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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:31:22 AM | I have often noticed that people are friendlier when it comes to isolated incidences. For example a person with car trouble on a isolated road in the middle or no ware, or in small out of the way town’s people are friendlier and more willing to help each other then in bigger cities. even peoples driving habits are different.
I live in a smaller town were most of the drivers are courteous, and friendly, but when I drive into a bigger city like Vancouver the drivers are inconsiderate and rude and most wouldn't even bat an eye at you if you were pulled over with car troubles.
Why is this, shouldn't people be courteous and helpful no matter were they are? | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:43:14 AM | | This has gotta be why I love living in the North. There is a special kind of Northern hospitality that kicks in when you travel down an islolated logging road at -35 in the North and have a flat tire or some other issue with your vehicle. There is an unspoken, unwritten rule that you help out your neighbor when they need your help (even if you pissed them off recently) because they are never going to knowingly leave you to freeze. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 1:03:12 AM | Having lived much further north than celticlass currently does I can relate to not letting people perish. The same applies to boating. The same harsh conditions trained me to be more self-reliant because sometimes you have to be in order to survive.
With respect to people in trouble I think the larger population the less friendly one can be because there is an expectation that there are sooooo many more people there, right there, and surely one of them will care more than we might care for the person in distress, and we slip away and thus avoid getting involved.
Conversely the more isolated the scene, the fewer alternate people the distressed can turn to, so when their desperate gaze lands on you you'd best show your mettle.
In a big city you can hide and be anonymous. You can be rude and people can call you "as*hole", and much worse, but so what, nobody is going to know who you are.
In a town where everybody, or nearly everybody knows you, your unfriendly behaviour will soon get you an unwelcome reputation and you would pay for that. People wouldn't hold the door open for you, snort a "Hmmph" when walking past you, or even cross the street to avoid you, your mail might get delivered a day or two late, the gas station would close for lunch when you pull up at 2 pm, all that because everyone knows you are an "as*hole".
Of course if you have a good reputation people treat you with respect, stay open late because they see you coming, hold the door open for you, give you a pat on the back and greet you with cheery smiles.
When you show up at the pharmacy with a prescription for pain relief medication they take one look at your ashen complexion and rush the order to completion in 5 minutes instead of the usual half hour (this happened to me last week).
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:17:08 AM | This is very true for the big city OP, I wish people would be more kind and respectful to others. Some people are getting more pushier these days, lets say in the malls for example. They would run into you by accident and bump you, they wouldn't say sorry. I have had that a lot lately, when I am getting on the bus, some people cut in front of me. There was someone in a wheelchair the other day trying to get on a bus, and a woman got on first. Did not let the driver lower the platform first. for the person who was in the wheelchair trying to get on.
I wanted to say something, but did not want to start trouble. When I do go to now to this one coffee shop by my work, I do get treated well because the owners know me. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:41:17 AM | I do agree with the above posters about the "unspoken law" to look out for each other in remote areas. I've encountered that throughout my many travels from the 70ties to the early 90ties, people used to greet each other then. Though sadly even that seems to be changing now.
The close proximity of people in densely settled urban areas creates a subconscious feeling of security but also of antagonism. ..we sure are strange creatures???? | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 9:43:19 AM | I always try to help someone out if I can, because I need the good karma.
Having lived in small towns, big cities, and something in between though, I can say that you find jerks everywhere.
I miss "the wave". You know like when someone lets you merge on the highway and you furiously rolled down your window to make sure you acknowledged their favour.
I think that is a big part of the issues we have today is that people simply don't acknowledge others around them, particularly when it comes to anything involving large groups of people such as traffic, the malls, concerts, etc...
The really sad part is that it requires so little effort to be a civil human being, and if everyone did their part to help others out, it is like the saying goes: "Many hands make light work". | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 10:03:10 AM | ^^^ What the hell are you talking about??? Lot's of people wave and point when I merge... I like how they salute me with that one happy proctologist finger.
Are these threads just turning into b*tch sessions?? | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 11:52:24 PM | That's why I like living in smaller towns. I love Vancouver and all, but I don't like the stranger in the crowd atmosphere. I find it very lonely. I live in Abbotsford now and I like it quite a lot. I have had more doors held open for me here, and random people strike up conversations with me, and I like that atmosphere.
