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Posted: 7/19/2008 6:50:38 AM | Ok short and sweet....."I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you".....Is this person refraining from using the word 'love' because it may be too soon?
I'm back with my man (after a few years).....I won't go into detail, but it's only been 5 weeks since we have reunited he has been doing everything for me.
I love the guy but won't tell him as I feel it's too soon. Is he thinking the same thing?
Girl's and guy's.....Please explain?
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Posted: 7/19/2008 6:58:00 AM | OK...I'll use my ManClub super secret decoding ring for you just this once...
....."I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you".....
Translated, this means....."I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you".....
I can't translate into women's language....after 30 years of devout study of the language I still screw up "Hello"... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:05:20 AM | I'd say take it at face value and don't read anything more, or less, into it. Guys generally tend to say what they mean, and in this case, that's what it appears to be. Don't be concerned with his "motivation"... just listen to what he says.
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:09:03 AM | A man's language and a response from a man and he still can't translate it!
Well I think he might just 'love me'.....Love is such a powerful word and after we have used it several times throughout our lives I think we become a bit more careful and don't throw the word around as much.
It's all good, I think I have translated it myself! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:13:52 AM | And therein lies the problem...if we are honest and clear with you, saying exactly what we mean...you will refuse to accept that it is candid truth and instead insist that there must be some hidden meaning...
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:16:06 AM |
A man's language and a response from a man and he still can't translate it!
Well I think he might just 'love me'.....Love is such a powerful word and after we have used it several times throughout our lives I think we become a bit more careful and don't throw the word around as much.
It's all good, I think I have translated it myself!
In my opinion, if you can't say it... you don't feel it.
Not being able to say "I love you" because of the time element is very immature.... you should have been able to say "I love you, still" before you moved back together. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:19:16 AM | ^^^^^Ok maybe I read it wrong.....Geez you men are strange little creatures. I'll accept he likes me a lot. The whole point of this thread is to look inside a man's brain, and your right, maybe I shouldn't be reading something that is not there. I'll go to my room..... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:22:46 AM | Juliet there are two types of men in this world.
Men who mean what they say and men who are full of sh*t. You know this fella, none of us do. If he's not a full of sh*t type of man, then he means what he says which is!
I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:23:24 AM |
Ok maybe I read it wrong.....Geez you men are strange little creatures. I'll accept he likes me a lot. The whole point of this thread is to look inside a man's brain, and your right, maybe I shouldn't be reading something that is not there. I'll go to my room.....
Ummm...sure.... we're strange. But then again, you're living with a guy (second time around) who can't say "I love you" nor, can you say it to him..... that's strange. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:25:04 AM | He.. really really liked you before...but something went wrong and you split up.
The question is have you both resolved the problem which split you up in the first place, and don't forget,you both loved each other then. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:34:31 AM | Juliet, please take him at his word, nothing more, nothing less. Take it from someone who's been there, done that and made a HUGE mistake in the longrun. But we all learn from our mistakes, or we should anyway. Also, keep in mind that sometimes actions speak louder than does words.
And therein lies the problem...if we are honest and clear with you, saying exactly what we mean...you will refuse to accept that it is candid truth and instead insist that there must be some hidden meaning... Yup, you are right in a lot of cases *Jazz*, we do, do that. We analyze things you say. It's just the way we are a lot of times and that's just the way you are a lot of times. But still we all wonder why each does this. I don't know why that _is_, but it _is_.
I'll accept he likes me a lot. Please do Juliet, because if you don't you could find that you borrow more trouble than you bargained for if you really want to make this work with him. Give him his space and time, you've just begun again. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:36:05 AM |
you're living with a guy (second time around) .....Living with a guy? Mmmmm news to me, when did he move in?
I met this guy 8 years ago and we dated short term. He moved overseas and returned recently. (We have never lived together!).
We got together upon his return to Oz and we had "The talk" and he said at that time that he was hoping we would be together again as he had always had 'feelings' for me.
I certainly CAN say 'I love you', however I don't use the word 'love' willy nilly. I know that the things he does for me make me think that he has these emotions, but before I say these words I want to be sure and I think he thinks the same way. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 7:59:26 AM | Pretty simple, he's not sure he's "in love with you" but probably loves you. That being said, relax, communicate with him, and enjoy the moment.
Don't listen to what a guy says or doesn't say. His actions will speak louder then any words. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:06:13 AM | I'm back with my man (after a few years).....I won't go into detail, but it's only been 5 weeks since we have reunited he has been doing everything for me.
My bad. I interpretted this incorrectly^^^^^ I assumed you were living with him.
But my position is the same.
