| | ETHNIC ATTRACTION...Page 1 of 22 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22) | I'm curious about people's views on WHY we are attracted or not attracted to certain Ethnicities. Some people have a "PREFERENCE" and others "DISCRIMINATE" totally. Is it justified to discriminate someone solely based on their ethnicity without even bothering to bet to know them first? What are your thoughts?
1. Caucasian (White)
2. African-American (Black)
3. Asian (Yellow)
4. Latino/Indian (Brown)
5. Native American (Red) | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 12:36:52 PM | Some people are just not attracted to the specific look of a certain race. It's no big deal and it's not discrimination. If you would refuse to be their friend for it or not want them to live in your neighborhood,go to school with your children , work with you etc... then that would be discrimination.
Some people truly thrive on drama. They have nothing better to do then to fret over what other people find attractive. Live and let live. | |
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eazk
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Posted: 7/25/2008 1:18:53 PM | Not actually, O~...a disqualification by default is discriminatory. A preference is inclusion.
Of course, if you're not in the preferred group, then you can claim discrimination, but just because that is your opinion does not make it a fact. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 1:33:57 PM |
A preference by default is discriminatory.
if im not attracted to women does that make me discriminatory? or men under/over a certain age?
im not discriminatory just because i have a preference. i know im not attracted to anything other than caucasian, i never have been and i probably wont ever be. other ethnicities are welcome to sleep in my bed, but it will be my spare bed.
i dont know why im not attracted to particular types, to be honest i dont care, i spend my time on the people i AM attracted to. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 1:46:24 PM | | Why some are attracted to certain races and why some are not is the same as why some are attracted to, or not attracted to other traits, body type, income, occupation, the list is infinite. That does not equal discrimination, it isn't even in the same realm. Personally, I have seen and been attracted physically by some in every race that I can think of. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 1:57:40 PM |
if im not attracted to women does that make me discriminatory? or men under/over a certain age?
Yes it does but not all discrimination is wrong.
dis·crim·i·na·tion (dĭ-skrĭm'ə-nā'shən)
n.
The act of discriminating.
The ability or power to see or make fine distinctions; discernment.
Treatment or consideration based on class or category rather than individual merit; partiality or prejudice: racial discrimination; discrimination against foreigners.
While there exists negative forms of discrimination there are positive aspects as well. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 2:22:25 PM | ^^^ ok i'll go with that...
although my dictionary also states... "make or see a distinction esp. unjustly and on the basis of race, age, sex etc." and "select for unfavourable treatment"
"the literal meaning of to discriminate is to identify a difference."
(Thompson, N. 2006)
in my world, this chap thompson is a cool dood, he talks sense, so i will agree with ya.
so... back to the op. i have a preference then, but i still dont know why. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 2:24:25 PM | I think it is ok, I mean why not?
It's not like I have a driving urge to date outside my "zone." Nor am I attracted to anyone outside of it. I'm really not attracted... | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 3:12:26 PM | I likes 'em all!
It puts the lotion on the skin, or it gets the hose again! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 3:29:48 PM | I think its like Fords vs Chevies vs Toyotas etc
I used to always be a Chevy man but even then id have to admit that Ford made some ok cars and chevy made some clunkers. Toyota has their good ones and bad ones also.
There are beautiful white girls and ugly white girls. And that is speaking JUST of exterior looks. Same goes for all races.
Lately I have been enjoying the beauty of black women. Why? Well of course from a guys point of view all those curves arent hard on the eyes, lol. But also they tend to know how to SMILE a lot brighter and better.
I was in a local seafood joint last week and I was observing the waitresses. I mean, this place isnt high class by any means...its more of a feeding trough. So there are maybe 6 or so waitresses. Mostly youngish girls late teens to 20's. One black girl and the rest white. So of all of them which ONE had any smile or any presence going on??? I mean, come on...I know u r at work at a dead end job and u might not be super happy at that moment, but do you have to look MISERABLE??
The black girl (along with ONE of the white girls) was the only one smiling and the only one adding to her customers evening as opposed to taking from it. The rest of the white girls just looked totally sad and bored and obviously hated what they were doing. (yes, of course I know it is the opposite sometimes)
A while back this nice black girl came thru my area doing temp hospital work. I saw this new person in the gym with all of this energy and presence around her. Thats very attractive regardless of the race.
of course it must be stated from my point of view...its a good thing I like black girls as well as white since the white girls on POF cant be bothered to return any of my messages so far, lol | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 4:02:33 PM | IMO ....There are no analytical standards by which we can judge one set of preferences to be superior to another, we can think of preferences generally as likes and dislikes , the list of differences in human preferences is endless
I think discrimination is the act of choice vs prejudice is the act of decision-making on the basis of incomplete information.
Just my Canadian 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 4:41:44 PM | I don't really know WHY I am attracted to anyone inparticular. I don't specifically look for a certain ethnicity and I would be open to dating any one of them. Character is much more important than color. I never make a judgement only on a picture (unless they try to look overtly sexy, that's just not attractive to me). I almost always read the profiles before coming to a conclusion about whether I'm interested in the person or not. I suppose some people are just attracted to certain races by nature, and that's just the way they are, and that's okay. Maybe it's because of the way they were raised or where they grew up. Who knows?
This post reminds me of the song...."Red, Brown, Yellow, Black & White, we are precious in His sight, Jesus loves the little children of the world!"  | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 7:33:51 PM | | I have to ask... why in the WORLD did you decide to put Indian people in the same category as Latinos? At first I thought you meant Native American Indian (which would not be far off the mark, especially here in Texas where most Mexicans are part or 100% Apache), but no, you gave Native Americans their own category. Is it because you think they're the same kind of "color?" Either way, they definitely don't look anything like each other, so I can't imagine that they would have the same cultural appeal. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 7:54:19 PM | I think some of us are attracted to other races because we are born with that attraction in us.
