same question, of course with the word "women" substituted for the word "men". It's soooo difficult when the whole world doesn't revolve around ME!
Yea, what's up with all the bad women who think it's all about THEM? | |
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