| Scary - Sex Offender and POF
Posted: 8/16/2008 9:10:01 AM | I apologize if this has been posted before.
Accused sex predator on web dating site: Woman
She was 'leery' of meeting him
By CHRIS DOUCETTE
The Toronto Sun
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When the news of Stanley Tippett's arrest surfaced just over a week ago, an Oshawa woman couldn't help but shudder.
She realized the man accused of abducting and sexually assaulting a 12-year-old Peterborough girl was the same smooth-talking guy she met nearly a year ago through an online dating service.
Now the 36-year-old, who is too afraid to have her name published, says she is glad she listened to her instincts when Tippett urged her to get together for a face-to-face meeting.
"Thank God I didn't meet with him," the woman said yesterday.
Tippett, 32, has a lengthy history of stalking and harassing young women.
The woman claims she met Tippett last October through the popular website plentyoffish.com, a free online dating service that boasts more than 250,000 users logging on each day from around the world.
DIFFERENT MAN
But the person she has been reading about over the past week is starkly different from the noble parent Tippett portrayed himself as.
"He told me he had full custody of his two children ...(that) his wife had run off and left him to become an escort," she said. "I felt sorry for the guy. But I was leery about meeting him, so I never did."
"I can't imagine how someone with five kids would have the time and the guts to run around chasing women on a dating site," she said.
'CHARITY' PRESIDENT
Tippett claimed to have grown up in Los Angeles and told her he had dual citizenship, she said. He also allegedly told her he was the president of "a charity company" in Peterborough.
"He even said he could get me a job there," the woman said. "But I already have a job, so I didn't need one."
In 1999 Tippett was questioned by Toronto Police following the disappearance and subsequent murder of Sharmini Anandavel, a 15-year-old girl whom he had offered to help find a job while living in the same Don Mills building.
In 2005 Tippett was twice convicted of criminally harassing women in Collingwood and Peterborough. He was arrested again on Aug. 6 after a vicious sex attack involving a pre-teen girl behind a high school in Courtice.
Tippett remains in custody. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 10:50:20 AM | This is the kind of garbage that spreads fear in women. It is one isolated incident. But, right now every woman on dating sites is scared to meet people. They want to make someone jump through hoops before meeting them. It's foolish.
If you live in fear, then you are not living. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 11:08:15 AM | | Yep there's all kinds of scarey things in this world and POF Has had it's share of them. Scarey sex offenders are everywhere they are all over the United States and thanks to MegansLaw We know where many of them live..That subject has been here before but I was unaware of that person..I cannot stress enough how much one should be checked out before meeting them..When my little winkie used to do the thinking I ended up with a few scarey women so believe me (And I'm crazy so I know what I'm talking about..) It goes both ways....I woke up one time and a gal I lived with was walking in her sleep toward me with a butcher knife, or so she acted the part when I started screaming....Scared the crap outta me...I like friends better..Sex is cool but I don't need it all the time it's been 6 years now and I'm doing other things..Even though I'm a Big Ugly Guy and I should be hard up as hell ya know beggers can't be choosey I don't need any drama fueled psychos in my life.....Where you start is MegansLaw if you have a real name and they are a sex offender they should be listed, now if the name has a little mispelled and the subject does not look quite like your future Husband or Wife, make note that many of these people change their appearence. They dye their hair, their style of clothing, etc..Sometimes you have to really study them one guy I know I only figured him out when I saw his nick name..The other thing is just don't check their name, check the city, and county listings as well you'll be shocked as to how many people you know are on that list..Be prepared to be shocked take a valium before you check it out..I would be intrested to know how many people here on POF Know people on that list..I live in Santa Barbara County California. I believe there are about 497 or so registered sex offenders in this county, I believe it's probley 135 or so in the city and I know quite a few of them passing on the street, in my neighborhood there are about a dozen or so I have had contact with..Met through friends, one was a neighbor in a rooming house for sober alcoholics..There are many that are sober alcoholics...Anyway you might be lonley but it's much better to be safe than sorry...Oh and especally watch men that are overly friendly with your kids..We didn't see that one comming and my little Sister got it.. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 11:12:28 AM |
This is the kind of garbage that spreads fear in women. It is one isolated incident. But, right now every woman on dating sites is scared to meet people. They want to make someone jump through hoops before meeting them. It's foolish. If you live in fear, then you are not living.
I agree with you evilside. It's complete b.s. when the media starts to come up with these stories about how dangerous the online dating world is. Then you get all the ladies starting to think it really is as dangerous as they've read. I guess it's much safer to go to the neighborhood bar and meet guys. You meet a much nicer class of guy there and none of them would ever be a child molester or killer. A paraphrase of what you said, from the movie Strictly Ballroom, "A life lived in fear is a life half lived." | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 1:04:27 AM | | Also, it is illegal for a sex offender to be on online dating sites. Basically all of them (PoF included) require you agree to terms of use when registering. One of them is that you cannot be a convicted sex offender. It's a breach of contract if they do. Beyond that, of sex offenders who used the computer in their crime, generally are banned from any "dangerous" sites like dating sites. Some have, as a term of their release, restrictions as strict as no computers at all. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 1:02:39 PM | It's a breach of contract if they do.
