AlmaM
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:03:28 AM | 
Have you ever had a cyber crush?
I had one several years ago.. it was very mmmmmm (how do you put it??) ..lets say intensive.. haha. and it was on another forum Many of my froends and my sister were reading it .. many people followed the affair ... we both got banned on the end so it is how it all ended
I never met this person and even do not know their name but I still remember the stuff written 
And I remember me walking in the streets alone and could not stop laughing over something written on that forum by that person.. and then it was a bus next to me and people from the bus saw me laughing and they waved to me  silly woman | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:10:47 AM |
I never met this person and even do not know their name but I still remember the stuff written
So your cyber crush could have been a 90yr old bloke with a saggy scrote and a colostomy bag for all you knew
Have you ever had a cyber crush?
No i cant be @rsed with real life crushes never mind fantasy ones. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:15:57 AM | Yes. I have. More than one, actually.
One was on someone from here, who I eventually met and had a relationship with for a while. He was lovely, but not the one for me, and I guess Karma took it's course. (oblique reference for very old forumites!)
It's amazing how powerful and, as the OP puts it, intense these things can be.
Waiting for them to come on line, hoping for messages, directing every post you make toward them or something the two of you have been discussing, getting the heartflutter when you get something in your inbox, following every post they make, thinking about them ALL the time, imagining meetings (yes - those imaginings can be really quite intense!), rushing to the computer whenever you have been off line........
It's a little like being in love - but without all the reality! | |
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AlmaM
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Joined: 3/20/2008
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:17:14 AM | Don't have time for stoopid ass crushes.........
If i chat to someone and we click then i want to hear their voice on the phone then meet feck hanging around draggin it all out.....
If we dont click in person i move onto my next victim.........
So no no cyber crushes here thanking you muchly  | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:21:12 AM |
It's amazing how powerful and, as the OP puts it, intense these things can be.
Waiting for them to come on line, hoping for messages, directing every post you make toward them or something the two of you have been discussing, getting the heartflutter when you get something in your inbox, following every post they make, thinking about them ALL the time, imagining meetings (yes - those imaginings can be really quite intense!), rushing to the computer whenever you have been off line........
Doesn't sound to bad i suppose plus theres no cleaning up the mess after sex.
Now i just need a victim to be my cyber crush..it wont hurt i promise. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:23:45 AM | | I really must get my eyes tested.. I thought the question here was 'Ever had a cyber Bush' Duh..!! | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 12:06:52 PM | Chatting online can be very captivating and before you know it hours have gone by. In the early stages of making contact with someone you'd like to date I may be affected like this. Wanting to log on and see if there is a reply, and getting all excited when there is etc. But then of course it either peters out or you meet up and things go from there.
Kath111 said "Now i just need a victim to be my cyber crush..it wont hurt i promise."
OOOOH Me! Me! Oh Pick Me! Me! Me! Me! Pick Me!!
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 12:33:35 PM |
Ever had a cyber crush?
Yes.
I don't know how many POF'ers are members of Second Life but I have been for about 18 months now.
In May of last year I met a Belgian girl on there. We initially got chatting, then one thing led to another and we had a 'virtual affair'....... most odd, but wierdly wonderful in it's own way. We would chat for hours in the game and, eventually, on VOIP and then on the phone.
Then we decided to meet in real life. It all happened quite quickly and 1st July last year saw me flying to Brussels and checking into the Le Meridian Hotel for 2 nights. OMG, she was much more gorgeous than I thought!!
The whole thing played out as per our 'game' on Second Life...... and we had an amazing couple of days. She was 32, I was 57.......... waaaaayhaaaaay!
But that was it! It ended there. Neither of us could see a way to making it work long term. She had a business in Belguim, I had businesses in the UK and in Eastern Europe and neither of us could give those up.
I would have been perfectly happy to fly over to Brussels every week or so to continue things as they were; perfectly happy as some of you guys might imagine! She wanted more, which we couldn't give each other. So it ended almost before it began. 
But it was brilliant while it lasted!
Sad eh? | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 1:02:06 PM | ^^^ not sad at all, just a bit unfortunate that the timing was all wrong - better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
I know of the man SJS speaks of and I have to say you were so right to have a crush on that lovely man and lucky it was reciprocated too - he's a very cool guy.
Cyber crushes are fun and make you happy for a while...personally, I've had my fill of them especially after realising one cyber crush was actually just someone who literally trawls the net looking for unsuspecting women to woo and romance in order to persuade them to get their tits out on web cam.
Very disappointing to realise that he was such a fake and yet another lonely perverted player type who preys on nice open women to get his jollies.....when I think back now to how he conned me into believing he was a sincere open person who did care, I'm quite embarrassed, especially because I see him use the same lines with other women quite openly, always claiming he's just having a bit of banter - he's such a dog!!. I'm disgusted that he didn't use original lines designed especially for wooing me but just his usual standard ones....that's the worst of it for me and I thought I was special too !!!
My favourite cyber crush is an Irish guy called billy (that's his psuedonym), it wasn't that I felt feelings of love for him but he was the most fun person I've ever chatted to, for weeks on end we text each other and spoke drunkenly online and it was non-stop laughter all the way...and we still chat away now but instead of flirting like mad we talk about more serious things - I definitely made a connection with him.
But I do have small as yet undeveloped crushes on a few men I know online who I think are just great, you sort of have to have a little crush of sorts in order to want to bother getting to know people ...I feel. Some crushes last long after the person isn't around anymore - I still retain my big crush for fab Vinny 4 * | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 1:27:11 PM | I don't know what a 'crush' is - I know loads of burds keep asking me to strip on cam, is that a crush?
