| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/9/2005 9:08:38 PM | | I have met up with lots of preconceived crap about how a woman my age should be settled down with a husband and have kids!!!! well, i say it's all in how we want out lives to be, not all women will be mothers, not all men will be fathers! but that does not make us any less human. the times are changing and we should all be allowed to be who we are, not what others expect us to be. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/9/2005 9:25:04 PM | Exactly. I applaud those women who have the brains to realize this is not what they want. Totally their decision.
I also admire the women who want kids but choose to work outside the home as they love to work as well. I have known many over the years, and raising kids ain't everyone's cup of tea. In my village I was known as the 'baby-sitter' cause that is what I did. I'm down to looking after my own grand kids now. My own daughter would rather work than stay home. But that is ok, I'm here for her. It really works well for us all.
God Bless you rusys4evergirl. I love you. Carol..... | |
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aynie
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/9/2005 9:37:35 PM | | I was 23 when I had my first child, and altho I was married, I emotionally wasn't ready. HOWEVER...I love my daughter, and I wouldn't change a thing, if it ment losing her. I think it is "wiser" for people to wait, not necessarily for financial readiness, but for emotional readiness. .....and then I was 29 when I had my second child, and I wasn't ready for her either....(LOL)....so maybe I'm just a "wash" at being a mom. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/10/2005 1:20:27 AM | I don't consider myself a failure whatsoever! I am currently single and childless because I love my teaching career and have more than enough children there! Not to mention I've been married, and it sure isn't all it's cracked up to be. You sure ain't missin' nuthin'!
Life's too short to worry about "failure." People who label anything that way are quite ignorant of history or even the present. It's so much more important to see the successes! | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/10/2005 4:24:29 AM | our society is geared to married couples who procreate.
those of us who don't are outsiders because we don't follow the norm.
for years, *I* felt like a failure myself because i never married and had a family, but i think i would have been a horrible mother.
i would like to marry, because i think i'm a great companion!!!
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Joined: 1/21/2004
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/10/2005 7:49:23 AM | Then you get the ones who think that if you're any age and have kids and looking for a relationship that you have issues too. The world is a diverse place, not everyone is looking for the same thing in life. I wouldn't put much stock in what someone who's giving you a load of crap says anyway. Be who you are! | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/11/2005 10:34:28 AM | Some day, you will realize two things:
1) All the bad things people thought about you weren't true.
2) People wasn't even thinking about you.
The truth is, that nobody gives a flying f*ck about what others do, unless it affects them. When was the last time you lost sleep because of somebody else's life?
What really happens is that "you" project your own thinking (whether consciously or unconsciously) in others. If you think "they" think you're a failure, take the "they" out of that sentence. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/11/2005 11:46:55 AM | I actually know what she's saying, being single and childless myself.
When I meet people, they willl ask things like "Why aren't you married?" Would they ask someone why they are married? Or, they start telling me about a lovely young man they know...would they try to talk a married person into becoming single? People do fail to realize that for some, this is a lifestyle choice.
Do I lose sleep over it? No. But I do think it's funny that people...yes..."they" will openly ask questions and are shocked when you politely tell them you are not interested in marriage.
When people ask me why I'm not married, I reply "Lucky, I guess". Usually, that will shut them up. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/11/2005 11:58:08 AM | | Wow, all the above intelligent ladies covered the subject beautifully...no need for me to add anything...except I will say that there aren't as many "they" as you think...and I am 36, single, and likely will not have children at this point, so I can relate | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/11/2005 11:17:22 PM | 30 now that's a joke!
With the way women look after themselves today and knowing we all have a chance at 80 years plus, now is the time to get it on, for life is just getting kick started. If 30 is old, how will i feel in another 50 years? | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/12/2005 1:44:26 PM | That's a good one electricspatula, I think I will use that one. Why is it when you're single and over 30 that the first question is always "so are you seeing anyone now"? :-)
Truthfully though, my social circle is a little different. When I spend time with my married girlfriends (and believe me, they are ALL married), they always want know what I have been up to, who have I been meeting, where have I been travelling, etc., I end up being the centre of attention as if my life is the most exciting life ever.
Do you know why? Because "marrieds" live vicariously through their single friends. I've heard the lament so many times that they wish they had stayed single until later in life, that I'm pretty happy with my own situation.
Grass is always greener I guess. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/12/2005 3:31:14 PM | Hfx, I've found it's the same with men. All my married male friends want to hear about my last escapade, the last computer gadget I bought, about what did last Saturday night. And none of them tells me that it's time for me to settle. Most of them tell me that they envy me.
The wives are different. They always want to introduce me to some single female friend in her early thirties who already grew up her "bad boys" stage. My stock answer is that I grew up my "women who grew up their bad boys stage" stage. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/13/2005 11:24:30 AM | I am a single mother over the age of 30, who feels that I have not achieved what I truly wanted in life. While I have two beautiful children who I love dearly and wouldn't trade for the world there are times when I wish I could be single without the responsibilities that follow a mother, need to make more money, bigger place, taking children to various sporting events, family telling you how to raise your children, feuds with their father, time spent on homework. etc... You get my point. At times I wish I could just sit back and relax with a cold drink and think about myself once in awhile. And for those women who are single with no children I envy you for that.
For those who my find offence to what I have to say I am sorry but really deep down do you not feel the same way??? | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 6/13/2005 10:59:44 PM | Who is anybody to judge another person? Especially based on marital status.? That kind of mentality is archaic and passe. Women now a days are smarter, more ambitious and have a good sense of priorities. No need to rush people into bad situations. Especially with what the divorce rates are at. Children come when things are right and are planned to be had.  | |
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I agree why should everyone reproduce, at time I wish the US were like China having a limit on children. Come on people the world is over WAY populated. So for those women who have choisen not to have children HAIL HAIL