That and a quarter will get you a cup of coffee. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 3:56:26 PM | | My comment -- exactly. Women must be cautious. Don't use your real name, use an email that does not list your real name... and never give out your telephone, real name or address until well into the relationship. Many men who are not sex offender lead women on --- and so do some of the women. You have to use your common sense. Women might not know that if it get around to giving telephone numbers, ask for theirs... Dial *67 and it blocks your number. Remember, many people have caller ID. Guys, you might want to think about the later. There are females who harrass as well as men. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 4:16:16 PM |
I agree with you evilside. It's complete b.s. when the media starts to come up with these stories about how dangerous the online dating world is. Then you get all the ladies starting to think it really is as dangerous as they've read...
A paraphrase of what you said, from the movie Strictly Ballroom, "A life lived in fear is a life half lived."
You mean kind of like all the men who think they HAVE to carry a gun because of the news even though the chances they will be a victim are less than once in a lifetime? | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 6:09:03 PM | It's very simple OP,....
remember what your mother told you about stranger's,....
nd remember everything you told your children regarding stranger's
and then practice what you preach,....Mirka spelled it out for those that forgot that you too can get into trouble from stranger's,...which goes for all people,...men and women
What baffles me is why some people find that offensive,....
my personal rule of thumb is,..... anyone who doesn't have time to get to know me,...
isn't worth my time at all,....not even for one date,....
and I don't know whether all telephone books have a reverse listing where if you have a number you can get the address that goes with that particular number,....but my book,...has such a listing,..... | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 6:16:17 PM | Thread: Scary - Sex Offender and POF - upfront1974
I knew after reading the headline of this thread, and before opening it, that the subject would be a man - a male sex offender, a female victim. I could have put money on it.
I agree with Evilside (msg 2). His thoughts mirror mine to the letter.
- Peter | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 6:32:59 PM |
Now the 36-year-old, who is too afraid to have her name published, says she is glad she listened to her instincts when Tippett urged her to get together for a face-to-face meeting.
"Thank God I didn't meet with him," the woman said yesterday.
Tippett, 32, has a lengthy history of stalking and harassing young women.
She probably wasn't in too much danger, as it appears he likes his victims a whole lot younger. This is not to say she shouldn't have been concerned, she should have been...and she did the right thing...she listened to her gut feeling.
Also, it is illegal for a sex offender to be on online dating sites. Basically all of them (PoF included) require you agree to terms of use when registering. One of them is that you cannot be a convicted sex offender. It's a breach of contract if they do. Beyond that, of sex offenders who used the computer in their crime, generally are banned from any "dangerous" sites like dating sites. Some have, as a term of their release, restrictions as strict as no computers at all.
If a person is a sex offender, it doesn't seem that they are all that worried about breaking the law, so why would they even care about violating a contract? I don't think they would be.
Regarding Byrd's comments about Megan's law...good advice and you're right. It's a very good way to find out who is in your neighborhood, but it's limited. Only REGISTERED sex offenders are listed. If they have never been reported/convicted/etc., they won't be listed...and if they don't report their whereabouts, the information isn't up to date.
In some states (Massachusetts for example), a person can be listed as a registered sex offender just by simply stopping on the side of the road to take a leak and being seen and reported by a by passer. No offense against or with another human being has to take place.
Everyone should be careful when meeting strangers...no matter what sex or age you are. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 6:47:12 PM | He told me he had full custody of his two children ...(that) his wife had run off and left him to become an escort," she said.
"his wife had run off and left him to become an escort"? -- that's an awfully bizarre cover story. I would think that tale would set off alarm bells in any sensible person's mind.
I know a woman who, while maintaining basic safety guidelines, has done online dating for as long as it's existed, and only had one unfavorable experience with a guy who wouldn't stop calling. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 7:09:24 PM | | Since when are these guys concerned about whether something is illegal or not... alot of the people in prison are repeat offenders, what does that tell you? | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 8:21:00 PM | it tells me the system is broken by being clogged with drug offenders and people who commit crimes that aren't really harmful.
That aside, caring about whether something is illegal is probably a far greater concern from someone who has been in prison. They know what prison is like. On top of that, they are more closely monitored than anyone else in the general public.
And most of them being repeat offenders doesn't mean that most repeat offenders get arrested. That isn't how causation works. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2008 1:28:58 AM | Oh great, now the rest of us guys in Peterborough are going to have an even harder time meeting someone...
