| Bet he really doesn't SING alone
Posted: 7/20/2008 6:20:02 PM | I recently talked/chatted with a man I met here on POF..(never met in person, it didnt get that far) We exchanged a few emails..then we talked on the phone, that night he deleted his profile...then I deleted mine..and gosh I had lots of points..lol Anyway..we talked for a couple hours...he said "call me tomorrow before you go to work..I said I would and did..he was in the shower and would call me back..he didn't. I sent a few txt msg's no replies..a couple days go by..I call him around 12:30 a.m. no answer..I go to sleep I get a call back from him around 3 a.m. and he's left a voice msg..I txt him..he calls me again. noone on the other end..ok..I txt "dunno whats going on..this is scaring me..etc" 2 more days go by I get a txt from him he's had a mild stroke..ok from here for the next 2 or 3 weeks its txt' msg's and he's also had a car accident and fell and broke his wrist during this time..I talk to him one more time on the phone and he is in pain from the broken wrist and cant stay awake becasue of the meds..OKAY...then on the 8th of July he says he wants to see/meet me (via txt again mind you)..I say ..ok but its a 3 hr drive safer for you to come here..ok he's gonna see what he can do..don't hear from him again till the 15th saying...how he had really wanted to see me....on the 16th he sends me ANOTHER txt saying he'd like to meet..I say.."I will get back to you in a few days i'm trying to sleep"...Too harsh?
When did you first become suspicious?...lol Opinions welcome... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 6:45:56 PM | What are we being suspicious for?
You think he is married or something? Lets do the math shall we-
Text you, gets in the shower but does not call you back.
Couple days go by - he has a mild stroke, car accident, broke
his wrist-
Now wants to meet-
Wow- he either is real I dont know, accident prone or is putting you off
and off and off-
If you feel its funny it probably is. He or it can be anything from he is
not ready to he is married to he is entering the priesthood.
Wait- he lives three hours away- If I tell you I think he has something going
on I will get crushed here. (fuck it) I think he may have something going on and these
were all excuses to put you off until he could actually find the time to be
away for three hours. do not be surprised if you either do not hear from
him, he gets hurt or sick again or he does not show up.
Yes- I may be jumping to conclusions but I dont know - the guy has
alot of drama. Drama usually means he has another life.
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Posted: 7/20/2008 6:56:14 PM | | Why do you even have to ask this? I wouldn't put up with this for 3 days let alone weeks on end. Get a grip, honey. Lose his number. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 6:58:50 PM | i threw it in the day i wrote the "i'll get back to ya in a few days"..oh and the voice msg he sent? it was automated...interesting huh? and if you delete a profile..it can still be searched for, it simply tells when the profile was deleted...his doesn't show that.... so i guess he's still lurking out there..oh he's real..I did actually talked to him for 2 hrs..who knows what the man does and why...it's a strange pond we swim in...
thanks for the reply...peace | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 10:13:32 PM | | yeah..i actually started thinking that too...esp when someone else was answering his cell but he wouldnt say who..wonder how he explained me?..lol he has a myspace page and a yahoo...he'll resurface again i'm sure... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 10:43:38 PM |
.he said "call me tomorrow before you go to work..I said I would and did..he was in the shower and would call me back..he didn't. I sent a few txt msg's no replies..a couple days go by..I call him around 12:30 a.m. no answer..I go to sleep I get a call back from him around 3 a.m. and he's left a voice msg.
this is where it starts to be creepy, he asked you to call him before you let for work, then he was in the shower, didn't call you back... and then he calls you at 3am in the morning. That would be enough for me right there. No more contact.
You usually feel the hunch early on that something is wrong, listen to it right away, the more you ignore it, you start loosing the perspective. I can tell this has happened to you, because you had to ask on the forums, which is fine... but what is woriesome, that he is playing with you, and you can't see it... you still were engaged with calling/texting...after seeing major red flags. | |
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| Bet he really doesn't SING alone
Posted: 7/20/2008 10:46:56 PM |
and if you delete a profile..it can still be searched for, it simply tells when the profile was deleted...his doesn't show that.... so i guess he's still lurking out there..oh he's real.. He has hidden his profile and deleted himself from your favorites so he doesn't show up. If under user search, you enter a name that you know was valid and nothing appears, that profile is hidden. If it's been deleted, the day it was closed will show up. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 11:04:03 PM | Welcome back Curly, you were missed.
Your insight is as usual on point, blunt and honest. Damn I missed that!
I agree with you here and urge the poster to excersise caution. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 11:23:04 PM | A mild stroke
A broken wrist
Too many meds
Never calls when he says he will
Sounds like a train wreck to me.
Why did you want to meet him again? | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 9:28:30 AM | i never did meet him in person if thats what your asking..and HE is the one that contacted me wanting to meet the 2nd time..yes pretty creepy....and as curly said..drama ='s another life...
and i'm sure this is by no means the creepiest...thanks for the replies. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 4:30:05 AM | Curlygrl,
You couldn't have put it better...."drama usually means he has another life." Been there, done that. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 5:52:11 AM | OP
I'm trying to understand what the thread title means...(a way to not get it deleted?).
Anyway...sister. When did YOU first become suspicious? And what's with people deleting profiles after a few chats? I don't understand that part either.
If a person acts like they're hiding something...sometimes they are. He had all of those reasons and you bought that mess?
Too harsh? Um...if all he can do is text you, that stroke must have been mild. I digress...
Why would you even bother after the first line of crap? That's all I'm gonna say. | |
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| Bet he really doesn't SING alone
Posted: 7/22/2008 6:14:35 AM |
I wouldn't put up with this for 3 days let alone weeks on end
I'm glad at least one of you girls can figure this B.S. out. Are women really so naive they can't figure this out on their own?
naive (Pronunciation: nâ'eev) 1. [adj] lacking sophistication 2. [adj] lacking experience of life 3. [adj] marked by or showing unaffected simplicity and lack of guile or worldly experience.
I don't mean to insult anyone's intelligence, but if women are putting up with this kind of nonsense they can't be too bright. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 6:37:52 AM | Is he coming to meet you in an ambulance??? I might not limit my options at this point unless he's really rich, you're a nurse, and he wants to get married and leave you his gold mine
If he suddenly is on a business trip to Ghana or Nigeria, watch out | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 6:42:01 AM | Hey gf....even if per chance...he had a stroke, broke his wrist, was in accident, falls out from the meds is true........... I mean on the out chance that is is true. Do you want to be walking under the same black cloud that seems to be follwing him around?
This is not even worth the debate in your mind.........ding ding ding..........
PEACE | |
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