| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:44:48 AM | How many of you have made a date with someone from this site and went there to meet them - and they never showed up?
I've only set up one meeting from the net and we met, it was lovely, and we were and still are just friends. I have yet to speak to someone else I'd like to meet in person. I can't imagine ever standing someone up though, seems quite cruel if they've actually gone somewhere to meet you.
Has anyone here stood up someone (and is willing to admit it?) and why? | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:19:34 AM | Been on almost 3 years. Met TONS of great ladies ! (smooched right now to all those great gals! wink!)
I have had two back out or have change of plans etc... in 3 years. None ever just left me sitting somewhere waiting. Both let me know before hand that something had come up (or whatever....smile).
This seems to happen in a reoccurring pattern though for some folks. The one thing I think I do different is I do not make "spur of the moment" plans. I talk to and really get to know most the gals I plan to meet..... that seems to make a difference. I'm a basically really nice guy and most these ladies become great friends. Its harder to do that to a good friend. Guys take the time to actually get to KNOW the gal your going to meet on here first.
Kindest Regards
Cowboy | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:21:46 AM | | I've been stood up...on a New Year's Eve no less. She offered no explanation, and I never gave her the chance to do it again. I figured if that is the type of person she is, she did me a favour. It really wasn't a big deal, since we had only gone out a few times, but I did think it was a dirty thing to do, especially since we had made plans. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:23:41 AM | | Never stood anyone up or been stood up. Had one woman hide and watch me for 20 minutes before coming over. Didn't understand this, she had a picture posted, so it's not like I didn't recognize her, but she was around a corner in this restaurant behind a large rubber plant. She stood there peeking out every minute or so for like 15-20 minutes. Bob | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:27:07 AM | | I stood up a first date because I learn bad things about him from friend and did not want to see him. Was wrong of me, I should have cancel, but the things I learn were true so I had less guilt. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:44:28 AM | Unfortunately i have been stood up by someone from this site, but it wasent the first meeting we had met twice before and things seemed to well for both of us we had a laugh a nice meal, the second date we went bowling and got a takeaway all very nice, came back to mine for coffee (yes just coffee) sat and listening to the new 'Duffy' cd(which is brillant by the way) all was well kissed him goodnite when he went, he'd already asked me to see him again. Made plans for the monday which he had to cancel because of work commitments, so we swopped it to the thursday of the same week, chatted on the fone the tuesday nite all was well, then the no show on the thursday and not a word since, sent him a message via pof and no response. So who knows i dont understand these guys maybe i was supposed to jump into bed with him and when i didnt he lost interest but i would rather he had just txt me or emailed me to say sorry but not interested.
I also had this happen after id been seeing a guy regularly for 3 months, after we returned from a trip to Rome where he took me for my birthday. A week later he'd dissapeared of the face of the earth never to be seen or heard from again. Please help id like some advice of this matter.
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:49:11 AM | I am at 100% with a decent sample size. I figured it would be worse and have been a little cautious as a result, alway s making backup arrangements should I be stood up. No dramas so far.
Just quietly, there has been someone I would have rather not turned up in retrospect :-( | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:49:58 AM | | Isn't this ironic that this thread should show up the day after I get stood up! This was to be our first date and supposedly we were BOTH looking forward to it with hopeful anticipation. This has never happened to me before. I don't know why I was naive enough to let myself get caught up in all the incredibly sweet things that he had said to me, but it made it that much worse when he didn't call or leave me any sort of explanation. He is a NO CALL-NO SHOW! (Isn't that right DON from Reisterstown?) It doesn't feel nice to be stood up. I would never do it to someone else. We are all supposedly adults here, if you change your mind or something comes up, just TELL the person! | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 7:40:12 AM | | OP I can go one better. Stood up on the first date from a POF member, met the the person in question the second time around, third time was a bust as well. It happens for various reasons some people can't control what they are. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:43:52 PM | Personally, I have never stood anyone up. Although, I did meet one or two that once I caught a glimpse of their personal hygeine (i.e. one had not showered in months and you could lube a car with his hair; the other looked like he had slept in his clothes for a week) - I wanted to bolt.
I have been stood up two different times by two different people, who phoned to say they were going to be there to meet. So, I headed off, got there - no show, no phone calls, no return of phone calls. Now, if I even think the person I am talking with is a gamer - I don't make a date to meet - live and learn! | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:50:05 PM | | I've never stood anyone up, but I called off a first meeting half an hour before the appointed time because I found out the guy was lying about his age. It was someone from another site. I haven't been stood up by anyone from this site, but I've been stood up twice in the last two years. The first really taught me a lesson: don't give up something you'd like to do and drive a long distance to meet someone for the first time. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 3:45:29 PM | Now this goes back 6 1/2 years, but I've only been left hanging twice in that time.