Her: So, where you from?
Me: Peterborough
Her: Reeeaaalllyy!! um...... oh no!, someone's at the door; gotta run, talk to you 'soon'...
Me: *sigh*
lol
~banquo~ | |
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Posted: 8/18/2008 1:55:11 AM | TY SO MUCH FOR PUTTING THIS IN
too bad it didnt sink through the males head's on here
evilside wow what a grt name for you
LISTEN UP AND LISTEN GOOD
THIS IS NOTTTTTTT ONE ISOLATED EVENT
THIS IS REALITYYYYYYYYYYY
AND A REALITY FOR WOMAN ON HERE AND IN EVERYDAY LIFE ALL THE TIME
do you read the news do you live in la la land
or are you one of the abusers they are talking about
realityyyyyyyyyy
go get that site that shows you how many pedafiles just in your own sweet home town there are.
Even though I work with the FBI and police as a profiler
being a Phd trainded psychologist from Harvard and psychic and trained in criminal law
I work non stop on battered woman cases missing children blah blah blah
I see it all
and its wayyyyyyyyy over 50 percent of life
its about 85 and that is being kind
and even IIIIIIIIIIIII when I got this email abouthow to put your zipcode in
and see how many pedafiles are in your town
I thought well being in an upscale nice community maybe
5
well guess what there were thousanddddddddddddddddddddddds
and they wree on my street next street and guess what
2 of them were from Match.com
men I almost mettttt in real life...
and they wer haneous murderer o f littel boyb and girls raped them dismemberd them oh how lovely
no its not a rare one time incident
MEN WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE
you are lucky that any of us woman ever give you a chance
ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I deal with this every damn day
I have to surmise either you are sooooooo naive
and unwilling to learn
or possibly an abuser youself
and by the way
since I work with the Fbi and police
I have had over 50 men checked out on here
that alllllllllllllllllllll h ad criminal creepy records and were all lying
and that was just in 4 months on here
sooooooooooo no
wake up
and show compassion for the woman in general
and for us woman who deserve medals for even tryign to trust
oh and just 4 months ago a woman was abducted on here bruttally and repeatedly raped and it did not make the papers for various reasons I cannot say
but it is moreeeeeeeeeee the norma than a nice man
and the amout of domestic violence going on would knock your socks off
and again
its about 85 p ercent or more
so I am talking from reality and experience
ask any court room judge police officer that is seasoned or a domestic violence trained detective
what the stats are
and you wake up
to reality
becasue DENAIL OF IT IS HOW THESE GUYS GET AWAY WITH IT
AND ALL YOUR UNWILLINESS TO FACE IT AND SEE IT
IS WHY THESE GUYS GET AWAY WITH IT
THEY BANK ON YOUR NAIEVITE
AND that casues all of us woman and children our lives
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Posted: 8/18/2008 3:22:12 AM | There are sex offenders that have been arrested and their pictures are on the internet. It's easy to check out the person one is regularly dating and the woman who doesn't isn't very smart. These days it's best to run a criminal history/background check with a partner's permission, but I certainly wouldn't suggest doing so until you've determined you want to spend some significant time with the individual in the future.
In other words, initially I think it's smart to begin to date in very public locations, like have dinner at a nice restaurant and see a movie. If you choose a meeting place that is very public like a mall strip center type of thing, you can spend the entire date without ever going near your car or they near theirs. This is best in the beginning. It gives you time to get to know the person, see their reactions, and get a sense whether you feel comfortable with them or not. The most important thing is that it is safe.
I don't think it's wise to allow anyone you don't know well into your "inner circle" until you've done such a check on them. It simply isn't wise these days. There are a lot of sex offenders and unsavory types that prey on women with children on these types of sites. One must use their head and be cautious, especially if there are children in the picture.
There are sex offenders in abundance who have never been arrested or caught. These kind offend again and again and no one is the wiser. This must be considered, especially for women who have children and grandchildren in their lives. The only thing that can be done to protect kids in this regard, is to regularly communicate with your children in an in depth manner about good touch/bad touch, etc. and to ask them regularly what they feel and think about the person you are seeing. One should never automatically trust people around your children. NEVER.
It is mandatory that women do a criminal background check/sex offender registry check before bringing a date, casual aquaintance, etc. around their children. Doing otherwise is foolish and stupid and it will put your children in harms way.
