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 bigthunder167
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 1
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Some things about women are still a mystery to me. One of them is what makes women horny?
I always understood that women are turned on by compliments, romantic guestures, and other mental stimuli which I have used to great effect in the past but, when they see a new guy, they do not usually say to themselves, "wow, I want him inside me now". Are these the things that make women get to the launch pad or do women get a physical sensation requiring a physical response (screwing, finger banging, intimate touching etc.) upon an initial meeting?
As a man, like many men, I see a nice looking women and one of my first thoughts is how can I get her cloths off for close quarters physical gratification. I don't need the psychological stimuli like compliments compliments or have romance. I am ready to go for the physical and I think most men operate this way.
Ladies, when you see a handsome guy with a good body, how many of you automatically think, "wow, I would like him on top of me giving me a pounding like there is no tomorrow?" or is your first inclination to think you would like him to say sweet things and be romantic and your not even think ahead about ripping his cloths off for some major pipe laying before you hear or see any romantic stuff?
What portion of the time do you think purely in the physical realm when sizing up a guy for a relationship whether it be a one-nighter or a LTR? Or, Do most of you require all the other stuff before you look at a guy for sex?
 xdamianax
Joined: 5/27/2008
Msg: 2
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 12:09:03 PM
I'm not typical in any sense of the word... When I see a hot, ripped, tanned body, a chiseled face, and beautiful dark hair, the first thing I think (and sometimes say out loud to a friend) is, "Damn! I'd tap that!!!"

I have also talked to one or two that I have said that about and after hearing them open their mouth retracted what I had said before... There is a lot to be said for a man who knows how to stimulate us mentally. There is not much you can say about one who can break the deal with a few badly chosen words or an attitude that stinks.

Keep in mind, I'm not looking for romance but a good time. All of us are different and have different wants/needs.
 eazk
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 3
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 12:25:57 PM
Attraction.

After that, everything else is frobbing around (tweaking the nerd-knobs).


 kmb74
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 4
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 12:42:55 PM
I'd say both to some extent, but the mental horniness is sooo much better though! A guy doesn't even have to touch me--he can come up behind me and whispers in my ear--that's just yummy!

Side note, the mental kinda has to be there for the phyical to work!!
 kitty345
Joined: 4/26/2008
Msg: 5
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:12:25 PM
Yes a woman of my own heart.......what a waste, a man with a great body great to look at, attributes that make you want him there and then.... who cant talk and mentally stimulate you.....Useless!!
 croemita
Joined: 5/27/2008
Msg: 6
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:36:16 PM
You know,( and I'm sure I'm not alone on this) sometimes it's as much a mystery to us as it is to you men. I know for a fact that my libido is intimately tied to my ovulatory cycle. There are times of the month where the merest scent of a man will take me from my baseline of "warm" to "OMFG I'm so close". Granted most women due to today's modern hormonal birth control don't necessarily work this way (ovulation is suppressed and this normal physiologic response to estrogen/testosterone peaks is abolished).

I think you're looking for a more concrete answer than "I was just horny that day" though. To which I respond, women are aural, sensual creatures. Where men are turned on by visual stimulus, women tend to require more than just a pretty face and a hot bod. Which is why the clever Casanova's of the world have learned to progressively touch a woman and speak to her in a tone of voice that is simultaneously sexy but not necessarily saying "sexy" things.

A comment about "progressive touch". This was famously described in the "Mystery Method" as a means for getting a woman to sleep with you. While I disagree with the ends, the means are profoundly useful. As you might know, the whole female body is capable of becoming an erogenous zone. So men who employ this often succeed where other, richer, more physically attractive suitors fail. Think of a woman as you would a mean cat at your friends house. You're trying to win over this creature and have it come sit on your lap. Patting it on the head will only enrage the animal and render your subsequent BEST attempts useless. BUT, speak softly, in soothing voice, then progress from touching "safe" parts 1) the back 2)tail to perhaps s3)scratch behind the ears.

Apply this analogy to women, open up conversation, speak in casual tones and progress from touching her back between the shoulders (a "safe" zone) to maybe the small of her back (a great move if she needs "help" getting off a barstool!). Alternatively going from the elbow to the hand, or the shoulder to the neck. Make up excuses for these things ie. I wanted to get a better look at your necklace, or let me help you out from your chair.

Players are intuitively good at this, but it is certainly a learnable skill and frighteningly effective when employed correctly. Something about being touched in these ways seems to set women into a pathway of "hey this guy digs me ---> we need to get naked STAT" I've seen my guy friends do this and we even tested it head to head 1)hot guy-no touching vs 2)OK guy - progressive touch. Guess who got laid that night? you got it, NUMERO Dos.

