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Posted: 7/29/2008 9:57:47 PM | (1) What do you think about WOMEN initiating contact on POF and other online dating website? Is it a sign of CONFIDENCE? or all things NEGATIVE: aggressive, desperate, easy, unattractive, ??? 
(2a) How can you tell when someone is re-visiting your profile?
(2b) When they re-visit and don't contact you is it: oops, didn't mean to do that? maybe person will notice me and contact me? or??? 
So, can U tell, getting back into the dating world, here we go again...  | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 8:22:47 PM | Isnt that close to the ultimate question for singles (male or female)? If someone makes first contact it really could be either ,confidence or all the negatives. So how can you tell which it is? Well, in my opinion trying to meet someone online really isnt much different from meeting someone anywhere else in that you cant know someone until yo get to know them and you run the risk of that person being someone you really dont want to know. They could also be the person you have been looking for your entire life.Heh, I know I havent answered the question.I guess all you can really do is throw the dice and hope ya dont get crabs.....ummm...craps.
As far as revisiting someones profile,it could be that they are:
a) shy and getting up the nerve to contact you
b) simply clicking on profiles that look interesting and yours keeps catching their eye (its a compliment)
c) hoping you will notice them and contact them first
d) looking at you profile because you are HOTTT!!!!!!
c) stalking you and you should call the e-police
Personally, a b c and d apply to me. I cant stalk anyone... Im too big to hide in the bushes.
Well,thats my two cents. Good Luck to all and Happy  | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 8:25:33 PM | I really don't think that it matters who contacts who first.I personally, would view it as confidence and there is nothing wrong with that. I really don't view it as a negative at all.
When someone visits your profile and you check it.the pictures are arranged in order of last visited.So unless you hide your self from being tracked or you are the only person to visit that persons profile.they could simply check the photo for who visited them last. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 8:46:01 PM | RandyG70:
Thank you for the input! Thanks especially for (d)  As for (c) I've seen many bushes here in Vegas you can hide in. There are some freaking large shrubs in Vegas of all places!!!
Yeah, dating (or even meeting) sure is a gamble these days. Oh and I agree, I prefer the crabs that are found in water NOT on people!!!
Great looking dog, looks very happy & healthy. Speaks well of you! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 8:50:53 PM | Islandsurfah:
Share your positive impression of confident women with others, it could be that single encouragement that could start something.
Tracking and visiting profiles: thanks! | |
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Posted: 8/1/2008 9:49:53 PM | WOW! This thread died fast! I'm rather disappointed, thought that at least question (1) would get more input. Oh well, onwards to posts for "dating in the 30's"
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Posted: 8/4/2008 12:57:54 AM | | I wish more women would initiate contact, Im normally kinda clueless on signals anyway, but online here they aren't even there for me to miss. As far as I can tell, its really the girls that get to make the decisions anyway, its rare as hell for a girl to be all over a guy and him not to be interested. So yhea, if you like a guy, do him a favor, tell em! | |
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Posted: 11/25/2008 5:52:54 PM | (1) I wish they would. No one contacts me. I tried getting help here and they deleted the threads I started. So I've no idea what to say to women. Hopefully a woman would talk to me.
As to the others I've never had any women or any one else really visit my profile in forever, so I don't know about that stuff. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2009 8:26:54 PM | | But wouldn't you be more interested in the end in someone who you found first? I'm not saying I don't say hello, but I have found that things go even better when a guy contacts me first. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 4:04:03 PM | (1) I think its a sign of confidence; a very positive sign at that.
(2a) I believe its always reflected as to who last visited your profile starting with the most recent.
(2b) Maybe that person is just trying to make up his/her mind if he/she really wants to contact you. I wouldn't try to read too much into it, unless you really feel you're a worthy victim of a cyber stalker.
Just the world according to me. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 5:00:12 AM | Answering your questions:
1) What do you think about WOMEN initiating contact on POF and other online dating website? Is it a sign of CONFIDENCE? or all things NEGATIVE: aggressive, desperate, easy, unattractive, ???
