| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 10:43:17 AM | For those of you who don't know her, she is one of the first acclaimed female authors of erotica. Her work is.... well..... breathtaking and energizing!
While refamiliarizing myself with this talented woman, I stumbled across one of her quotes:
"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, f*cked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding."
Wow. I realized that this almost describes me to a "T". Now, this does not mean that there are not times I like to be the aggressor... because certainly there is... and there are times I like to be the one persuing... but for the most part, I like my man to be the dominant one in the boudoir.
To the men and the women of this forum: do her words resonate any familiarities in yourself or in your relationship(s)... past or present? What are your thoughts on this quote from her?
If nothing else, this thread is also to just share one prolific quote from an amazing woman. If you are so inclined, you may want to take a moment (perhaps when the forums are a bit slow! hehehe) and google her name... there is truly a plethora of her inspirations available for your perusal.
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 10:57:01 AM | Amen, m'dear...this quote captures the heart and soul of what most women want to feel most of the time. That is not to say they won't be strong, competent, vital parts of society, but within the relationship...within the walls of emotional intimacy, this is what I personally believe is the state most women want to be with their partner.
The problem is...lots and lots of them are unable to go there because of the male or because of past fears and abuses at the hands of a male. So I expect you'll get a lot of women trying to "requalify" this to fit who they are.
JMHO
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 11:11:06 AM | LaughingLibra,
I have always said, I need a man strong enough to "handle" me emotionally but gentle enough to be with me physicially. I do not want a man that wants to beat the crap out of me. I need somebody firm yet gentle. My mantra is "Ultimate pleasure requires complete surrender". I have met one that I can truly surrender to and it feels absolutely amazing.
Thanks for the quote.. | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 11:14:22 AM | I am not very sexually experienced, but the quote feels like something very honest and true to me.
The thing is that it strikes a chord in me that makes me feel insecure. I'm not quite an 'alpha' male. I often wonder if I have what it takes to be dominant like that. | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 11:15:12 AM | There is no right way to be; people need to be themselves; anyone claiming to know the answers to sex and relationships is wrong.
Everyone is different; they need to be themselves; passion isn't read, its felt. Love initiates that passion. Sex is about desire. | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 11:32:18 AM | It's not a matter of being dominant, John...
It is knowing how to be in control without being controlling...
Of understanding that she loves to feel your guidance, your confidence in yourself, that you have the ability to look at her and she feels sexy, you touch her and she reacts, you speak to her and she leans closer.
It's not a matter of YOU being dominant, John...
It is her choosing...wanting, to be submissive to you...
But still be by your side, respected, cherished and desired...definitely desired.
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ndulj
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Joined: 5/27/2007
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 11:44:21 AM | A giant round of applause for
Laughing Libra for reminding me why and how much I enjoy Anais Nin
Anais for ...well writing with such wit, charm, honesty and voice in the first place.
and last but not least....
eazk for getting it better than any man I have ever known!
any idea why that sound oddly like an Oscar acceptance speech??? | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 12:01:37 PM | OH I hear and feel those words - there is nothing better sexually than 'being a woman' - allowing our femininity and all that entails - to entice our man into his animal desires - overcoming us and enveloping us! Giving into a warm - strong - sensual man is hhhmmm!! The smell and the sight of a naked man ravaging us is like no other pleasure! The most exciting time in a womans life is when she realizes that being a woman holds some very strong powers!! 
Ok off to take a cold shower - hubby at work - ugh!! 
Edit (below) Funny but when I read her words I see that there is both submissive and dominant in what she is saying. I see the woman giving into who and what she is - submitting to being the woman - which in turn dominates her mans desire for her! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 12:07:11 PM | I LOVE Anais Nin, but I would like a relationship where we both can be submissive and dominant. I want to be with a man who knows himself well enough to have fun and explore with me. I don't want any rules in the bedroom.
I have been with a "dominant" man and enjoyed him. I have been with a "submissive" man and enjoyed him too. Both men had "power" issues and the relationships fizzled due to the inequality in power. I did not always want to be on the bottom or always be on top. I wanted to take turns. The guys in question could not understand this.