Not being attracted to a whole race of people is a learned behavior. And, to me, if you think not dating someone out side of your race isn't racist, then you should re-read the definition of racism.
There are certain races of people I am not attracted to. And this is based on their phenotype (how they look). However, even inside that race, I will see women of that ethnicity that I think are very good looking and would date them. Also, if I get to know a female member of that race and I begin to become attracted to that woman, I will go for it like I would any other race of woman.
People that say they don't date anyone outside of their race because they don't find people of other races attractive are only fooling themselves. They are, in fact, being racist. Think about it. Out of the millions of people in any one race, you don't see someone in that group you are attracted to? Yeah, right.
Lateef | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:09:00 PM | | I can understand where you are coming from, being that I was raised in a multi-racial family I think that its not necessary about select discrimination but more often opportunity to experience dating outside your race. A lot of people have a comfort zone that they are unwilling to cross because of social and personal expectations. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:20:52 PM | race is one of those interesting issues that peopel tend to be emotional about. its funny to hear people discuss it.
For instance: Lets say a white guy starts dating a blk girl and no one in his family circle has crossed that barrier before. So his mother ends up in some situation where the subject comes up. She'll say "He's dating a REALLY PRETTY black girl...she's VERY light skinned". Its almost like she's trying to say "she's not all the way black"..."she's almost white"
or im sure it works the other way also. A black girl starts seeing a white guy and thats new to her family etc. They might say "she's dating a white guy...well, he's Italian" lol. The rest of them are then relieved like "oh cool, as long as he isnt blonde and blue" lol.
Sometimes they might say "oh, there are some very beautiful black girls"...as if that should come as some surprise. They are really more or less saying they dont like the race in general but there are some exceptions, lol.
Just this week I heard "Id never date a black guy...well, maybe 50cent". That in itself is a whole different thought process because its like saying "I dont like black people unless they are famous".
See also---> Halle Barry, Serena, Johnny Depp, Denzel, Derek Jeter, George Clooney, Pacino etc. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:28:48 PM | | There is no race where I would say they are all unattractive to me. In all races you are bound to find some people attractive . I do find some races generally more attractive though. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:38:27 PM | | ITS ALL PINK IN THE MIDDLE COLOR DOSENT MATTER ITS THE INSIDE THAT DOES I AM ATTRACTED TO ALL WOMAN AND RACES AS A GUY SAID BEFORE I LIKE THEM ALL | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:44:49 PM |
For instance: Lets say a white guy starts dating a blk girl and no one in his family circle has crossed that barrier before. So his mother ends up in some situation where the subject comes up. She'll say "He's dating a REALLY PRETTY black girl...she's VERY light skinned". Its almost like she's trying to say "she's not all the way black"..."she's almost white"
Actually you'd be surprised at how much the above happens within the black community. I tell you ...blacks, in my experience, are more "colorstruck" than whites are when it comes to "light skin"
Another thing to consider is that why some have felt their preferences come under fire the truth is many of us will see our personaly preferences change over the years. Almost all the non black women I've dated have been open and willing to explain their attraction to me. I found some to have an indifferent attitude "as long as I like him I don't care about what color he is" to some who have travelled a different road "when I was younger I preferred blondes and the later on I became attracted to black/Asian/Latin etc"
Some issues in life change with such blinding speed it's hard for the person to make heads or tails of it.
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joro
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:51:50 PM | once upon a time not so long long ago on a planet right under our feet, there was a world where irish and italian were looked at as socially incompatible. times change. thank god. maybe in 30 more years, this will be a moot question entirely. we can only hope. maybe this doesnt help today, but at least it offer hope for tomorrow.
pof on | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:04:25 PM | | I live in a multi-ethnic, multi-cultural family and world. I have always been fascinated with languages. I have to admit I have always loved to date outside of my own ethnicity. Of the list you have posted, I have fallen in love with men of all those ethnicities. People are people though and I have never just liked one "type" of person. To me, a man is a man is a man. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:05:14 PM | yeah Obsidian, it is rather amusing to hear "black" people describe one another. Skin color is almost always the first thing mentioned. like "u know, Curtis, light skinned brother down in shipping". If that doesnt ring a bell then maybe they describe his hairstyle, lol. if that doesnt work then what car does he drive.
But yeah, im in Virginia...we werent really raised to approve of interracial dating, lol. But I figure Im grown enough to make up my own mind. My feelings and beliefs have changed quite a bit over the years.
haha, just a few minutes ago I walked into a convenience store. There was a blk girl working there and maybe 4 of her black friends standing there talking. They were getting really loud, joking etc. So I walked in and the one friend was like "shhhh, shhhh" and I heard her say "we dont want people to complain about the colored folks being too loud" or something like that. I knew she was talking about me..sort of like "uh oh, there's a white person". I grabbed some stuff and walked around to the counter where they were and I laughed and told her "ya'll go ahead and talk, ive heard colored folks talk before" lol. ( I just used her term.."colored folks") We all had a good laugh...I told em I didnt work for the newspaper or anything so I didnt care what they talked about.
the terms "black" and "white" dont mean much anyway. Whats white? You've got Italians which look NOTHING at all like Swedes which look NOTHING at all like Irish people which look NOTHING at all like Germans but u r gonna just call em all "white"? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 9:18:22 PM | | I don't have a preference. I just like women. I go through phases where I find that I'm more attracted to the features of one race over the other, but it's never led to me writing anyone off. I know that my grandparents would have an issue with me dating someone outside of my race, but my mother would be cool with it and her opinion is the only one that matters (other than mine, of course). | |
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