| all i get is guyswho wanna have sex????????
Posted: 8/3/2008 7:30:41 PM | i have specifically stated on my profile that i am tired of and not interested in meaningless chattig about sex...... and still..........that's all i get! bored guys who just wanna im and talk dirty....... that's boring and insulting. what am i doing wrong?  | |
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| all i get is guyswho wanna have sex????????
Posted: 8/11/2008 1:47:07 PM | OK GUYS! it's still old!
Do these guys even read profiles!?
what is the point of posting a profile if it won't b read!?
I know i'm pouting now.......... but what's a girl 2 do?  | |
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| all i get is guyswho wanna have sex????????
Posted: 8/12/2008 5:53:38 PM | I feel ya, girl! All I get are (obvious) form emails from guys. I think they just spend their time hitting copy and paste rather than reading profiles. And as was stated before, there are a lot of horny guys out there with very little tact.
Good luck finding a real guy. | |
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| all i get is guyswho wanna have sex????????
Posted: 8/31/2008 12:35:40 PM | | I'm getting the total opposite, I'm not getting any guys at all. I don't have a picture on my profile so I'm sure that maybe the problem, but I think it's because I stated right at the beginning of my profile and I am not looking for a hook up/booty call/one-night stand. What's with men these days? | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 9:16:53 PM | | I think any woman on a dating site has had this problem at one time or another - I know that I actually pulled myself off several sites because hitting delete was getting old! I know for a fact that there is several good guys here - as they are friends of mine - so keep chin up and legs crossed - you will find him. | |
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| all i get is guyswho wanna have sex????????
Posted: 10/9/2008 6:01:54 PM | | I am a very nice whos been looking for a girl that just want to have a good time with each other and I can't find any girl at all in Hagerstown,Maryland.Most girls have kids but I dont want kids when I am dating.So thats why I am on this site try something different but its still hard on this site I am giving up on dating,etc., this sucks. Somebody tell me what I am doing wrong in any kind of WAY! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 6:41:11 PM | Well i can say first hand that is not true I met you,and not once did i imply sex.I did say that your pics dont do you justice but it was said not in any creepy way.I guess there just wasnt any real spark.No problem with that.We cant all be attracted to each other. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 12:08:06 PM | I would say that is a man testing the waters. My advise is to brush it off and change the subject. Men subconsciously test women and vice versa. All the guys I know will test a woman on a date to see how far he can get. It is not out of disrespect or because he is a pig. It is to see what kind of response he will get.
Just like a woman will watch his manners, what kind of car he drives, what is in his house, etc. We all need to determine through our own ways what kind of person we are dealing with.
Ask yourself this. If you went on a date with a guy, he brought you back to his house (a trailer in a bad part of town and not clean), are you going to go on a second date with him? And he seems to be a very nice guy.
I don't know of or have known a guy who will enter into a meaningful relationship if the woman moves too fast. He immediately says to himself that she is easy and she would eventually cheat on him. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 3:08:30 PM | relaxedtimede makes some good points.
I'll add this. You aren't going to change nor do you really want to change that primal gene in a man. Once he is yours, you'll tend to like some part of us being that way. Also, I hardly doubt you dress up, put on make up and do up your hair so women will find you attractive. Looking attractive is a huge advantage in this world. You don't get to just select the advantages without dealing with the disadvantages.
Now if you are going out no makeup and in normal clothes not showing off your curves and your still getting that same response, then you are a natural beauty with an awesome personality in which case 10x more mean will want to be with you.
Men are wired to be attracted to pretty women and the sight of one usually gets his motor running. There really isn't much he can do about that. Where it goes from there is largely up to the women. It's a dance. If you select him but you play to hard to get for too long, most men will get bored. You make it to easy, well you know where that usually ends. Actually I've seen the quick hook up thing work out sometimes where they stayed together forever and were happy. It's all a crap shoot either way.
Men, we have a different problem we have to balance. Basically if we act to nice to quick, you get bored. If we act to**** and independent, that doesn't work well either. Well at least not in the long run. So we both have our challenges.
