| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 12:57:13 AM | I'm talking about those little endorsements at the bottom of your profile from 'friends'. I had never really had any bother me until two profiles. Now I see those and I'm pretty turned off entirely.
The first profile that did it for me was where the girl said something to the effect of how ladies would enjoy his tongue ring. Now, I'm not a prude, but I don't really want to hear about who's p*ssy he was licking and that she's bold enough to put it right there next to her photo on his profile.
The next one is one where the girl says 'do not contact him if you are not worthy' - excuse me b*tch, he contacted me first.
Then there are the other ones where the women say they want him for themselves. Like they are pissing all over his profile to mark their territory.
One of these guys I was actually interested in but I just don't think I can message him back after reading what women wrote about him and knowing he allows this drivel to stay on his profile.
So, have you come across any 'testimonials' on women's pages that turn you off? What were they? Have you had someone write a testimonial about you that was disturbing? | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 2:19:53 AM | Never seen a testimonial that improved the profile in any way shape or form for someone seeking romance. For forum posters, sure, testimonial away. People looking for a partner though are hindered, not helped, by testimonials.
I agree with the 'piss all over their territory' remark in particular- some of them are little more than a token effort at doing that and that alone. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 2:43:37 AM | | I have to say that I completly disregard testimonials. Really, they are usually their best friend or family member and of course its going to be glowing. Testimonials on here are akin to deciding on talking to that stranger across the bar and along the way, you ask another random stranger if you should do it. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:05:27 AM |
So, have you come across any 'testimonials' on women's pages that turn you off? What were they?
Yes. Any and all of them. To me it's like the writer is "marking territory" or saying "Next!"
Have you had someone write a testimonial about you that was disturbing?
No, and it would be disturbing. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:22:34 AM | Back when I was messaging people here, I was never once persuaded to mail someone by a testimonial, but I was persuaded not to several times.
The thing is, most of the ones on women's profiles read like they were written by a bloke with the literary skills and intelligence of a fridge magnet, who wants to 'do' her but isn't allowed, and produces some of the most sycophantic, vomit-inducing crap I've ever read in my life before staking his 'claim'. Along the lines of:
"This girl is a wunderful person and I luv her to bits! She's grate! I luv her to bits! She's perfict in evry posibble way and deserves sum1 speshul to make her truly happy. Did I mention I luv her 2 bits? Oh, and IF ANY OF U PUNKS DARES TO HURT HER I WILL SMASH UP UR FACE REEL GOOD AND DONT THINK IM JOKING I HAVE A BLACK BELT IN TAEWKONDOO.
LUVES YA TO BITS BABE XXXXX!" | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:41:49 AM | lol hilarious.... pissing all over the profile to mark territory hmm never thought of that
and I actually haveo ne of those testes moanials on my profile... Idecided to keep it cuz he's my flatmate and I thought it was sweet and maybe he will get pissed at me for leaving the toilet seat DOWN again and I can say heyyyyy!!! you said blah blah soooo ..... *sigh* such is life
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:44:08 AM | Then there are the other ones where the women say they want him for themselves. Like they are pissing all over his profile to mark their territory.
Maggie, I definitely agree with you. I've seen a couple of testimonials on men's profiles where the woman has 'staked her claim' on the man. Why would a man who is interested in finding a partner want this on his profile? It seems like it would definitely discourage most women from contacting him. It gives the appearance that he is 'taken'. I wrote and congratulated one of the men on his 'new relationship' and told him I hope everything works out well. He immediately deleted her testimonial and wrote to let me know that he hadn't read it. He said that the day he finds a woman he cares about, he will close his profile and be off this site. That is a man of integrity. Fortunately, he has found such a woman and I wish them the very best of luck. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:34:15 AM |
maybe illpost up what you wrote to me in mails earlier huh...kinda shows the type of person you are then doesnt it.....and goin by your profile...its a little weird....
This from a dude whose entire profile is one long fish metaphor.
Think I'm gonna have to side with the lady on this one my ichthic brotha. Airing dirty laundry on a public forum is always lame. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:55:17 AM |
now thinks im a psycho
I can't blame her frankly.
well its great to be judged even though she doesnt even know me, but obviously takes the net too seriously and reads into things too much. sorry i disappointed you and didnt end up being mr right....dont it suck that im not in victoria...but hey...youd be thankful im not huh???
Heck, I'm thankful you're far, far away. How is your post in any way related to the topic? Oh right, it's not. You're just venting. Get over yourself.
maybe illpost up what you wrote to me in mails earlier huh
It'll get you banned, which would be a good thing.
Do you actually read what you type before you hit submit? You're net stalking which is incredibly creepy and seriously immature. Let it go and move on.
You're a prime example of why some women are cautious about who they speak to online. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 6:25:49 AM | I like the female profile testimonials as it usually shows an interesting side of the person being referenced.
The most common ones I have seen are the ones that from some guy in the area that thinks she's the best thing in the middle of east jesus nowhere. It's obvious that he cares for her, but they aren't in a more exclusive relationship? Red flagorama! | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 8:12:05 AM | ^^^^ Dude!!! Get a grip of yourself.
The first profile that did it for me was where the girl said something to the effect of how ladies would enjoy his tongue ring. Now, I'm not a prude, but I don't really want to hear about who's p*ssy he was licking and that she's bold enough to put it right there next to her photo on his profile.
That would be a huuuuge turn off.
Guess, I AM a prude.
Have you had someone write a testimonial about you that was disturbing?
Yep.
There was a dude whose testimonials I had to delete TWICE.
First one was after we exchanged total of 4 emails. He posted a love poem.
I took it down and told him I am not comfortable with that since we don't really know each other.