Get out and MEET people for heavens sake! Start doing that cyber stuff and it makes your keyboard hard to clean I'm told! | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 1:34:45 PM | My last 'serious' relationship started by email!
We worked in different cities for the same organisation and he had legitimate cause to need to initiate email exchanges on a fairly regular basis.
Polite discussion of how's the weather, how're you? got more and more friendly over a few months. He rang me a couple of times and he caught me really off guard, I was embarrassed and nervous and was probably very clumsy or snobby or both!
At some point we exchanged private email addresses and phone numbers and before we knew it we were doing everything from being agony aunts to cyber sex pals together!
It was so frustrating at first that our pictures weren't on the company website, but later we decided we'd keep the mystery and excitement and not see each other until we met. He was no greek god, and for an instant I was disappointed, but it didn't last, he was the man I'd shared everything with for months and spent more time in conversation with by phone, text & email than I had the father of my kids in probably all the years since the kids were born!(To clarify, this happened after I became single!)
Its the only time when not knowing someone first has ever worked for me. It was a different sort of relationship, very deep, very passionate, but unusual 'rules' and when we tried to get traditional about it to make it practical I guess that's when it stopped working. Very sad, but I wouldn't take it back, he was more special to me than its rational to think he could be, both when it just cyber and when it was face to face every weekend and day off we could spare. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 1:44:23 PM | Yup
Ive had loads to be fair,never been so bad they dissoliussion my way of thinking.
I just tell myself"give your head a shake Lal its the net"
I did have a pretty bad crush on a couple of forumites a little while back,but they fizzled out as fast as they developed,i get bored easy ya see | |
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AlmaM
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Joined: 3/20/2008
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 3:33:33 PM |
he was the man I'd shared everything with for months and spent more time in conversation with by phone, text & email than I had the father of my kids in probably all the years since the kids were born!
Oh.. this is what another friend of mine says too... that she got so close with a man on the net, closer than with her ex husband...
Mmm, I never got closer to anyone more than my ex .. in terms of telling stuff.. he knows me inside out.. and I never had any secrets with him ( but this is maybe because we were friends before we became partners) .. so I would feel very strange to tell some guy on the net my secrets which I never told my RL partner ... | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 4:07:24 PM | HAHAHAHAHAHA erm.... yeah, maybe a little one - for a short while, until he fell for my charm and wit, then turned into a whilwind something or another in the 'real world'......
He had many a crush on him and damn, the man deserved it all - in every respect possible! 
Never since and never again.
Online personas can be what you want.............. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 4:27:04 PM | I had one about 4 - 5 years ago with someone in Glasgow, was a grandmother of 2, has three or four kids of her own, and who is about 15 years older than I am. It lasted for about 15 months I think. We never met. We were planning to meet at one time until a spanner got thrown in the works. We chatted for hours online and on the phone, sending one another letters and presents. I must admit we met in a chatroom. Despite all of the above, she used to do me head in what it felt like the third degree at times for some reason or another. Though it's all over, I still get the odd message from her once in a while via text.
Then about 3 years ago I met someone else in a chatroom from Reading, it was more of a physical relationship than a cyber one as I used to stay at hers every other weekend - it was only about and hour and a half away from me in Cardiff. For some reason unbeknown to me she ended it! | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 5:27:33 PM | oohhh i want one.. feel left out where do i get one??
im new to all this
where do ii sign up? | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 5:38:29 PM | Get a grip people, stop living in a Mills & Boon novel.
How can you really have a crush on anyone upon the basis of a two-dimensional photo and written words. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:33:30 PM | msg 19
oh go on burst my bubble probs the same as you with your nuts mag!!
Ooops.. ps... thought it was a drink like orange crush... | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:47:46 PM | get a grip on what exactly ?
A crush by definition is just an innocent term to describe thinking someone is great/lovely/nice, that you admire them, I'm quite sure that is allowed.
Even in the real world a crush on someone pre-empts you're wanting to know them better but isn't necessarily based on the reality of knowing the person well, even if you have seen them in the flesh.
It's just harmless fun or should be - but some crushes take a sinister turn and the crusher ends up stalking the crushee, which is worrying alright.
So how did it happen that some posters on this thread are denouncing cyber crushes like it's some kind of plague exclusive to social misfits, stuck indoors and not living their lives...when they are regular posters on here and their posts are so frank and honest that you'd swear they were talking to real people and not just imaginary 2 dimensional figures they dreamed up in their heads ??
Oh and it's a dating site too, so your denunciations are contradicting the reason why you are here ...surely ?
VVVV You have quite the imagination by all accounts. I say you should do whatever makes you happy as long as it doesn't harm other people. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:52:07 PM | Is a Television program personality stretching cyber crush too far?
Hope it is not, cos I have to push the boundaries just a little further - always had a bit of a thing for Marge Simpson ~ is it a crush?
Is it a cyber crush? (They have websites dedicated to them!) | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/30/2008 7:38:54 PM | | Yes I have. A girl that used to post on here last year. Funnily enough I sent her a text this afternoon. We still keep in touch via text every so often. It wasn't like I was besotted or anything but I did / do like her a lot. I remember the first time she phoned me , I had knots in my stomach and could barely speak a coherent sentence. I'm never like that , so it was bizarre but kinda nice at the same time. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/31/2008 1:06:59 AM | I once had a cyber crush. It was great fun whilst it lasted.
However, as soon as it moved into a real life situation I managed to make a total @rse of it by acting like a complete tosser.
I still kick myself occasionally to make sure that I never make that mistake again. I'm now a hermit. | |
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| Ever had a cyber crush?
Posted: 7/31/2008 1:31:37 AM | Define crush?
I get to like people, and usually when I meet em they are how they appear to be. But it's a non-sexual non-relationship crush if you know what I mean? | |
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