I am much too fluid for being either way. | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:10:26 PM | Laughing (and Anais), absolutely! Spot on.
Argh, now I have to go off and read my emails (wink, wink). | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:26:47 PM |
God, as a woman I want to be dominated
but I am going to be pursued, f*cked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding."
I understand these sentiments, but I don't like them.
I've always looked at this as a kind of " lazy " way of going about things.
I'm hoping that the younger generation of women get away from these attitudes.
I don't like dominating people.
There's something in me which revolts at the idea of forcing someone to do something they don't really want to do. I like a woman who wants to do the same things I want to do and doesn't mind letting me know it.
I think me, and a lot of men hate that women want equality, but still want to play the same old game.
Ravishment is a fun game and I can play it.
Ultimately, equality in give and take is more fun. | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:28:19 PM | 
WOW...don't really know what to say...WOW
What a woman!  
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:41:24 PM | Amazing and arousing quote.
I hold back the rest of my thoughts about what forces in society have caused this type of sexually aggressive man to become rare. Let's just saw certain organizations and courts have set the ruling that a sexually aggressive man is a predator and we are horrible for it. | |
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reg11
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Joined: 8/9/2007
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:41:55 PM | | libra you are my absolute favorite within these forums love your posts and your incitefull replies to others why no one has pulled you from this pond to have and to hol d ill never know best to you reg | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:48:40 PM | | When a woman says that it's OK, but when a man says that about how he wants a woman, well, it's like when blacks use the "n" word that us whites have to avoid saying by calling it the "n" word. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 1:55:12 PM | | Love it! I think that is the best way to have it! I like when the men know what they want and have the CONFIDENCE to go after it. It isn't so much about control! Passionately Aggressive! | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 2:06:31 PM | | I find it empowering as a man to know that having my way with my woman is appreciated by her. | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 2:09:53 PM | When a woman says that it's OK, but when a man says that about how he wants a woman, well, it's like when blacks use the "n" word that us whites have to avoid saying by calling it the "n" word.
P~...for once I have to disagree with you (and I typically like what you have to say). I have no trouble saying it. I think the problem is many guys haven't really brought it into their soul, so they can't articulate it. But for most of them it wouldn't matter...they're still AFC's regardless of what they say and speaking like this when they aren't convinced themselves is a sure way to spoil the attempt.
And Sardonis~...it's not about having "your" way with a woman...it's about understanding her wants and needs that you are as aware and attuned to her pleasure as you can be...IOW, make her feel more like a woman...and trust me, she'll do her best to make you feel more like a man...and then you can make her feel more........never mind, you should get it by now. It's not just about you...it's more about how you express yourself with her...and it is appreciated in more ways than you can know.
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Posted: 8/15/2008 2:24:06 PM | Re the Opost
I think that I can agree with what Anais Nim says in the quoted passage, but only as far as the "bedroom" is concerned. Outside the bedroom, the situation I have with a woman is different. | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 2:45:44 PM | Here we go again its a Snail Trail glistening on the lush forest floor showing the way to the honey.
Eyes focused and heart pounding hunters gps enabled are everywhere Oh is it all in the mind
NO its a trail give baby give and take baby take
some forums just get around and have tire tracks on them | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 3:01:37 PM | | Hi Laughinglibra. I was somewhat supprised that someone actually knew who she was. I have read her 7 volume dairy and most of her books. She was an amazing woman and we could use more openmindedness here and now. Granted "Little Birds" was unsetteling but I even gained some insight from that one. | |
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| A quote from Anais Nin....
Posted: 8/15/2008 3:06:51 PM | | She was lucky to live in an era where men were allowed to be men, and not live in fear of sexual harassment lawsuits | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 3:13:15 PM | | I'm with Nipolean on this. This is a very "lazy" way of being, I think. Either take responsibility for every part of your life or don't. There's no picking and choosing, as far as I'm concerned. Each party in the relationship has equal responsibility to the other as well as to themselves. | |
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