However, cancelled within 24 hours, I would have to say somewhere around 15. And so far, I haven't done either one. And I certainly hope that doesn't change.
Bob | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 5:35:09 PM | Strangely enough, I have been stood up tonight by someone on POF!!
We had arranged a time and place to meet earlier tonight and he said he would call me beforehand. He didn't, so I thought..... is the date on or not? I didn't like to think that if I didn't show he might be standing waiting for me... so i went, and yup, he didn't show - no call, email or anything!
I had turned down offers of dates from two other guys too, to meet this guy tonight and it took me an hour to travel to our meeting place.
How rude. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:55:04 PM | i've been stood up more times then actual girlfriends, i think if i had to put a exact number on it, it would be 8 times being stood up, no phone calls, no nothing, but i still enjoyed myself, and did what i was planning to do anyways.
lets just say that if i get stood up, sucks to be them. i on the other hand haven't stood up anyone then again i'm the one asking for the dates, never the other way around.
and people wonder why i don't get excited about going to meet someone new jeez  | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 5:58:53 PM | sure i've been stood up, by men on this site and other online dating sites...it happens. that's the disadvantage of meeting people online...it's anonymous, and you don't really know what you're gonna get til you meet. no email, msn chat, or telephone conversation will give you the same insight into another person and their character as a face-to-face conversation will...and so, every first meeting is a gamble. i've used online dating sites for about 5 years (2 years before my last long term relationship, and 3 years since) and the number of men who've stood me up is a very small percentage.
i've never stood anyone up...if the person i meet isn't who i was expecting (out of date pictures for example) then i'd still make that contact, have the first meet, excuse myself after an hour, and be polite about it. there's absolutely no reason to ditch someone without an explanation.
i did have a guy who i think ASSUMED that i had blown him off though (not quite ditching since the final plans regarding the where and when hadn't yet been made) -- he had agreed to call me during the evening to solidify our tentative plans, the phone didn't ring, i didn't check, and assumed that HE was blowing me off. 5 hours later i realized that there were messages on my phone, and that he'd called 3 times. turns out it was the first time my cell phone decided to screw up...it has a pattern of just switching to silent while the settings still say the volume is on...it requires being turned on/off every few days to reset it, and is a huge annoyance. of course this had never happened before, and when i finally realized he HAD been trying to reach me and had left a few messages, then of course i called him back. but we've all been ditched and become jaded and distrustful, so he didn't believe me and after that first call and we never ended up meeting and he never answered my emails or calls again. this has always bothered me, because i never intended to ditch him, and feel badly that he thinks that of me. it's easy to assume the worst, but i still try to give people the benefit of the doubt and give second chances...because i know from experience that sometimes sh*t just happens. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:09:37 PM | | I met someone on here, we agreed to meet at Timmy's and he stood me up. Funny thing is, my instinct told me he was going to but I decided to give the benefit of the doubt and went anyways. Stupid, stupid, stupid. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:12:48 PM | | I've been punched, kicked, slapped, pushed, slammed, shot at, knifed,whipped, verbally abused................but I have not been stood up (a few times I wish I had been). | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:24:57 PM | | I've never been stood up, but I just went out with a girl who was stood up the night before by some douche that was trying to get her to come to his place on the first date. I've had a girl cancel on me, on the way down to the date, but we rescheduled for 2 days later (and that date happened). I would never stand anyone up as I'd hate for that to happen to me. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 9:14:47 PM | | I just got stood up tonight! Not sure why yet, but I am sure she probably had a good reason ... I mean, she has two kids and we all know how things can come up all the sudden when you have kids. No biggie, I got to listen to some good jazz music and drank a heavenly carmel mocha, heavy on the whip cream. What? A guy can't like foo foo drinks? | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:42:26 PM | I got stood up last summer by a guy I had been talking to on the phone for a couple of months. He flat out didn't show up, then sent me an email right around the time we were supposed to meet, saying "sorry, I just can't do this". I do believe his wife wouldn't let him come out and play that day. In hindsight, the fact that he would never give me his phone number should have been a huge red flag. Duh.
Interestingly, he's now back up on POF with two different profiles in two different cities with a different marital status listed on each site, AND he has been playing peek-a-boo with my profile.
Uh, Dude ............ WAY lame. | |
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