Try it out tonight and like I said, the analogy of the mean cat, for whatever reason seems to get the right effect from even the most thick-headed of men.

cheers!
 gottalight
Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 7
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:38:37 PM
Big hands!!!

I knew a girl who was a very good friend, but wouldn't step into the bedroom because my hands weren't big enough.

Actually, different women seem to get turned on by different things. We poor guys need to learn to adjust and improvise. Unfortunately for me, that would probably require too many workouts at the gym, some rogaine, and a little plastic surgery.

This is a polarized subject, but you didn't specify that us guys couldn't tell you why we think you turned us down.
 TheOneWho_
Joined: 3/22/2007
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What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:43:11 PM

Try it out... the analogy of the mean cat
What you say makes a lot of sense.

However, I have no desire to bed a woman who brings to mind the image of a mean cat!
 ~charmed~
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 9
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:50:08 PM
It starts first thing in the day... the good morning kiss, nice words. Maybe a call or e-mail during the day. Being thoughtful and nice, sharing the day.

For some one I just met it is about the voice and how they talk to me. No romance off the bat... that sounds cheezy. It would have to be intelligent conversation. That makes them more attractive.

~Charmed~
 IWishItWasSummer
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 10
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:51:20 PM
it's definitely mental for me - no I'm not mental, but the mental approach to seduction is the only way...some women get horny just like a guy does. they wake up thinking about sex and go to sleep at night replaying hot memories. but what gets them actually taking someone to bed with them are words and images. nothing triggers the sexual imagination better than well-chosen words said in a whisper, IMO.
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2008 1:59:52 PM
Attraction in mental; arousal is mental; mind blowing sex is mental; copulation is physical.


I see a nice looking women and one of my first thoughts is how can I get her cloths off for close quarters physical gratification. I don't need the psychological stimuli like compliments compliments or have romance.
Dude, you just shot yourself in the foot regarding getting a date. I'm not picturing a lot of women reading this on your profile and thinking "Whoa, I got me one now!"
 bigthunder167
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 12
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:03:38 PM
Croemita:
Thank you for your excellent analogy of the mean cat, I shall not forget that and next time I go into action, my first thought will be "mean cat"
I do not sound as though I know little about women but am getting back into the dating scene after about 13 years off and your comment helps to focus me.
I was always quite good at conversation (verbal banging) where women were concerned but the progressive touching was something I did not do much and it makes sense. That is a good bit of advice. Thanks again.
 grapevine
Joined: 10/2/2005
Msg: 13
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:05:08 PM
" always understood that women are turned on by compliments, romantic guestures, and other mental stimuli ..."

Well, I must be an oddball, then, because I'm not the LEAST BIT "turned on" by any of that. I appreciate compliments, romantic gestures and other mental stimuli, of course! But that does not make me "horny."

What makes me horny is simply because I'm a woman, and women get horny. It's a natural process. It doesn't take money; it doesn't take gifts; it doesn't take compliments. It simply just happens, same way a guy getting turned on happens. Although I guess a difference would be I don't get turned on just because I happen to see a handsome hunk; I can see 800 of them and still not be "turned on." But show me a man I lust after? Doesn't matter if he's, by comparison to the "hunks," older, less attractive and less physically fit, it's HIM that gets me weak in the knees...and elsewhere. Just something about certain men I've known that drove me wild with desire for them. And there's no pinpointing "why," no common denominator, per se. Just "chemistry," I guess.

Oh. And I never want to be "pounded." You "pound" a sidewalk with a jackhammer; you don't "pound" women.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2008 2:05:35 PM
Both. Mental and physical. However, you'd be surprised by the magnetism of mental stimulation for women. This is where men, not so blessed with physical attributes, can shine. What comes out of his mouth, his attitude, his self-confidence, his grounded assertiveness, the language of his eyes, kindness, generosity, knowing how and when to treat a woman like a lady and how and when to treat her like she's the sexiest thing that has ever crossed his imagination.
 Ms.Sweet Sinful Seduction
Joined: 6/3/2008
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What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:18:14 PM
Both mental and physical stimulation do it for me, lol, and that is all I am willing to reveal at this point. Guess those of you who check out my profile will just have to find out for yourselves.
 kayliecat
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2008 2:50:21 PM
Mental. All mental.

Horny = wants sex, aka "in the mood to get nekkid"

Comes purely from my mind. Which is both good and bad. Bad because a bad mood or crappy day at work can completely kill any hopes of being horny.

