| | FORUM POSTINGS SHOWN IN MY PROFILEPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Hi there...
My forum discussions are posted in my profile for all men to see. I don't particularly want every person to see them, so my question is if there is a way to have them taken off?? I searched the site for an 'off' option, and couldn't find it. Am I blind?
Please advise....
Thanks,
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Posted: 6/11/2005 7:59:59 PM | You're not blind at all.
They went 'live' about 2 months ago. Every PoF member recieved an email about it as well.
They are, as Admin says, there to stay ... no Off switch. But don't worry, if you never say anything that you have to worry about, you have nothing to worry about :) | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 7:50:42 AM | in addition, your forum postings are VERY public..anyone who has access to the internet can read them, they don't have to be logged onto the site to read them., same way with your POF profile...
if you don't want people reading what you post in the forums, don't post...that's all there is to it.. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 12:32:57 PM | | I am all for taking the forum posting OFF profiles. There are too many 'stalkers' and it really is irritating and can be scary. There is no reason why people need to see what you post unless they are participating in the forums. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 5:41:02 PM | | I'm having the exact opposite problem. I'm new here, I understand forums are quite public, and I would prefer mine to be listed in my profile. I don't see my posts in my profile, and there doesn't appear to be any way to turn them on. I have a theory though... I've got to get to five posts before the "last five posts" can be listed. This makes #4. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 12:28:29 AM |
i think its somewhere around 8 but if u do a thread search the answers are already here somewhere
Well, it definitely isn't five. As long as it is definitely post count related, I should be seeing them soon... post #6  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 11:44:13 AM | | mard you may think it is a great way to get noticed but you are a guy. For a girl it is a little more scarier. It has happened where I have signed up to go to parties or a thread to meet for coffee and am being stalked. I am all for taking the risk away. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2006 1:46:45 PM | | That is all fine for April 2005 when the idea was implemented so does that mean things can't change? Things can't be suggested for improvement? Things have to stay the same because it was implemented? I am constantly adding/removing/changing components of software. It is close minded to say it is done and no more discussion. I know a few women who have stopped posting all together because of the stalking issue, which I am pretty sure wasn't a thought when this feature was implemented. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 6:18:08 AM | | I have had people e-mail me horible things at my home POF mail box about my forums.That should not be allowed to happen .If they have something to say about a forum let them say it on the forum .Not my POF home mailbox.I think yes they should be taken off our profiles. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 2:58:24 PM | re: forum posting - I don't neccessarily like them being attached to my profile, but I do like the feature where you can see in the forums the last 25 posts made by whatever member...
That way if ppl want to know what you think - they have to make some effort to do so. | |
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late™
| | Joined: 1/9/2005
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Posted: 1/22/2006 5:25:24 PM |
That is all fine for April 2005 when the idea was implemented so does that mean things can't change?
The reasons were twofold:
- increased visability of the forums
- increased accountability of what users post
How have these things changed? | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 6:29:53 AM | How have these things changed you ask?
- increased visability of the forums - men stalking that is how it has changed. You posted in another thread about people seeing who viewed you it was a privacy issue for the women well the increased visibility is way more of a privacy issue as I have posted before. How is who has viewed me more a privacy issue that posts? I can understand wanting to promote the forums when they were first implemented, but the have been active awhile now.
- increased accountability of what users post - This I don't understand, just because the last 5 show on your profile people are going to be more aware of what they say? How so? If I posted something I didn't want on my profile I could quite easily post 6 posts in 5 mins to make that disappear. | |
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Xander
| | Joined: 10/23/2005
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late™
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Msg: 17 | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 10:58:02 PM |
I could quite easily post 6 posts in 5 mins to make that disappear.
"Cleansing" with empty or meaningless posts will just be deleted. Persisting in this will get you banned.
Anybody can click on your name to pull up your last 25 posts.
The forums are searchable via Google.
If you are ashamed of what you are posting here, ...don't blame site policy.
Plus, Xander has a good point too. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2006 4:27:27 AM | WOW I truly expected a more mature answer from both of you moderators, instead of if you don't like it leave.
Late you asked me what has changed and I replied, which you totally missed apparently if you are coming at me with some ashamed of posting reason? When did I ever give that as a reason? And I am a lil more mature than to do 'cleansing' crap, but it happens all the time by others. The main reason was that there are men that stalk, don't post in the forums but like to look at your profile and follow you around the forums and then show up secretely at gatherings. Yes of course this would happen even if they didn't appear in your profile but would make it more difficult for those that didn't have such easy access to the information.
