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Posted: 9/2/2008 12:34:24 PM | | Ladies it says on here that most of the time it's the women who make the first contact. is that true? or are they just talkin about the good lookin guys, which I'm not. lol all kiddin aside I think I'm pretty attractive. lol | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 12:36:23 PM | | Women do less often. I only contact good looking people with similar interests. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 12:42:59 PM | No, it's not true. Where did you read that? If you're interested in someone, make the effort to contact them.
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Posted: 9/2/2008 12:56:25 PM | | i read it on the message when a guy sends someone a message. Women make first contact 26% of the time, the bulk of that goes to men with a picture and over 640 letters/characters in their description section. okay so 26% makes the first contact but still. I had to ask. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 1:00:40 PM | Eh OP?
26% is not 'most'..would it not be that the 74% would be most?
That 74% being men?
I'm confuzzled.... | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 2:56:31 PM | | OP I'd say it was the opposite. Most of the men who have any success here on pof are the ones who push themselves forward. Sure, if they sit back they might get the odd message or two, but mostly it's the men who contact the women. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 2:57:22 PM |
No, it's not true. Where did you read that? If you're interested in someone, make the effort to contact them.
What she said. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 2:58:43 PM | | I was never very good at math, but I'm pretty sure 26% isn't "most". | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 3:38:08 PM |
Ladies it says on here that most of the time it's the women who make the first contact. is that true?
i read it on the message when a guy sends someone a message. Women make first contact 26% of the time, the bulk of that goes to men with a picture and over 640 letters/characters in their description section. okay so 26% makes the first contact but still. I had to ask.
OP - you really need to work on your math skills. 26% is nowhere near most of the time. It's barely over 1/4 of the time.
Yes, some women initiate contact with men on this site, but as the statistics show, usually it is the men who contact the women. If you find a profile that you like, write to the lady. Don't wait to be contacting. This is my advise to both men and women. Be pro-active and take the initiative. What have you got to lose? It's not like they are going to literally be slamming the door in your face if they don't respond. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 3:41:31 PM | ~OT~ I have sent maybe 5 contact emails in the four years I've been a POF member. It's not my nature, not my comfort zone and really not even in my nature. I'd much prefer "he" write first. The POI in my life did write first and that was perfect, because even though I wanted to, I wouldn't have.  | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 3:59:51 PM | I think your stat's are a bit wrong, Yes, I have contacted men I was interested in. I was under the impression that on a dating site we were All supposed to making contact.
I honestly have made more contact with men via something they have written in forums. I am not one to use the search engine much to lazy I guess, I also want to see what the man has posted beside what they wrote on their profile.
I have never given it a thought, the man I am in a relationship contacted me first and not to hit on me. We had other issues, and what is ironic is we knew each other off site for many years. Neither one of us choose to post a picture at that time. I love the thing here since I was on here last private images I just share then that way.
So I honestly think it depends on the person and how they want to be approached. I also think for me in the first email I want some meat in it. I want something to work with, and not the same old, same old blase questions of what is my favorite movie. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 4:02:06 PM | | You haven't been around these message boards too long OP. The men are always crying about how women never contact them and women are alway crying about the zonks who do contact them. I think your findings are faulty. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 4:21:39 PM |
Ladies it says on here that most of the time it's the women who make the first contact. is that true?
 Where did you hear this? Was it a good friend of yours?
I do contact guys if I feel like dating someone I am physically attracted to. But normally on dating sites I do not need to put my feelers out. This one is the exception because I haven't posted a picture and I have been on it for a long time. Even then, I met a lot of people without having a picture. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 4:26:42 PM |
Ladies it says on here that most of the time it's the women who make the first contact. is that true?
No, it's not true. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 4:33:46 PM | I am another who wants to know where you read this.
Send us the link please.
Most of my first contacts are not for the dating category as some are forum members regarding their posts.
OP - you really need to work on your math skills. 26% is nowhere near most of the time. It's barely over 1/4 of the time. I was a lil puzzled myself....I nearly thought somethin' had changed between this afternoon and now as I use math every day almost all day. I nearly hopped into my car and headed back to the office to re-do all my ledger books!  | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 4:51:00 PM | I don't do it often, but i've contacted them first. If I hadn't who knows I may not have met them on here. So i'm very glad I made the first contact. All you can do is try and if nothing happens or they don't reply back then move on to the next one. At least you can say you tried and you never know it may just work out. So don't be affraid to make the first contact and happy  | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:03:34 PM | | It's my opinion that if you are not proactive and make the moves you wish to make - you will never get what you want! If I saw someone that rang my bell - I messaged them!! However most women are not that forward! | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:15:36 PM | The fact is most women on here are not fishing. Oh, they have a line in the water but that's about it. I have blurb in my profile that I usually don't email first. I guess I'm looking for the proactive ones.
Oh crap! What if they're doing the same??? lol | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:26:56 PM |
Oh crap! What if they're doing the same??? lol Lightbulb moment? | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:27:09 PM | I have contacted women and they have contacted me. I have made first contact more although.
I am not the type to try "play the field" with every woman I see who I see interest in. I do not have several dates lined up, chat with 10 different women at the same time. Well, chat with the intentions of taking them out....I will chat with anyone. There are a couple I have my eyes on for just that..because I feel that while we are not in the same dating pool, they could hold an intelligent conversation about many issues. I see that in their forum posts  | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:48:03 PM | No~ this is utter bullshit.
Men do the chasing on these types of venues, in my experience.
I have no issue being the hunter instead of the prey~ but the quality prey is kinda sparse around these fields. Such as life. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:50:47 PM | If a lady hits me up, I will always reply, no question. And yes, sometimes they do first.
But I think they get 100 messages to my 1. Respect that it's tough on that end. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:54:33 PM |
lol all kiddin aside I think I'm pretty attractive
If you really thought you were attractive, you wouldn't be using a 6 yr old photo as your main photo.
Ladies it says on here that most of the time it's the women who make the first contact
Now where did you find that stat? It wasn't clear in your previous reply-at least to me.
I find I get more initial emails from men versus what I personally initiate but then I don't go looking at profiles very often.
If this is actually a 'nice guy' or 'why don't I get a reply' thread, perhaps you could send your profile for review. You may also want to put up a full body pic. From the face -the one that 'might' be current, you seem to be quite a bit over the 'few extra pounds'-perhaps a full body shot would support your choice.
Good luck.
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:03:25 PM | If someone would qualify that saying, meaning cases where a relationship
actually developed, then I would say that would be quite believable! | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:16:18 PM | | NO, women make first contact 26% of the time, men make first contact 74%. | |
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