| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/19/2008 11:15:45 PM | Okay, I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks. We've been getting very close to each other, and even got to the point that we were always using pet names and nicknames we gave each other. Well, my papaw (grandfather) has been diagnosed with Alzheimers and we're down here visiting for a few days, and I told her that ahead of time. I logged on tonight to talk to her, and she seemed like a different person. We always called each other sexy before the trip, but now she says it was inappropriate. She only called me by my real name when I said something well...you know...in her ear and she got all blushy and giggly, or we were in a fight. Immediately, she starts using a harsh tone with my name. And she seemed really uptight, and comments that always made her weak at the knees seemed to not phase her. I don't BELIEVE I said anything wrong, but I may have.
Does anyone have any idea why she seemed to have changed so much?
Oh, and we both have accounts on here, and we both have not bothered to edit them to not looking, if that helps. | |
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/19/2008 11:22:24 PM | Maybe she's freaked out that Alzheimers could be heriditary (I honestly don't know if it is or not) and she's starting to rethink the whole long term thing.
Just a thought. I dunno.
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:19:18 AM | You've only been involved with her a few weeks and you've already had fights?
It sounds to me like y'all got caught up in the lust aspect of the relationship (based off of the wording YOU used), and she's stepping back and viewing the reality of who you are! Things seemed to have gone oddly quick and perhaps it has spooked her! Without hearing her side of things it's really hard to tell!
You've invested very little time in this "relationship", I say walk away from it.. if she decides to come back then maybe y'all have a crack at something real verses the playtime you've chosen to believe was a relationship!
A little advice, don't move so quickly in the future! The way you're talking now would freak me out if we'd only have been dating a few weeks! It's a tad obsessive and psychotic! | |
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:22:40 AM | | Disregard my last posting.. I just went to your profile and realized you're only 19 years old! You're acting exactly like most 19 year olds when it comes to relationships! | |
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:28:14 AM | Maybe you were alright for a bit of dirty talk in cyber land but you do not fit the bill in the real world?
This typing is not real after all, lots of forums point this out -" the person you meet, is not the person in the profile/picture" is mentioned a lot!
So its either dirty talk in cyber land or moving on - your choice it seems.
Sorry to hear about grand dad.  | |
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:30:19 AM | Some people seem to like changing their entire personalities overnight and give no explanation. BUT, maybe a friend or family member was in the room, and doing the whole 'talking but looking over your shoulder at what you're doing on the computer' thing. That could explain it as well.
Better yet, just straight out ask her what it was all about. | |
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:37:58 AM | Hey man chill out!! You've only known her a few weeks and this is where you're at already? If it were me alarm bells would be ringing and I would be taking a few steps- In the backwards direction!!!!
Hope it all works out. | |
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:02:08 AM | I would hazard a guess that she lost interest for whatever reason.
My experience with any 'real' relationships have been limited and far between, the last two happened over five years apart. They both developed too quickly and since one lasted 6 yrs and the other a year and a half, I still think that may happen, but reality is, relationships that start out with a 'BANG' soon fizzle like fireworks.
Some people are looking for that feeling of meeting someone new (I call it being in love with being in love), some are looking for other things and aren't honest about how they really feel.
Sorry to hear you are getting no honesty, one thing I like most about anyone is, just be honest, if you have lost interest, tell me.
But then one thing I have learned as well is I don't really continue to hold interest in someone I know is not interested in me.
Sometimes, it is best to just back off and if the other is really interested, they'll come around.
Your self respect is worth that, just give her space and if she wants to be with you she will.
That's all I got on the subject.
Good luck! | |
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| Changed in a few days?
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:19:08 AM | | Based on my experience with teaching teenage girls all I can say it that it's not uncommon to find those who are up and down, hot and cold, off and on, in the way they behave towards others. Just wait a week and she might change back. If so and you want to continue being with her you may have to accept the roller-coaster element and deal with it by backing off when she's being cold. It's not all about you and there isn't necessarily any external motivation for her change in behaviour at all. | |
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