Next day he posted another one on how I am the best that a guy can hope for, blah, blah...
Not that I am not ( ), but that dude knew nothing about me and the way he worded it made impression that we are have been together for quite some time.
Pissing all over to mark the territory, that was all there was to it... So, that kind of ended that conversation.
The ones that are on my profile are all from forum friends, mostly women (though I don't sway "that" way).
I find them utterly amuzing and hilarious, and would never take those down.
If they are a turn off... so be it.
*shrugs*
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 8:13:19 AM | | I don't mind the testimonials per-say. It bothers me for the reasons a person feels they should write it, and for them to display it. I had a friend who had several testimonials. These were all friends of her, but I couldn't see the point in them writing them. Clearly they were not great friends, nor had they ever met. This person was only looking for friends, so why did they feel the need to endorse this person with testimonials? I thought it was a bit ridiculous that this person had them up, and I guess If I was attracted to her, I would have been put off by the testimonials, and the fact that she thought she needed to display them like some kind of trophy. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 8:29:40 AM | "then they have to have the final say, the final word...they send u an email abusing ya and calling you various things..why? cos youve already told them to rack off?..and then they block ya so u cant have the right of reply? ... "
Since when does someone have the "right of reply"?? She was obviously not interested in you, so she blocked you, and at the first opportunity you have, you post to this forum. Your posting was for this particular woman to read and had nothing to do with the topic. I agree......it's creepy (and stalker-ish). And then you had to try to defend yourself and claim your "right to reply". You should have left your original profile alone....I'm sure it described you more accurately. What really turns me off in a profile is the long, long list of what someone ISN'T looking for. Translation....it's obvious they've been burned and have yet to get over it. We've all been burned at one time or another. But I don't typecast people, as you do, and I won't hold the mistakes of the last person with whom I had a relationship against the next person I meet. To reply to the topic....testimonials on someone's profile..... I've only seen a guy's profile that included a testimonial, which was written by a woman friend, and what she said about him was what made him attractive to me. The fact that a guy has a female friend who's only a friend is a testimonial in and of itself. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 8:34:57 AM | I've only seen a couple of testimonials that stopped me from contacting a person.
In both instances the testimonials that stopped me from contacting someone were extremely ignorant, and crudely written. In each case I clicked on the testimonial to view the profile of the guy who left it, and the guy's profile was just as crude and ignorant as the testimonial.
In those situations, I thought to myself: if that's the sort of person who she has on her favorite's list, I'm not interested in her. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 10:12:32 AM | I think the testimonials here were introduced in the fall of '06, months after I started chatting with one very charming guy. We had hit it off right from the word go, and while we both talked to other people there was definitely something special between us...Then the testimonials started...The first few didn't bother me at all and some were merely nice words from chat buddies.
Some of the testimonials were rather explicit in nature...those ones bothered me a lot, but they did open my eyes to what this guy was really up to and it was not just chatting with some of these women.
To date, I have seen 29 testimonials on his profile and there has probably been more. He quickly deletes them as soon as he sees them. I used to joke with him about his long list of admirers. He told me he hates the testimonials and can't help what these women write..some of whom he had only chatted with a few times before they tried 'marking their territory'.
The nice testimonials never did bother me, but the explicit ones made him look like nothing more than a player and those ones have definitely changed the dynamics of our conversations.
He says he hates when women write them...I wonder why!!! | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 1:02:25 PM | The ones from friends are kinda sweet and don't bother me. The ones from people marking their territory are a turn off and I don't know why someone would leave them up if they are looking. But honestly, I'm more interested in the testimonials they wrote in response. They can let you know real fast if someone is a player.
I hate the "gorgeous" or "hottie" ones - they are so stupid. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:14:26 PM | OP, my profile is so offputting that women physically cannot hit the back button fast enough! That keeps my testimonials rare.
To answer your question, yes. I have come across womens' profiles with testimonials that convinced me not to write them. That always spells "competition" to me and if I have to fight or stand in line just to get her attention, I'd rather be alone. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:26:13 PM | So you people are letting some 3rd party ruin your image of someone you are interested in?
This reminds me of highschool when I would start talking to a Hot girl, and then some jealous guy or girl would come by and inform me of all the guys she has been with, true or not. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:53:58 PM | | I've written testimonials for two guys and both have stated that the testimonials have had a positive effect. One guy has no pic and not too much in his profile (yeah I know I should just help him beef up his profile instead of writing testimonials) but has a growing number of women making him a favorite. When I teased him about how he managed that he said quite a few have mentioned my testimonial. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 6:01:17 PM | | I had posted earlier about the two profiles of men I was in contact with, who had testimonials from other women 'staking their claims'. The one has since closed his account but the other is still on here. He is on over 100 favs lists but that means nothing to me. As with most of us, most of them are not people with whom he is in regular contact. He and I write and phone each other quite often and have been for a few weeks. Recently a testimonial appeared from a woman telling all the other women to take a number, that she has first claim on this man, and that is why he isn't contacting anyone else. I never mentioned it to the man. He has 3 other testimonials on his profile also and they are from very nice women, proclaiming what a wonderful man and friend he is. I figure if he is taking the time to get to know me, how serious could he be about the claim staker? I noticed today though, that that testimonial is no longer on his profile. I don't know if he deleted or if she did. It seems to me, that proclaiming that you are a man's #1 priority would be the quickest way to end a budding relationship. Some of these women need to realize that they are shooting themselves in the foot by jumping the gun. If a man is concentrating on only one woman, it is up to him to let that be known on his profile or to hide or delete it. It is not the woman's place to try to discourage others from contacting him. | |
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