Could be any reason to make initial contact. I contact people that are intellects so I can have conversations with thought, depth, etc. Am I aggressive or desperate? No...neither...but if people wish to think I am either, then that's their issue and in real life we probably wouldn't be compatible anyway! So...the online thing prevented a bad date. If a woman makes initial contact and asks a man about his size, Viagra or not or immediately starts discussing oral sex, then she's obviously easy!! Otherwise the rest is left open for indiviual interpretation! Ugly or not = Personal preference. What one calls a Muttley, another might like.
(2a) How can you tell when someone is re-visiting your profile?
I have no idea. (2b) When they re-visit and don't contact you is it: oops, didn't mean to do that? maybe person will notice me and contact me? or???
This thing - if you read the fine print on the pages that say somebody thinks your hot or they visited your profile, it's a lie from the site. It says on the page in smaller letters that there is no guarantee they looked at your page. It's a gimmick to get you to open up profiles, which I have done - looked at those pages - I simply thought if the site wanted to be more successful with this gimmick, at least put the "matches" closer to home instead of posting pictures from Mississippi when I live in NV. So...this thing that you are asking about....maybe the person NEVER looked at your site to accept or reject you - they were simply thrown into the system wherein it says they did - POF marketing/ploy here. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 11:20:27 AM | | LOL.... that is what I get for not looking at the fine print! I thought I was getting checked out! If it says I checked out your profile, assume it is true. I am a habitual lookey lou! | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 11:31:26 AM | LOL! I was feelin' kinda sexy myself until all these people from Mississippi were showing up on these lists and I re-read my own profile to make sure it said Las Vegas, NV where I live....WHAT'S UP WITH MISSISSIPPI??? So...I had to take a peek - Dang! I am not hot after all!! They don't want me!! They don't know me!!!  I think I got the MS bunch due to a computer glitch and failed marketing strategy one fine day!!   | |
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Posted: 2/5/2009 1:17:17 PM | | I think there is a Las Vegas, Mississippi that is causing the problem. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 2:46:49 PM | | I'm extremely shy and I'm here on POF and I dont dare make first contact with a woman, I'm too shy to do it so ya I wait for contact from them. And to me them making the first move is not a bad thing. So they stop by and say hi or what ever let them, and go from there, talk chat what ever. Look I'm scared to death to talk to women unless they start the conversation then I'm fine so hell let them come to you and go from there it cant hurt can it? | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 12:42:11 AM | | I wish women would make first contact. I don't have a problem with making first contact, but it would be nice to see a woman who CLAIMS to be outgoing come and message me asking about something. I've been told that I have a pretty good profile and that I'm a good-looking guy. So I'm like - what's the problem? Just message me...I won't bite. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 6:45:24 PM | look if your interested in someone (especially if that someone is me *L*) can you honestly say your going to miss out on finding out because of outdated gender roles?
if you look and like someones profile they by all means say hello do it in the same way you would hope a man would approach you
there are people I've ended up being drawn too more than one occasion so I'd say if someone has looked at your profile more than once its a sign of interest, from someone whom may be a little shy | |
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Posted: 8/16/2009 2:41:31 AM | Honestly, who gives a rip?
If you spend all day and night philosophizing about it, you'll never get anywhere. Eddie Belfour didn't become an amazing goaltender by sitting at home and READING about stopping pucks, he was out there DOING it.
Example given: I'm typing this from a new girl"friend's" computer. Just met her yesterday. If I hadn't ever gone up and said "Hi random person in Blockbuster" I sure as hell wouldn't be here right now, would I? | |
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Posted: 9/5/2009 4:02:13 PM | From Randy
"As far as revisiting someones profile,it could be that they are:
a) shy and getting up the nerve to contact you
b) simply clicking on profiles that look interesting and yours keeps catching their eye (its a compliment)
c) hoping you will notice them and contact them first
d) looking at you profile because you are HOTTT!!!!!!
c) stalking you and you should call the e-police"
lol, thank you! I too fall in the category of simply clicking profiles that catch my eye and I'm glad I'm not the only one... a couple people have been like "you keep looking"
lol, "if you made your second pic your first pic we wouldn't have this problem hun" (j/k, i'm not *that* mean)
Plus, I can't remember for the life of me what I had for breakfast, I'm gonna remember a 1 inch thumb I saw for 2 seconds a week ago? | |
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