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|i went to a funeral last week of a guy i got to know on a forum on the net. lovely guy he was. married with 2 grown up boys. he died last week of pancreatic cancer aged just 48. it was a humanist funeral service. this is only the 2nd one of these i have been too and what a lovely service it was.|
im not religious in any way - causes far too much trouble in my opinion. a few of his favourite songs were played and things read by friends etc.
no hymns, no prayers
when my time comes thats what i want.
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:37:40 PM
when my time comes thats what i want.I hope you get what you want, but not for a very long time.
Personally I have no preference as to my funeral, I believe that after death there is no further link to the corporeal world. The funeral is, in my opinion, an event for the living.
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:53:09 PM
|I've been to a humanist funeral, and thought it was a lovely way to mark the end of someones life - without all the religious poppycock which one has to endure at a 'churchified' type thing.|
The funeral is, in my opinion, an event for the living
I wholeheartedly agree. I have discussed mine with my next of kin, and told her that she can do whatever she feels will be most helpful to her. I won't be dealing with it - she will!
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:55:39 PM
|Too many threads about the death today !!!|
I'd forget about going to die one day and just live my life today and now !
Posted: 7/27/2008 4:05:06 PM
|My six yr old has been enquiring about death a lot lately.The usual why do we have to die and what happens afterwards stuff. I did all the explaining about the soul goes to heaven and the body gets disposed of.|
She asked me what would i like to happen to my body,so i told her it wouldn't really matter so she could chuck me on the bonfire if she wished.She said no to that idea as she didnt want my head to explode! and said she would bury me in the back garden with the rabbit instead,so i guess thats my humanist funeral sorted!.
Posted: 7/27/2008 4:17:12 PM
|i have no idea what a humanist funeral is too be honest.. i have only ever been to one aged 16 and it wasnt a nice affair, so i count my self lucky i have a long life history in my family and when im dead you can do what you want cos i promise ill come back and haunt you |
Posted: 7/27/2008 6:46:40 PM
and said she would bury me in the back garden with the rabbit instead
Would that include batteries?
Posted: 7/27/2008 6:58:17 PM
|I've never been to a humanist funeral, but I would want one for myself. When I attended my mum's funeral the religious aspect of it had absolutely no meaning to me, but as she was Catholic it would have meant something to her and if her beliefs were correct in any way then she would have seen the service and acknowledged it as a nice send off, as would God. There is no way I'll find out if a religious service opens the gates to heaven though as I'll be dead at the time and God etc doesn't exist|
Posted: 7/28/2008 12:38:27 AM
|My mum had a humanist funeral last year.It was lovely!Talking about her life and listening to a few of the songs she loved.Her coffin was behind these beautiful ornate gates which were open to start with and then the guy conducting the service closed them as a symbol of her leaving this life and going forward into the next.Her grandchildren then released balloons outside afterwards.It was very moving in its simplicity.|
Posted: 7/28/2008 12:40:45 AM
|Like other posters I had never heard of this type of funeral but after googlin' it I'm lovin' the concept of it !!|
I've been to so many insincere funerals where people have said the complete opposite to what that person was really like and where hymns were sung at atheists/agnostics funerals ???
I'm likin' the honest and more human touch that "Humanist funerals" entail , wonder what mine would be hmmmm...........
"Here lies the body of old Macforty ...............
Posted: 7/28/2008 3:04:36 AM
|"Here lies the body of old Macforty |
cheeky and randy and oh so naughty".
I think humanist funerals are so much more personal - tailored to the person being mourned and their loved ones. Unlike the churchified ones which are generic.
Posted: 7/28/2008 3:10:33 AM
|I have witnessed a few humanist weddings and they were the best i've experienced.|
Better than all that religious nonsense.
Posted: 7/28/2008 3:16:53 AM
|Not heard of this before but getting the gist it sounds great my only 2 requests are cremation cos i don't want worms eating me, and everyone have a buddy big party afterwards and laugh and sing and drink and dance as if i was there.|
Posted: 7/28/2008 5:57:45 AM
|Went to Humanist funeral a few years ago. Found is so much better, more personal than a Church funeral. |
Friends and family spoke about the deceased and the service was full of anecdotes and laughter. Just the way he would have wanted it.
I tend to find that unless you attend Church regularly if you have a Church funeral then it is very impersonal.
