| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:08:05 AM | Okay, here's a funny one. Met a guy online. Beautiful in his pictures even if slightly balding (okay a bit more than slightly but who cares). We exchanged a few emails, moved to a phone call or two and then of course the first date. I was so excited. I don't make it to many first date (due to the weeding out process). I wanted to look my best. Eyebrows arched, hair combed, deodorant. I went to meet him and he shows up wearing.... a fanny pack. Now, I'm not as shallow as I'm going to be called but come one. A fanny pack?  We went to an extremely trendy restuarant. Me with an embarrassed smile. Him with a pack named Fanny on the front of his belt. I'm not one to beat around the bush so I broached the subject. I asked him whether he had a special permit to carry one of those after 1993. Surely they've been outlawed. He didn't find the humor in my comment or the subsequent comments that I made all night. He then admitted that his bag was a bit beat up and asked would I like to help him find a new fanny pack. Maybe this coming Friday. Make it a second date. He didn't understand that the problem wasn't with this particular bag but Fanny packs worldwide.
I know it seems shallow, superficial, maybe a bit mean but, is it not alright to look for someone who takes the same pride in their appearance. I mean would you date someone with a Captain Hook mustache and Fourth of July pants?
In the end we agreed that we wouldn't be a great match despite the awesome rapport over the phone. He said that he couldn't change who he was. And then hoped I would see the light by asking me how I would feel if he wanted me to remove my "blackness". Somehow the two didn't balance out in my eyes.
Was I too shallow? Has anyone else met up with someone who had some sort of oddity that seemed small but was a total dealbreaker? | |
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:14:07 AM | | I dont really see the problem...i mean i dont wear fanny packs. But if my date did i would not care at all. I might even make a joke about it(i mean it is a fanny pack), but that would be it...fine with me. | |
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:16:53 AM | OP, it sounds like you were judging the man on ONE particular article of clothing and could not get over that fact no matter what characteristics and qualities could be found in him. Hell yes, you were shallow.
Sheesh. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:17:23 AM | I think you're being silly.
Would a man purse have been better for you?
Sorry, but is this what dating has boiled down to? Pathetic. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:20:38 AM | It would be funny to me but not a deal breaker I don't think.
He my SO where camo shorts and shirts that don't match them all the time. If asks me if he matches I tell him no but if that's what he wants to where its all good. As long as it's clean I don't care what he wears and he doesn't seem to care about the occational times that I tease him about it. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:23:44 AM | You weren't abandoned by Cupid.......You shot the lil rascal in the face w/ a bazooka! 
Let me put this in perspective. In the future.....you're on a date w/ a perfectly FINE specimen of a man with whom you have a great rapport& at the end of the date, he tells you it won't work because he doesn't like your style of purse. Non negotiable. Over.
Yes......you've been dumped over a handbag.
Remember this next time you are commiserating w/ the sisters about there being "no good men out there!".
The only problem w/ looking for someone who takes pride in his appearance is if YOU must dictate what is worth being proud of (beyond basic hygiene).
Here's a question......just how far could a man go in 'taking pride' in his appearance before you would label him a 'metrosexual' or effeminate? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:26:22 AM | | I'm assuming that you meant sisters in the good ole fashioned friendship way and not the racial one. Anyway, It wasn't just one article of cloting as he said "this is who he is." So you're going to date a man wearing a clown hat and bunny slippers? It's all relative. Maybe I was shallow. Oh well. Are there no other shallow people out there who can't see past a fanny pack? | |
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:35:20 AM | | Fanny PACK OMG Just think what his home looked like. Circa 1988 Mmmm girl I love Apollonia i got all her records! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:36:04 AM | | I don't blame you for being embarrassed, Cupid. I agree, a fanny pack looks pretty stupid. Pretty much in the same category as earrings on a guy. I remember years ago, going to pick up a date, for our first date, and she wearing jeans and a t-shirt, which was fine, I was wearing jeans, too. But the deal breaker was...she was wearing bright red canvas basketball shoes. Pretty much ruined it for me. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:36:19 AM | I meant sisters like the one you are posed with in your profile picture. I believe the other term is spelled Sistas, for whom I have big respect.
A clown hat & bunny slippers have NEVER been acceptable, in vogue fashion trends.....fanny packs have! Big difference between being out of style & being out of your mind. They do NOT compare.
In his defense.....have YOU ever wandered around day in & day out w/ pockets overflowing w/ all the modern crap you need in life? Try it...just for 1 day. It's a REAL pain in the butt. Wallet, cell phone, keys, sunglasses, etc.
I still have a small backpack (not fanny-style) clipped to my motorcycle......it really comes in handy, altho I don't wear it anywhere.
Women have all manner of purses that you spend hours gettin just right, transferring between, etc.........& guys are supposed to make due w/ trouser pockets? It's too dang hot down here to wear a jacket everywhere just for the extra storage! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:38:42 AM | Shallowness abounds.
Fanny pack: OUT
Red Sneakers: OUT
Forget about personality, humor, affection.
If they're wearing the wrong sneakers F*CK 'em.