I don't know why it is, I've thought about it but there's nothing certain I could put my finger on. It just is what it is. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 12:04:06 PM | I’ve noticed people are a lot friendlier when there are no expectations set.. I agree helping people seems to be a given when you see people in need. Another thing that comes to mind with this topic is that there does not appear to be any energy used when we help people…strange huh? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 5:57:04 PM | Seems to me in big towns everyone is in a rush to go somewhere. I have seen higher use of cell phones in the city and major faux pas when driving due to the incease of vehicles, pedestrians, cylists etc on the roads.
I was over the border in Monroe several years ago when my car break lines snapped. The people in that town went out of the way ( on a weekend) to find me a garage and the owners there were very hospitable and got my car up and running on the Sunday so that I could get back here to BC the same day.
Bottom line is that wherever you are, there are people that care and some that don't. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 2:01:11 AM | seems that when people are too close for too long they annoy each other and care less, kinda like a relationship without the bond
we may do better alone, yet most seem to crave the presence of a fellow human at least for a little time and/or knowing the next one isn't too far away...
guess we are just some very strange animal, nothing is ever right | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 3:09:54 AM | I guess if I were to generalize about people being friendlier more in one place than another
I'm not so sure that the location has a lot if anything to do with it.....
in all the places i have ever been whether they were big cities or small towns
i have found that the people that inhabit them were not all that much different....
do you really believe that what kind of person someone is can be determined by geography??...
the big city little town thing?......alrighty then...lol
it has more to do with who you are as a person, not necessarily were you live...
there's good and bad everywhere.......
i have found good and bad in both big & small places, generally speaking....
the more people you have ...the more good and bad people you have.....
the smaller areas would naturally have less good and bad people in them....
that could maybe make them seem friendlier and more helpful....
i once read there is no reality only perception there of....
so i guess that would make most things how you perceive them to be...
i mean were all good and helpful people in this, our lower mainland & surrounding areas for the most part......right......lol...
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:47:11 AM | I recently heard this interesting statement in a movie I was watching and thought of this thread.
"Big City people, do small things"
I took this statement to suggest that the larger the city, the less likely someone is to do something friendly towards another.
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:13:21 AM | If you have ever spent any amount of time driving the back roads of the interior, north, or wherever, you would know that almost everybody will stop to help if they see you are in trouble. Not only does it seem to be an "unwritten" rule to help someone in distress, I think even the human brain kicks in and realizes that you must help,cause in 5 or 10 minutes it could easily be you being broken down on a logging road or wherever.
In the big city, like others have stated,,,,it's just a matter of using your cel phone, and boom,,,you have a tow truck come to you sooner or later. There are many places where I go that my cel doesn't even work,let alone the possiblity of trying to explain to a towing company where the hell I am if I ever was broken down. And again, if you do the bush thing for any period of time, you would know there are sometimes of the year that you can get in real serious trouble, real fast like if you don't know how to take care of yourself. It's funny how some "city folk" think when they go on their annual camping trip with their families,,,,and what they DON'T plan for.
I was taught at a very young age that once you are in the bush,,,you always, always help a person in distress, no matter how silly their previous actions where. It's actually where I started believing in "karma". Drive enough miles on those roads and you will know what I mean. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 11:06:02 AM | walts ^^^ don't give all those who can't drive in the city any ideas to get out of town....lol no cell phone service there .......
over 30 years in Vancouver I noticed people used to be far more patient and friendlier then, waiting in line ups , in the stores, at the bus stop, even waited out 2 or three green lights before they 'd drive on - oh those were Albertans..sorry,.....
not pointing at the culture mix as blame (thought that may be related)
this city is now bursting, people live in 300-400 square foot apartments cramped up like chicken on the egg farm... and no one is really interested in any one else unless there is something in it for them.... | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 11:20:48 AM | in the big city, everything is always GO-GO-GO!!! People are always trying to keep up with the big rat race, otherwise they fear getting trampled by the thousands of people behind them who are trying to overtake them. Small town living is less about the hustle and bustle, and you have more time to interract with others.
a person with car trouble on a isolated road in the middle or no ware, or in small out of the way town’s people are friendlier and more willing to help each other
if you're having car troubles, of course you're gonna be nice!! Nobody wants to help an arsehole! | |
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