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| Help, not a good phone talker....
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:57:06 AM | | Ok, well for as long as I can remember, I have always had trouble talking on the phone. I have trouble talking in real life sometimes as where I struggle to find the right word, and I stutter for a second. On the phone it is magnified. Ok, I have started talking to this wonderful girl last week, and she gave me her number. We have talked on the phone alot already, and I get so embarrassed when I can't think of something to say, and you have that awkward silence, not to mention my damn cell likes to drop calls, but thats off topic. So doesn't seem to mind, and she even went as far to say I have a handsome voice. We are going to meet for the first time next week so im excited but nervous as hell, as she could be my first real girlfriend. Please someone tell me how the hell do I get over this damn nervousness garbage on the phone. Even if it doesn't bother her, it bothers me. I can carry a conversation with girls in person just fine, and we text back and forth ALOT, so I am fine there. Thanks for the help! | |
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| Help, not a good phone talker....
Posted: 7/25/2008 10:00:32 AM | Many of us have that problem, and there isn't much you can do about it other than accept that you may be a little awkward and go with it.
I will suggest that you NOT go into meeting your friend with the "oh my gosh she may be my first girlfriend" attitude. I hear men talk about being scared off by women who start planning their wedding and naming their kids on the first date, and women get scared off by that stuff too. | |
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| Help, not a good phone talker....
Posted: 7/25/2008 10:06:56 AM | Is your nervousness just with the phone itself. Or the fact you're talking to a woman? Especially if you've never had a ''real'' girlfriend.
Think about what you're going to say ahead of time. Go over things in your mind that you wish to know about her. Expand on her interests and yours in conversations.
Now it bothered me when you said ''my first real gf''. Don't jump to conclusions just yet...if only dating were that easy. And you haven't met and people tend to be very different in person. So slow down in your mind, relax, take deep breaths and just get to know here. If it turns into a relationship, great. If not, then don't get down or anything. | |
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| Help, not a good phone talker....
Posted: 7/25/2008 10:08:32 AM | | Thanks angel and raider, and no way will I go into the meeting with that. I am going in as it is two friends having lunch. And whatever happens, happens. I have been through so much in my life that I have learned to take life one day at a time. Though she does already have 2kids and no plans for more, which is fine with me because I can't have kids. We have already talked about that, she brought it up! | |
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