| Attractive, self assessment
Posted: 7/28/2008 5:31:17 PM | Question: If you read a profile and the author states they are "Attractive" or even "Very Attractive", what are your immediate thoughts?,
Do you gaze at the profile photos and think... "Yep not bad" or "in your dreams missus", or "who are you kidding mister" or maybe you consign the profile to the bin having decided the person is conceited?
What do you think? are these conceited individuals, do you consider them insecure, after all if they are secure in themselves, surely, they have no need to re-enforce it with self appraising statements?
Aesthetically, I am a full scale deflection on the "ming-o-meter" but comfortable with it, so is it right for me to consider these as poor unfortunates who are uncomfortable or even insecure with their own aesthetics?
Your thoughts..
Dr Nom
Hmm then again, maybe my own "comfort" is a paradox? | |
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| Attractive, self assessment
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:49:02 PM | | I think most people do not like to admit that maybe they are not attractive, it does take a lot of self confidence to realise you have hit a couple of branches on the ugly tree on the way down (me? I hit most of them lol), so I don't think its fair to criticize as most people (even me lol) are attractive to someone | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 11:50:26 PM | Personally i don't like profiles where they state they are very attractive, a lady doesn't need to say it if she is,also i think they are too concerned about looks for me as im a ugly brute.No im not into vain people, nothing wrong with looking your best and women taking care of there looks. But i see beauty in maybe the eyes more than the whole face.
I don't mind profiles saying they think or there freinds tell them they are quite attractive though.However i don't rate pictures and make judgements,photo's can be deceiving anyway, a person can look totally different from a side profile and in real life(3d). | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 12:02:01 AM | You cant love someone till you can love yourself. If you cant look in the mirror and go I look good today then you're not about to make anyone think you do. So what if you're not stereotypically good looking, if you feel good then you're going to look good to all those around you. I'm sure many a woman will tell you that a positive upbeat attitude will attract them but if you're down on yourself because you just don't look like some gorgeous model then that'll be what makes someone lose interest in you.
Smile and the whole world smiles with you as they say! 
Sure there are some men/women that know how good they look and can be shallow and conceited but those are the people you leave to it and let them do their own thing. Would you really want to get to know someone like that? Just because a man/woman looks good and thinks they're very attractive doesn't mean they're not a typical person like you and me. It's who they are that'll turn you on or off. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 12:26:03 AM | | Well said Pinch. Anyway when there's a pic there who needs the person to give us their self assessment? It is useful though, to see those who have a certain opinion of themselves. Then again what's wrong if they do consider themselves to be attractive? It's just an observation. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 1:30:02 AM | When i read that on someone,s profile i wonder whether they are trying to convince themselves or other people or are just plain conceited!To some they will be attractive and to others not so.Mind you, i hardly think that someone is going to state on their profile that they are butt ugly We are all attractive in our own way whether that be in looks or personality and we will always be attractive to someone,somewhere.At the end of the day we shouldn,t judge someone just by the outer packaging.I dont think its neccesary to put attractive or not on a profile.Others will see us as they see us. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 1:36:07 AM | Couldn't agree with you more Urban Flower. I think when you start to judge a person on the outside you never get to see what's inside!
I'd much rather be with someone who makes me smile, laugh and love spending time with them than having to be one of those people who thinks she's so hot but damn she's stupid! Not saying every attractive person is stupid.. far from it but I've known many a man to stick with a girl because of her looks even when he couldn't stand her personality. Now that is stupid!
Do you think there are people that would call themselves ugly? See I think once you go down that road people will agree with you because you wont listen to someone who says you're gorgeous because you yourself just don't believe it. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 2:25:45 AM | Long time, no see, Nom!
I think most of us instinctively know where we fit in an 'attractiveness scale', though some on this site are plainly delusional.
I also think that, so long as one has a few decent photo's on ones profile, there is absolutely no reason to put anything about appearance in a profile. Isn't that what photos are for? | |
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| Attractive, self assessment
Posted: 7/29/2008 3:11:27 AM |
Question: If you read a profile and the author states they are "Attractive" or even "Very Attractive", what are your immediate thoughts?
That they are ugly on the inside. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 3:16:26 AM |
Question: If you read a profile and the author states they are "Attractive" or even "Very Attractive", what are your immediate thoughts?
If there is a picture why do they feel the need to give us this self judgement?
If no picture, are they telling porky pies?
