| Sending text message for b-day "That was sweet"
Posted: 8/5/2008 8:39:48 PM | Been on a 5 or 6 dates with this girl over a month or so - seem to be really hitting it off - kissed a few times -nothing heavy though. Both in our early 30s.
Sent her a text msg on her b-day last week, then when we spoke later she said, "got your text msg...that was sweet". I know when girls say "sweet", it usually means "friend zone", but not sure in this case.
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/5/2008 8:56:36 PM | | Sending someone such an impersonal birthday greeting may indicate to her YOU are the one in the friend zone. I think her translation of "that was sweet" means: are you freaking kidding me, a birthday wish via text message?! In you're 30's and still texting things that have emotional meaning tsk tsk tsk. | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/5/2008 9:00:37 PM | | Yep I agree, why are your picking it apart? But.......... if it were me that got a text message from someone I've dated 6 times within the month, I'd be a bit turned off. For me, something a bit more personal at this point is in order by now. A card, a PHONE CALL, or how about another date to celebrate? Texting is far to over used. | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/5/2008 10:32:15 PM | She said it was sweet. If she says what she means then she thought it was a sweet and kind gesture. If she does not mean what she says then she could mean anything by it. If you are worried about being in the friend zone, since you are both in your 30's I think both of you are adult enough to sit down and have a conversation about it that begins by you finding out how she feels about you.
~Carrie | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/5/2008 10:50:12 PM | Well, text message on her birthday, one you have dated a number of times is nothing special. Yes, it was sweet. Anyone could have sent her a text message. Not you! Yes, it looks like from your end it is the friend zone.
On my birthday, one of the POF guys created a song for me, music and lyrics. And we were not even dating.  | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 5:46:57 AM | | I had no idea when I said something (or someone) was "sweet", that meant I was putting them in the "friend zone". Thanks for letting me know, I usually just thought I was implying that what they did WAS sweet. *shrug* | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:00:10 PM | come on girls, it depends on what he wrote. if he had said, for example, that for her birthday he was going to tie her up and boink her stupid, ''sweet'' is probably not what he was looking for.
mmm just being silly. i agree with the others - big deal, she said ''sweet''. what exactly did you want her to say? | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:21:33 PM | | LOL you are so right, mindless. Sometimes with a woman, ok with me lol, It's all in how it's said or in this case text. Did she say thank you, that was sweet or just, that was sweet? Anal, perhaps, but trust me how she did it means something. Obviously things were going great between you 2 so why not slip a card in her front door or mailbox for her to find? IT'S HER BIRTHDAY. Time for you to shine my man and show her how sweet and thoughtful you can be. No need to go over the top since you guys are in your early dating stages but come on, a text? You guys are still trying to impress each other. Just remember, it's always the thought that counts, never the money. | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:37:32 PM | If he only sent her a text message, aside from the phone call, in my eyes"that was sweet" was code for "thanks you cheap **stard."
No offense meant, I'm just giving you my opinion. If you've been dating a few weeks, a card was the very least you can give her. I don't know this, but she may have been expecting flowers at her office. Just a hunch.
Birthdays are a big deal for many people. | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 4:42:41 PM | | OP, you should have at least sent her an ecard, if not an actual card. Texting a b-day message is a bit impersonal after dating 6 months. Take her out to celebrate her birthday! | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 4:55:20 PM | up to 6 months now..........?????????
5-6 dates in a month.........MONTH.........people READ!
take the words for just the words............
personally, I don't kiss my "friends"..........
and OP if you talked later on the phone, how was she then?
THAT call, not our opinions should dictate where you stand..........or even lay down for that matter! | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 5:39:45 PM | umm sounded like she said it was sweet, so yeah it was 'sweet' of you. :)
what did you wanted her to say to imply that'd be more than just friends?
words like..
wonderful
awesome
great
good
ok
i like it
terrific
pick a word any word.  btw i say sweet a lot..to anybody. | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/6/2008 5:48:15 PM | People always take something positive and turn it into a negative. Read too much into words and texts.
IMO, when a girl says "sweet" it means more than just "nice".
Nice= was a nice gesture, nothing more or less
Sweet= nice with some personal thought or heart into it
OP, I hope after dating for that long you atleast get her a real card and dinner. | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/7/2008 4:33:19 AM | If" sweet= nice with some personal thought or heart into it" then sweet doesn't even cover what he did. He didn't put any heart or personal thought into texting a message to her. He stated they've gone out 5 or 6 times in a month or so. That's alot of "getting to know you" time and they obviously liked each other to spend this time together. I don't know, hopefully we're all overreacting and she truely didn't mind his way of saying happy birthday. You can get a .99 cent card anywhere these days and even on my bad days i'm worth a whole $1.00.  | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/7/2008 5:11:07 AM | To OP No, that's not always true. When I say sweet - I mean sweet. I would say it to both friend male and a romantic male. Its not a good way to tell the difference on how she feels about you. Could be either. Still a very positive response and that she appreciated your message. If you want to know how much she appreciated you might have to find another way.
PS text messages are not a good way to analyse any kindof deep emotion at the best of the times. You should be considering how the phone call went that you made that night instead. | |
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| Sending text message for b-day That was sweet
Posted: 8/7/2008 6:24:47 AM | It's just possible that she was staring at some roses sent by somebody else at the time she was reading your text...................
just food for thought.........
Of course, it's too late to know what the reaction would have been had YOU sent some.... If her reaction to THEM was 'that was sweet'...then you KNOW you're in the friend zone.
In the same amount of time you took to TEXT...... you could have used your digits to have some flowers delivered to her workplace.......
Since you're in your thirties...... you DO remember a thing called 'chivalry', don't you??? Nothing like having to RETRAIN people these days.....WTF?
Would the thirty extra bucks been THAT much of a set back to get the answer you really want??? | |
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