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Posted: 8/18/2008 3:38:05 AM | | Probably not the first , and likely not the last. There was a murder caught due to intervention of POF admin ( your emails are not private ). Also a member was gunned down in a biker hit. So the are a collection of unsavory types online. Much like you would find in the general populous. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2008 4:11:53 AM | these stories are BS becuase these women are 12 and 15. they are young.y ou have to be 18 to be on a dating site. So these women lied to get on the site and intentially flirted with older men. Notice that there is always an age discrepency between offender and victim. The victim is almost always under aged. And the offender uis usually some older middle aged man. they don't say what dating sites were used. and usually the information is misleading as its not a dating site but a social networking site. Such as facespace. The rules of any dating site is that you must be 18 years of age to be a member. so are these girls lying about their age and talking to intentially to older men?
mypoint being is that meeting people online and then in person is safe if you are both adults. Just meet ina crowded place with people Where you cna keep an eye on your drink and talk and get to know the person. better yet you cna bring a friend and make it a double date. it makes things even mroe safe. And fun.. or bad if your friend does not like the other person's friend. Or better yet if you don;t like eachother but your friend and his/her date hits it off... that;s alway hilarious! this post in cvery unspefcific and is fear mongering rubbish. i ahve been on over 2 dozen dates from online and never had a probblem except for tghe occasional bad date. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2008 4:29:28 AM | What is it with some of the men posting in this forum getting all sulky about the FACT that women and children have been raped and murdered? Why does this story provoke such a self-interested reaction from those men?
Ok, there was an internet connection in this particular case, and I'm sure it's not the first or last time we'll hear a story like that.
But why sulk about it effecting your chances of a date? Any of you guys have daughters you'd be happy to be going out and meeting strangers from the internet? Sheesh! | |
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Posted: 8/18/2008 4:53:07 AM | Another way of looking at this scenario is to see that this woman was wise in taking time to understand that there was an underlying issue with this man, and chose not to take him up on his offer.
One cannot blame plenty of fish, or the media for highlighting dating sites....there are good and bad in any situation. It is important to always understand to the best of our ability who we are talking to, this is the same for men and women.
This just highlights a worst possible situation .
It is important to bring this to the members attention....It is just a responsible thing to do....in this case in particular the offender may have connected with more women who will be helpful in the investigation.
As discussed in previous responses...it is important to be mindful of using any dating site, or dating someone you do not know well. (trust is earned and developed as relationships progress)
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Posted: 8/18/2008 4:59:14 AM |
these stories are BS becuase these women are 12 and 15. they are young.y ou have to be 18 to be on a dating site. So these women lied to get on the site and intentially flirted with older men. No one said those girls were on a dating site. Read the opening post again.
Notice that there is always an age discrepency between offender and victim. The victim is almost always under aged. And the offender uis usually some older middle aged man. Not true and statistics for sex offenses show otherwise.
they don't say what dating sites were used. and usually the information is misleading as its not a dating site but a social networking site. Such as facespace. The rules of any dating site is that you must be 18 years of age to be a member. so are these girls lying about their age and talking to intentially to older men? That has nothing to do with it. It matters not what site the offender was on, the point is that women....and men need to use precautions and exercise safe thinking when it comes to online dating.
Even if a child does lie about their age, the adult is the responsible party. Regardless of their age though and whether they lied about it or not, rape and murder are a crime against anyone as far as I know.
mypoint being is that meeting people online and then in person is safe if you are both adults. Only if you follow safe internet practice such as some of the things you stated. Unfortunately, not everyone does! I agree with the poster who simply stated to remember what you were taught as a child about strangers and all that you've preached to your own children. Then practice what you preach. Ask yourself this. Would you want your loved one to do what you're considering doing? What advice would you give them to keep them safe? Now take that advice yourself.
I'm not saying not to meet or date anyone from online because I think it's a wonderful new approach to meet people in the world. I'm only stating that we should all use common sense to protect ourselves because like it or not...we don't know who's really writing those emails to us or talking to us on the phone until we meet them and really find out who they are! The internet provides a fine mask for many people who unfortunately use it to hide many things behind. It's up to us to use intelligence and caution with everyone. That by the way includes offline, in person meets, as well as online!
this post in cvery unspefcific and is fear mongering rubbish. i ahve been on over 2 dozen dates from online and never had a probblem except for tghe occasional bad date. But you're not a woman now are you?
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Posted: 8/18/2008 5:40:22 AM |
There are sex offenders in abundance who have never been arrested or caught. These kind offend again and again and no one is the wiser. This must be considered, especially for women who have children and grandchildren in their lives. The only thing that can be done to protect kids in this regard, is to regularly communicate with your children in an in depth manner about good touch/bad touch, etc. and to ask them regularly what they feel and think about the person you are seeing. One should never automatically trust people around your children. NEVER.
You can also protect the children in your life by NOT posting photos of them on dating web sites. You can never tell why a person is contacting you initially...is it because they liked your profile, your photo....or is it because they liked the kids in your photos and you're just the way to get to them? I've seen many profiles with the dater posing with their children or using the kids' name in the profile. Talk about an open invitation to pedophiles! Folks (yes, men AND women), protect your kids. If someone wants to get to know you it shouldn't be because of the kids in your life. | |
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