I certainly CAN say 'I love you', however I don't use the word 'love' willy nilly. I know that the things he does for me make me think that he has these emotions, but before I say these words I want to be sure and I think he thinks the same way
It's just my opinion but, if it's the second time around with this guy and you're hesitant to say "I love you" and he isn't sayig "I love you." that's a red flag - imo. If you love him - tell him. There is nothing "willy nilly" about that... if it's a true emotion. It's immature to think he can't know you love him until you know what he is thinking - you'll never know... he'll never know.
In my opinion... you're just friends; your/his behaviour is indicative of that. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:09:38 AM |
Geez you men are strange little creatures. I'll accept he likes me a lot. The whole point of this thread is to look inside a man's brain
As are women lol. The day that women can figure out us men, and we can figure out you women, the world will probably come to an end.
Anyway, you can always wait to use the L word. Its only been 5 weeks. When and if the the time is right, the both of you will know it. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:10:43 AM | OP, if he didn't mean he loves you in his statement, is your effort in the relationship a waste of time?
Will you change how you act around him from then on? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:20:50 AM | OP, I am not going to scream that you women ALWAYS try to read more than there is but i will point out that i agree with MR. Pants
Juliet there are two types of men in this world.
Men who mean what they say and men who are full of sh*t. You know this fella, none of us do. If he's not a full of sh*t type of man, then he means what he says which is!
for me when it comes to your "women language" i like to use the phrase "it's greek to me." As far as ive seen most women who are genuine in nature have a habit of send hints to a guy that he will never understand, or talking about a different subject when really meaning something else etc etc. Me on the other hand, and most of the guys tha i know, we are about as sharp a a cinder block when it comes to throwing hints, or catching them. so for us we like to remain blunt and be straightforward in what we say. If the man really really likes you, he likes you as more than a friend, if he would do anything for you, he would die to protect you, he would take a beating to defend your honor, he would be a shoulder to cry on, he would give you a massage just to be nice, he would make you dinner, etc. he is trying to get back together with you, which it seems he was blunt about as well, and it worked! Women always say they will never understand men, but for the most part, we are very simple and basic creatures. if he is an honest man take him at his word and that's all there is to it. but im not the one dating him, so you have to be the judge. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:30:08 AM |
I certainly CAN say 'I love you', however I don't use the word 'love' willy nilly.
I believe that you've just answered your own question about the guy. You need to realize that most guys won't use the "L word" unless he's sure that the feelings are mutual. With your history of being apart, how can he be sure about how you feel about him unless you tell him? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:32:52 AM | Vancer.....No he is never a waste of time. We have remained friends for all of these years even though he has been overseas.
Will you change how you act around him from then on? .....No I don't act. I am who I am and he accepts me warts and all, just as I accept him. I'm happy when I'm with him. I have told him that I feel my life is complete and he has told me that he couldn't be happier to know that my life is complete with him in it.
It just gets confusing when it comes to saying the 'L' word. Some say go for it yet some say it's too soon to use that word. This is where it gets difficult.
I feel in my heart that he loves me or is falling in love with me by his actions and I know I am heading in the same direction.
Like I said these little hints leave me a bit confused. He's 56 and was married years and years ago which makes me think that he is being careful. It also makes me think that if he said 'I love you' it would scare me away and maybe he is aware of that, so he uses 'really really like you' . Of course if he DID say those words it wouldn't scare me away. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:40:00 AM |
Well I think he might just 'love me'.....Love is such a powerful word and after we have used it several times throughout our lives I think we become a bit more careful and don't throw the word around as much.
Uh uh sister...you have now just translated menspeak BACK into womenspeak. You're getting ready to set yourself up for some disappointment.
He said he's always LIKED you...according to your post. I didn't see the word LOVED there. Now you are reading more into it--but maybe because you want more? And that's ok...but don't try to translate what he said into what you want. Big difference...one that can surely cause heartache.
All the men here have said the same thing...take what he said at face value and see where it goes. If it's right then it will be. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:54:23 AM | Gender has NOTHING and I mean NOTHING to do with it. My last girlfriend took months to say she loved me after I said it to her. Somre people (men and women) are gaurded and some are afraid of the vulnerability saying that word gives them.
In short, its just him. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:56:23 AM |
but don't try to translate what he said into what you want. .....This I have to agree with. It's this type of thing that I am aware of. I don't want to jump the gun yet I don't want to ignore possible signals. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 9:03:01 AM | I agree with Ekim -
The best translator of his words will be his actions.
Words are free. He could tell you anything - but if his words are not supported by actions, then they don't mean bupkis. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 9:05:13 AM |
Words are free. He could tell you anything - but if his words are not supported by actions, then they don't mean bupkis.
OP, if you don't believe this...nothing else can be said. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you make your mouth say, your body and actions give you away most of the time. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 9:18:03 AM |
*runs through translation machine*
"hey baby wanna f**k?"
HAHAA...oh wait...that wasn't supposed to be funny was it?
I swear...these forums are some of the best entertainment EVER! | |
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