| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:06:11 AM | | I AM NOT PHOTOGENIC...... my kids always say "Mom, you're so pretty but your pictures are terrible." And it's true. So, can someone, anyone honestly review my profile and make suggestions that would help the profile outweigh the image? | |
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:29:41 AM | Beauty is in the eye of the beholder galligirl... and from my point of view you're not bad looking at all! We are all harder on ourselves than others might be. Don't assume others might not find your picture attractive. Your profile sounds like you're a little preoccupied with how you look... :( If you want to, maybe add a little blurb like "btw...i'm much cuter in person!" But don't spend too much time concerned with your pics. That's only a small part of what we're looking for in a woman.
ps... and how far is Doylestown from Pgh anyways??? ;) | |
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:36:41 AM | You are a perfectly attractive woman. Best not to get too fixated with how you look. But yeah, your profile could be improved on, to complement your pictures.
Firstly, you need a new headline. "Does this mean I'm desperate?" Does WHAT mean you're desperate, being on an online dating site? Well, then everyone else here is just as "desperate" as you. Lose it. Use humor, or tie your headline into some aspect of your profile. Avoid cliches' and "looking for" headlines.
Delete this part:
I am a natural blonde, fantastic blue eyes, not quite overweight but not "smokin'" either---- (UPDATE FOLKS..... I dropped 30 pounds and yeah.......It's been said that I'm smokin'. Guess I oughta update my pix, huh? And probably add arrogant ass to my personality profile.
Again, this sounds as though you're overly fixated and anxious ab0ut your appearance. Just update your pics and don't feel the need to mention if you've put on or lost weight.
Once that bit's gone, then no, it's not enough. Some strung-together adjectives are not what we're looking for. Tell us HOW you're a fun person, a charming companion. Why would you be a good date? (And not because you're funny, smart, and "smokin' hot," either.)
All in all, I'd advise this: Take a deep breath. Calm down. Relax! Think positively. Don't stress over your profile or pics! Have fun with it. It's a process.
Check these helpful tips for what to include in a good profile:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx
Hope that helps. | |
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:40:10 AM | Your pics are fine , no need to worry. Try being a middle aged ,fat bald man and taking good pics..lol...now theres work ..lol
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:19:52 PM | | The first date section is pretty good. Clean up the narrative section a bit and use paragraphs (spacing). Remove the wolf and eye photos. I don't know how many eyes and wolves are using this site to find dates, but I suspect it's not too many. | |
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:57:43 PM | Your looks & pics are fine, except for the last 2. What's up w/the BLURRY close-up of your "fantastic" blue eye and... well, I just don't get the last pic?? If you lost weight, why wouldn't you post new pictures instead of explaining that you lost weight - then never would have had to start this thread.
IMO, regardless of your pictures or 1000 words of explanation, the biggest deal breaker in your profile is the fact that you are SEPARATED. No one wants to be the rebound relationship and even if you looked like Pam Anderson, 99% of guys would blow right by your profile because of your SEPARATED status. Now, I you're gonna change it to DIVORCED, then be honest and explain that early on in your profile. Otherwise, it'll make you look really deceptive when the truth finally comes out. | |
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:59:48 PM |
That's not true about men. Seperated women are fun to be with. Its the way to long divorced that are cynical and need to be avoided.
I don't know ANY men that would get involved w/separated women and from what I've read on these forums, most women won't get involved with separated men. Do a thread search and you'll see.
I've been divorced since ‘91. So, according to you, I'm cynical and should be avoided!? HUH?? I can say, unequivocally that you're completely wrong on that point. Further, I haven't found that to be the case with the "way to long divorced" women I've met, either. Heck, I know young, never been married people who are incredibly cynical so... what's up with that? To label someone "cynical" and say that they "need to be avoided" simply because they've been divorced a long time is ludicrous, IMO. | |
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 4:27:17 PM | | Hey Navigator... do you think a separated man might be willing to date a separated woman??? hmmmm??? Or you think she should lie on her profile (just a little), or sit at home waiting for her divorce to be final?? Your opinion is just that...one small opinion. Try not to make it seem it's the standard of everyone's thought. There are lots of separated people on this sight, and they do just fine! | |
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| Can 1,000 words redeem the picture?
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:55:24 PM |
Hey Navigator... do you think a separated man might be willing to date a separated woman??? hmmmm??? Or you think she should lie on her profile (just a little), or sit at home waiting for her divorce to be final?? Your opinion is just that...one small opinion. Try not to make it seem it's the standard of everyone's thought. There are lots of separated people on this sight, and they do just fine!
You're right, it's my opinion. An opinion based on personal experience with 2 separated women as well as the posts of many (seemingly majority) on the POF forums who have had similar, if not identical experiences.
Look, everyone has their opinions. The OP asked for them. If I made it sound like I was speaking for everyone on the forum, then my apologies.
BTW, Boyertown is about 4 hours & 20 minutes from Pittsburgh.... | |
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