But good because, well, my mind can get turned on by my bf doing something, like, say...
-looking at me w/a sexy smile
-talking about my body and what he'd like to be doing to it
-romancing me up w/pretty words

Or...could be me doing something like, say...
-fantasizing about sex
-fantasizing about foreplay
-looking at my bf and salivating
-looking at my bf and thinking about having sex
-reading erotica
-watching something on tv/movie that is sex

But...all of those really take place in the mind. Physical stimulation certainly turns me on, gets the juices flowing (so to speak) and gets the body ready for sex, sure, but only if I"m already horny, already in the mood to be turned on. While I think it's possible for a guy to tease a gal out of a bad mood w/physical touch...it's not the easiest route to take. and I guarantee half of what works in that case will be his smiles, enthusiasm, and words, not just his touches.

Somehow this isn't a great topic for me today...I haven't seen my man since this past weekend and won't see him til this Friday! Waaaah! Not a good time to get hornier than I already am!

Kaylie
 goodone4ya
Joined: 10/12/2004
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Posted: 8/6/2008 2:58:59 PM
I think its both-but not everytime in every scenario.I feel women are alot like men.I feel they look at a man and in and instant picutre herself having sex with him.It dosent mean that she's actually gonna do it-but a thought.People get horny for their own reasons,but i think when it comes to another person gettin em revved up.They look for comfort,physical attraction, and how secure the person is with themselves.Confidence goes a long way for bith sexes
 Hawk8414
Joined: 7/19/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2008 3:00:04 PM
For me ,it's mental, the physical part comes later.
 TravelingHomebody
Joined: 6/7/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2008 4:57:35 PM
Ask a married woman what her husband can do to get her hot and she'll say, "Take out the trash!"

Women like to feel cherished and appreciated. Things that do that will turn them on.

Paradoxically, the best thing you can do long-term to stoke her fires is to take NO for an answer.

When she says she's not interested in The Deed and you persist, you're telling her, "I don't give two farts in a windstorm about you as a human being. You exist purely to provide me with physical gratification. Now, get down to doing the only thing I keep you around for." Why not just dump a bucket of chilled pig guts on her? It'll have the same effect as far as your chances of getting her interested in you.

But when she says she's not interested and you move on -- either to do your own thing (watch football, read a book, whatever) or to do something else with her (play Scrabble, watch TV) -- you're telling her that she is more to you than just someplace to stick your willie. And women have LONG memories. Next time you're making your move, she's gonna remember how thoughtful and considerate you were last time you approached her. In fact, you might find out that ten minutes later she IS in the mood, in large part because your gesture of respect made her feel loved.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
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Posted: 8/6/2008 5:05:51 PM
What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation?

neither:
about three drinks should work
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 8/6/2008 5:24:09 PM
Geeze everything makes me horny!!! I adore sex sooooooooo much that I simply have to think of it and I'm off to the races!! As well the sight and thought of my hubby makes me... hhhhmmmm!!!
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2008 5:32:26 PM

Ask a married woman what her husband can do to get her hot and she'll say, "Take out the trash!"


That and a strand of pearls.
 ~~~PlayNice~~~
Joined: 10/29/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2008 5:34:57 PM
depending on the day it could be a combination of either. usually when i see a sexy guy dancing and he actually has rhythm, i'm already picturing him naked. horseback riding does it, or if i hug him and he smells great, my panties are wet! yes, i know i'm vulgar. i like that about me.

the person i'm with now has conditioned me to that if he pulls my hair from the back, in public, i'm dying til we get home. or if talks in my ear like he does when we're 'interacting' discreetly, i lose all focus until we get home. something different for everybody. oh yeah, and porn works every time!
 Funny_Girl
Joined: 10/27/2005
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Posted: 8/6/2008 5:39:47 PM
It's all about words for me; really good conversation will cause me to toss my panties lickity split!
I can watch porn and feel very little and I'm just not all that visual until I care a hell of a lot. But I can read porn/erotica and lose my mind.

I can actually be having really good sex and still not feel "over the top" aroused, but if he starts talking to me while he's doing me...I'm toast; he'll own me.
 D_Prime
Joined: 7/30/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2008 6:29:38 PM
Based on experience, women need to feel there is a man they like attached to the johnson/tool/rod&tackle. Men seem more focused on the meat of the issue. While women are just as sexual as men (sometimes moreso) they do view it from their own perspective generally meaning some connection BEFORE the act, while men generally make their connections AFTER the act. Maybe it's some Mars/Venus thing...
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