This section is suppose to be for help and suggestions correct? So me debating my suggestion is wrong? The reason given by the admin for not showing who has viewed you was privacy for the women, how is that any different from this? If you don't want to bring this to the admin's attention that is your choice, but I expected more of a reply than if you don't like it leave. I am not tryng to be difficult, just debating mine and others views. | |
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late™
| | Joined: 1/9/2005
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Posted: 1/25/2006 7:49:14 AM | The main reason was that there are men that stalk, don't post in the forums but like to look at your profile and follow you around the forums and then show up secretely at gatherings.
Report them via "Report User" link at the bottom of every profile, you must be logged into your inbox to see this link. This feature is enabled after the first ten log ins. This is for non-forum related issues.
I can understand wanting to promote the forums when they were first implemented, but the have been active awhile now.
They had been active for a long time, years before forum posts were added to profiles. The stats support the implementation of this feature. Any comparison to the other privacy issue assumes that stalking, because of forum posts in profiles is wide-spread, no indication of this. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2006 3:14:01 AM | There is no reason why people need to see what you post unless they are participating in the forums.
Posted many times, and now again in yet another redundunt "Profile Link" Thread, these Links also assist Moderators to do their work very quickly and effectively.
It has happened where I have signed up to go to parties or a thread to meet for coffee and am being stalked.
That has little to do with your Profile Links, as the last 50 Posts can be bookmarked.
That is all fine for April 2005 when the idea was implemented so does that mean things can't change? Things can't be suggested for improvement? Things have to stay the same because it was implemented?
It was implemented because it was a positive change, and remains so to this Day. In fact its more important now than ever to execute Administrative Actions efficiently.
It is close minded to say it is done and no more discussion.
As close-minded as not having another Federal Election next Tuesday.
I know a few women who have stopped posting all together because of the stalking issue, which I am pretty sure wasn't a thought when this feature was implemented.
You simply haven't yet figured out that has little to do with your Profile Links, as the last 50 Posts can be bookmarked.
I have had people e-mail me horible things at my home POF mail box about my forums.That should not be allowed to happen.
Add them to your Blocked User List.
WOW I truly expected a more mature answer from both of you moderators, instead of if you don't like it leave.
I expected you to be far more appreciative of the time we spend here to truthfully answer your questions, so we won't waste anymore time on you.
The main reason was that there are men that stalk, don't post in the forums but like to look at your profile and follow you around the forums and then show up secretely at gatherings.
You simply haven't yet figured out that has little to do with your Profile Links, as the last 50 Posts can be bookmarked. If somebody wants to stalk, that's a personality issue, nothing to do with any Links.
How do I make it so no one can see what I have posted in the forums?
Don't post then, as any more Posts than 5 - 10 will from there on out show on your Profile.
If its a specific Post you would like to have removed, and does not interupt the logical flow of Thought of the Thread (highly unlikely), E-Mail any of the Forum Moderators and request to have your Post deleted.
I expected more of a reply than if you don't like it leave.
Expecting? ... lol ... expect what you like ... here you get the the cut and dry answers, whether you like them or not.
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Posted: 7/29/2006 4:40:36 PM | | i also, don't like my post showing up on my profile. If I had researched and known they were, then I would never of said a thing. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 6:46:33 AM | I don't like it either. I didn't know about this until today (I wasn't a member two months ago when the e-mails went around).
Most people I know understand there is a right time and a wrong time to discuss certain topics. What might be an appropriate response in a forum thread can be the most inappropriate topic in a person's profile.
Not knowing what I know now, I responded to a woman asking what men think of dildos. She wanted to spicen up her love life with her boyfriend. I was trying to be helpful. Now, my opinion on dildos is part of my first impression with any woman that happens to read my profile. Normally I don't talk about dildos with women I'm trying to get a date with.
So now I have to either hide my profile (what's the point of being here if I have to do that) or I have to delete my profile, my current contacts and start all over again.
This is very retarded. It should be an optional feature. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 7:19:27 AM | Sure, I can go post some sunshine somewhere and get that stuff off of my profile. The problem is that my best matches contacted me before these posts went into my profile. Now with this, I'm losing them. It's too late now.
It just would have been nice to know up front. There really is no warning at all when a new member signs up. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 8:07:44 AM |
Lesson learned I'd say. Don't post a comment you wouldn't say in person.
Apparently, the concept of timing and context in discussion is completely beyond some people.
I haven't said anything I wouldn't say in person. The reason I don't like this feature is because not only do I usually talk about different things with different people, but I also wait until an appropriate time comes to discuss these things. It's called identifying with the person you're talking to and it's the reason why I don't talk to women about football, to men about my wardrobe and to first dates about dildos.
But with this feature, EVERYTHING I say is going to aimed at a woman's first impression of me. I don't walk around speaking to everyone in my life as if they are a woman I'm out on a first date with. But now I have to do that here if I want to participate in the forums.
It's not natural. | |
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