I know what my choice would be. Just got to decide whether I want cremation or burial now and also which side of the Channel.
Posted: 7/28/2008 6:01:50 AM
|I don't belong to any religion, I don't go to any church. So my final farewell won't take place in a church. Bit of a piss take really if I did.|
So I will be opting for a humanist funeral. People will be banned from wearing black too. I also want to be cremated, will leave it up to my son where he chucks my ashes.
Posted: 7/28/2008 7:58:19 AM
|I'm like loads on here never heard of it before.....|
Sounds lovely tho......
I had religon forced upon me growing up so am i chuff being sent off in a church.... i wanna be cremated but if a family member has passed away shortly before me or in recent months it has to be a diff crematorium ( however u spell it ) as you get reminded of the last service you attended there...... I insist on an upbeat song to be remembered by not something sad thats makes you wanna cry til you cant cry anymore.....
And everyone in jeans no dull black suits n skirts and a massive party after to celebrate my life not mourn it
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:03:37 AM
| Imagine the trouble there going to have gettin the coffin lid down on your huge breats ooh how i wish i was a coffin nailer downer im going to try and die in my bin on a monday night because my bins get emptied on a tuesday knowing my luck a dog will climb up and knock bin over and drag me down the street oooh the scandal.|
Posted: 7/28/2008 2:54:43 PM
|I also had not heard of these, so I checked it out as well, sounds great to me, I shall certainly be letting the cat know my wishes for my funeral arrangments |
Posted: 7/28/2008 3:17:16 PM
|i had a humanist funeral for my husband when he died.neither of us are religious and i just asked at the funeral parlour if there was any other way than have a vicar doing it.a lovely woman came to my house and asked details of johns life and she just read out all the relevant details...cos obviously i couldnt do it!she was great.|
| Lori 8|
Posted: 7/29/2008 8:57:33 AM
|they get no government funding etc and rely entirely on donations etc|
i was a little surprised at how many had never heard of this as an option so im glad i posted this and would like to thank those that took the time to reply.
Posted: 8/4/2013 10:31:18 AM
|Right then you lot.|
Humanist funerals i would think most would have
attended one. But today i was invited (yes i do still
get invited places) to a naming ceremony.
Now i hadn't heard of one or been invited to one before
but what a barry day out. It was nice weather today so
seats outside in the hotels gardens and a signing of the
book and a bairns party although the adults could have a bevvy
as well (the right guzzlefest starts when
the sprogs are away hame) and just a good auld day.
Organised religion is dying a death in the west but i think
these naming things are the mutts nuts.
So congratulations to J and her geezer and best wishes to
Just a pity J's dad who was my best mate never made it
to see it happen.
But always in our thoughts Johnny boy.
Have any of you lot attended anything called a naming party
Vlad (the slightly inebriated) Dracul
Posted: 8/4/2013 11:42:29 AM
|My youngest Daughter is expecting in September and this^^^^^^^ is what she was saying she wanted instead of a Christening or Baptism. Don't know any details of what this would entail, but knowing them I would imagine they will organize something in a woodland glade or a beach in Wales.|
Posted: 8/4/2013 12:01:27 PM
|Well the one i attended was held in a hotels garden (stuck a photie on my profile|
for a wee while) and it was a celebration of the birth of N and a euology to Jand her man.
The bairns had a great time running about like maddies and there was a bouncy castle
thingy and mickey mouse made an appearance. Not everyones cup of tea but the bairns
loved it so bollocks to the killjoy naysayers.
Tell you what your lassie has made a good choice and everyone will enjoy themselves
apart from the christian taliban.
Give her every encouragement and enjoy the day. We did. And as the naming was ending
we all had a glass of champagne and shouted out the wee mans name three times as a
toast and then downed the champagne (and the champagne that others did not want because
its rude to leave a full glass)
Wish your bairn all the best from edinburgh and more to the point ENJOY the day
Posted: 8/4/2013 2:34:36 PM
|Regardless of race, religion, or creed...people are a lot like 5 year old threads. We should let them rest in peace.|
Posted: 8/4/2013 11:31:39 PM
|Thanks Vlad, I am looking forward to it. and back on topic, I have been saying for years I would like 'One of those funerals in a woodland' I suppose its time to looking properly into it.|