I have long said to many women, most guys ( well at least the ones you'll are attracted to ) have both sides. Which one you get is mostly up to the women.
Sure men can be horn dogs. Well women can be the same. Who are we kidding. It's all the other details that need to get worked out. I guess at least the one advantage to hooking up someone early on is that you get to find out how sexually compatible you are. Since sex is a one primary way people bond and fall in love, that would seems an important things to discover.
And keep in mind. This problem you have with men wanting to get with you is not a problem at all. It's actually a great blessing. There are millions of women that wish they had your "problem" .
So you'll just have to deal with it and play the game of life we all have to play until we meet our partner. And even then, there is still plenty to work out. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2008 9:44:52 AM | Well sorry to say that is not going to change...the problem that you face is trying to filter out those sincere guys (like me ;) ) and those that are just looking for play.
The problem is two-fold
Guys-naturally programmed to reproduced and carry on their nam e
Girls-naturally programmed to look for comfort and shelter and they find this in guys.
Now the problem is that you get a minority of the two that are on the opposite ends of the spectrum, that put the other groups needs first and their second. Also their childhood contributes to which group they fall in. I was raised by my mother after my father died so I would have to say I was raised in that 10% , while most my friends are in the 90%
Ex. 90% Guys are looking to get laid, 10% look to shelter and care for girls
90% Girls look for shelter and comfort, 10% look to get laid
(Numbers change with years...older you get the numbers decrease/increase respectfully)
Now those numbers are just examples but that is how we are naturally programmed.
So are you doing anything wrong? Nope, guys will be guys, but be careful when those few guys come around don't jump to conclusions and pass them by.
cheers,
Jared | |
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| all i get is guyswho wanna have sex????????
Posted: 11/15/2008 9:17:54 AM | | I think the guy just sees the word sex in your profile and doesn't read the rest of it. I guess you would call it selective reading. I do on occasion get chatting with some guy that will go that direction but for the most part it's been pretty respectable conversation it must be because I'm cute rather than drop dead gorgeous who knows. Try to take out any mention of sex and see if that changes things. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2008 11:33:42 AM | try emailing men looking for long term .they are a bit more serious.But face it we are still men ,so sex is never to far from our minds, but there is a time and place for that  | |
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Posted: 12/24/2008 3:26:44 AM | That's all they all want. They need to go down to the block and pay for it. That's why when people ask why am I single, I now feel that is a good thing. There is nothing out there regardless if what others say. There are very few good men and women are better off by themselves.  | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 3:45:20 PM | To: enjoyinglife08
Bravo and well said.... !! It's a two way street, and we're either damned if we do or damned if we don't!
I liked what you wrote....it's fresh and honest! | |
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Posted: 2/9/2009 6:10:54 PM | That's just how guys are wired. It's biological. It probably aint the best thang, but guys are always thinking about it. Trust me. I don't like that about us either.
F-ck that, I'm gonna get more real. I'll tell you how we men read profiles. First we look for profiles of the best looking chicks. Then, we look for the big bazookas and the big round behinds. Then we press the "send message" button. It's sad, but it probably isn't going to change. | |
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| all i get is guyswho wanna have sex????????
Posted: 4/20/2009 10:39:20 AM | Maybe we should get together.. I am male and it seems the women I meet are ready to jump in the sack on the first or second date. I never do though. It makes me think how many others they are like that with and I really don't want someone like that.
My suggestion... If all they can talk about is sex, then run forrest run!!! Get away from them now. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 5:56:58 AM |
all i get! bored guys who just wanna im and talk dirty....... that's boring and insulting. what am i doing wrong?
The easy answer to you dilemma is to disable your instant message feature. Exchange emails with these men a few times that contact you and then when you do decide to chat one on one live should he decide to bring up the subject of sex, then you have to make your next decision....either talk about sex, or chuck the guy to the weeds by referring him back to your profile. By the way, you will always get guys who want to have sex ( as the subject line implies ) It's a birds and bee's kinda thing. We can’t help it | |
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