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:41:59 AM | Ok I'm with the OP here. What's gonna turn up on date two - MC Hammer pants? Those baseball caps with the gaudy, shiny faux-metal plates that say "New York" or "Los Angeles"? Maybe it turns out you met an Iraq War vetran - albeit the first Iraq War. So fashion sense aside, lets give him the benefit of the doubt and says he made a faux pas. If he can't see the humour and the joke in it (provided you're not being overly mean about it), then you need to ascertain the other qualities as fashion sense is clearly not one of them. I'm no fashionista, but geez a 1990's fanny pack? If the fanny pack shopping second date doesn't work out, you can just always curl up on the couch and watch Arsenio I s'pose.
OK got all my 90s references out
Cowabunga!
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:45:39 AM | HOnestly? Yeah, shallow. Sounds ot me like you were looking for a reason to not like him.
Who the heck cares if he has a fanny pack??? That is so inconsequential in the scheme of things.
Basically, his taste in accessories differs from yours. That's what it comes down to. So add "must accessorize just like I do" to your list of "must haves". Good luck in finding your fish now!
Yes...I would date my studly stud even if he showed up at my house w/a fanny pack. Why? Because he rocks. because he's wonderufl and makes my heart beat really, really fast. And I love talking to him for hours at a time. And love kissing him even more. When my eyes are shut and we are kissing...I wouldn't even know if he had a fanny pack.
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:46:20 AM | Sorry. Am not always hip to the latest colloquial spellings. I didn't really know the time that fanny packs were actually in vogue. I just thought that a few people made similar mistakes back in the 80's. As I said, ' it's all relative.'
Don't actually carry a purse myself. Too much baggage. Slip, maybe, my cellphone and key into my pocket and away I go.
I know that there are a lot of good men in this world. Every good man, though, isn't the man for me. He was a great guy. I hope that he meets someone who will share his interest in 80's fashion. They can rock their warmers and fannies together. I just like someone who is a bit more GQ. I'm sure he would have eventually been annoyed with the way that I always want to be so put together. It's not a good thing all the time. That man and his pack just weren't for me. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:48:38 AM | | OP, if the fanny pack was your biggest problem, then yes you are shallow. So the guy has a different idea of what fashion is-big deal? Maybe your next guy will be wearing a Bill Cosby sweater circa 1984, would you dump him too? I think your date got out in good time. | |
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:50:02 AM |
And love kissing him even more. When my eyes are shut and we are kissing...I wouldn't even know if he had a fanny pack.
Oh I think you would when you are asking yourself is my man aroused or that a keys for his 92 Toyota Cressida in his fanny pack?
A fanny pack on the first date if not worn for a sense of irony is inexcusable.
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:53:29 AM | I agree 100% with OP...If I saw a fanny pack I would have been embarrassed...
She has a very valid point.....WOULD you date a guy wearing MC Hammer pants? I mean come on....I DO NOT consider myself shallow at ALL but there are some things that I cannot look past. A fanny pack being one of them....Hey, this is not shallow at all! Its a preference! We all have a preference!
Some people dont like a lot of things! Why is that shallow?
Whatever...OP I hear you 100% | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:54:57 AM | So let me get this straight. You found a man you called "beautiful" with whom you had great rapport over the phone, a man who invited you to go shopping with him despite your having apparently made fun of his accessory all night, a man ready to have a second date with you despite your unrelenting criticism, and the fact that his fashion sense is a bit different than yours is really the reason you sent him (fanny)packing?
Yes, you were too shallow. And a few other things, too.
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:55:40 AM | hey girl :)
i couldn't have done it either!! i am picky and know what i want....and who i want on my arm...who you date is a reflection of you...and i personaly have an image to maintain....and a man with a fanny pack.....uh no!!
find you a man with a sense of style.....
and what is funny to me is when you teased him about it if he liked you he would have took it off and you two would have went wallet shopping!!! lol
keep on fishing babe!!!! :)
i am still laughing at the sight of a man wearing a fanny pack on a date!!!! lmao
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:58:31 AM | lol a fanny pack I have to admit it's funny but if it was a girl that I was dating wearing that it wouldn't be a deal breaker. But if she dressed like a clown on our first date, I'd run for the hills  | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:59:19 AM | What's wrong with Captain Hook wearing Fourth of July pants?
What exactly are "Fourth of July pants"? That must refer to pants with a lot of room... for independence, i.e. freedom. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:59:26 AM | I just like someone who is a bit more GQ.
See...now that is a totally different way of expressing it, rather than blaming his dismissal on a single item of 'clothing'!
You want a partner who is similarly fashion-concious.
I can understand that.....I've been turned down for dressing too GQ. My current GF loves it.
Different strokes, right?
PS...that wasn't racial, either. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 10:01:21 AM | Some people wears fannypack to put their keys wallet etc..it does not brother me. What bothers me if he showed up with out shirt or shoes | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 10:02:27 AM | | Fourth of July pants are those baggy baggy pants with the stripes of the American flag on one side and the stars of the flag on the other. They are quite festive but inappropriate in most situations. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 10:02:52 AM | Oooh, the fanny pack. That's nasty.
Did he know you two were planning on going to a trendy restaurant? If so, what the hec was he thinking?
Tell him it's time to ditch the fanny pack and get a man purse. Not that I support the man purse, but it's head and shoulders above a fanny pack. | |
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