I have seen a few profiles where guys say they are 'tall and dark' and miss off the handsome bit. That I like, shows that they are non-conceited maybe. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 3:26:20 AM | They need counselling for narcissistic personality disorder, people who emphasize on attractiveness in a profile just lack originality and imagination.
A banana (or any other fruit) might look beautifully clean on the outside until you peel it back revealing that it's ugly, battered, black and bruised inside thus tasting bitter. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 3:32:13 AM | I move along to the next profile.....
Bigging yourself up can be slightly unattractive.....
I always think....If you think you are that attractive why the hell are you on a dating site ???? | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 3:40:41 AM | I have seen loads of these "i would consider myself attractive" profiles. Trouble is i havent found a single one of them attractive myself.
I am all for the love yourself first business,fine but it doesn't need shouting from the rooftops does it.
There are a lot of vain arroganant people about and if that comes across in a profile then they will attract like minded people i expect. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 4:00:52 AM | You may all blah on, but you KNOW Im drop dead average looking, anyway it wouldnt stand up in court unless the magistrate was a real looker!  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 5:12:02 AM | Me Nan says I'm lovely and can't understand why no woman will have me, me ex says she knows but aint telling.
Agreed tat one doesn't need to put anything about one's attractiveness in a profile, those that do will often be the shallow type who see beauty as only skin deep...... | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 5:18:40 AM | Hey Nom good to see you about 
I find it strange for people to describe thierselfs as very attractive,surely its up to other people to make that assumption.
I dont think myself a dog but i dont think im nothing special either.And when i read it in profiles it does put me off as i tend to think,that the person involved is up thier own arse. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 5:29:38 AM | Well it could also be a sarcastic/ cheeky/cocky statement that just doesn't come across well in a profile. Maybe that's where they go wrong.
I'll take the piss and be a sarcastic bugger and turn around and call myself gorgeous and the best looking man aroundwhilst giving the you all fancy me look but those I'm with know me so know I'm not a vain prat about it. It's just me taking the piss. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 5:30:14 AM | I'm Very very very attractive. In fact, I am beautiful, no matter what they say. Words won't bring me down ooooh ooooo.
I can't fit my head up my own ass though, I tried and I got my legs stuck on my shoulders.
If someone think they are attractive, fair play. Nothing wrong with self confidence. But reading it on some one's profile declaring that they are attractive, isn't attractive. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 5:48:41 AM |
If you read a profile and the author states they are "Attractive" or even "Very Attractive", what are your immediate thoughts?,
Do you gaze at the profile photos and think... "Yep not bad" or "in your dreams missus", or "who are you kidding mister" or maybe you consign the profile to the bin having decided the person is conceited?
It might not be anything to do with their looks - they may consider themselves to have an atrractive personality.
If I'm reading their profile, then I've already looked at their pics.
I have no problem with people who describe themselves thus.......even if I disagree with them. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 9:24:10 AM | Having read the replies to my original post , I wish to clarify, I have no issue with someone possessing self confidence - especially with their aesthetics.
I agree that we are all in effect "marketing" our selves to prospective buyers (Partners) but
unlike retail goods, we already know what is likely to be inside the "human" package irrespective of the pretty box.
What struck me was the irony of it all, surely, if you are attractive and you post a photo displaying you in all your glorious beauty then you need not state you are "attractive", it just seemed to me as unnecessary, frankly rather vulgar and demonstrating insecurity.
Even if, as one post considered, the attraction to which a profile author refers could be "inner self", there is still no need to state it, for surely, is it not for another to discover our "inner beauty"? or are we all becoming so lonely that we need to blatantly and overtly sell ourselves on the POF market?
Choose me , me me ....oi over here... I AM VERY ATTRACTIVE.
Dr Nom
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| Attractive, self assessment
Posted: 7/29/2008 9:31:46 AM | What struck me was the irony of it all, surely, if you are attractive and you post a photo displaying you in all your glorious beauty then you need not state you are "attractive", it just seemed to me as unnecessary, frankly rather vulgar and demonstrating insecurity.
Yeah, the vulgarity of it all. Lol
And i agree it is not necessary to say that you are attractive yadda yadda. But it is good to shout it out loud, like this..
<<<<<<<<<< I AM BLOODY ATTRACTIVE! And oi oi! Over here oi!
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Posted: 7/29/2008 9:44:56 AM | It puts me off,when i see it on someones profile
I think why are you on a dating site then if your so attractive/beautiful
Its very big headed
They may think they are,but it dosnt mean we think they are | |
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