| why dont i get any mail?
Posted: 9/6/2008 2:15:34 PM | | seriously, my profile is filled out,, im an attractive guy , yet no mail day after day... is there something wrong with it? Honest question,, is there a better way to fill it out to get people interested in me? | |
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| why dont i get any mail?
Posted: 9/9/2008 3:05:55 PM | | your trying to hard....dont put the **** on a pedestal there is no pussalies god or anything...just have fun and be yourself | |
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| why dont i get any mail?
Posted: 9/9/2008 3:14:50 PM | You, myself, and 100,000+ other males aren't getting any responses because this POF site is a giant sausage fest - 3-4x's more men than women... What the hell?? with those kind of odds, no wonder why any of us decent, deserving men get overshadowed by the generic wankers out there.
I propose that this site do a filter screening of the male profiles out there. There should be a minimal word length on the profile, and a certain amount of pics listed.
With that- I'd say half the men on this would be booted - leaving us better odds at getting ourselfves discovered.
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Posted: 9/9/2008 9:05:15 PM | | Try a couple more pics that are a little more simple. I can't see you! a woman can't see you, and she has no idea by your pics what your body looks like. if your fat take pics that flatter, and get a nice face pic that she can see your mug! lol just my two pennies. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 11:32:28 AM | Hey, it's not just the men...I don't get any mail either. So what gives?
You can fill out the profile all you want, I have changed mine several times....seems no one is looking.....
Just hang in there, you'll get a bite soon enough. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 1:20:39 PM | To be honest, you mention 7 times what you don't want. Be upbeat, let a lady know what you DO want. And don't be shy, you do want a LTR I think. May not be the 1st 2nd or 3rd date, but isn't that what you ultimately hope to find?
Good Luck....dating isn't easy, and, you can't expect the "AHA she's it!" on the first date. I give it the 3 date rule.
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| why dont i get any mail?
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:44:57 PM | | Meet people on the general forums. There are many more eyeballs over there. Of course, you'll start getting mail from someone in Ireland or Alberta, but that's the breaks. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2008 3:40:43 PM | | I've noticed pretty much EVERYBODY on the "no email in 24 hrs" list is a smoker. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 9:25:16 PM | Bro, I hav only had a few women respond and they never pan out cause most are bombarted with emails. or other excuses, maybe scared or........ Im always the chaser not the chasei. I guess just have paitience. Thats the best advice i can give ya. I get frustrated too cause i thought this was a dating sight? Not 1 women has emailed me 1st. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 10:50:30 AM | Hmmm. I hope this won't be a new idea - Why don't you send out three to five e-mails a day and see who responds? Send them to women with no pics. Send them to women you ordinarily wouldn't give a second look at. You may be the center of your universe but so very many people behave the same way - That becomes an instant problem. Also you might make a committment to yourself that you will answer all e-mails sent to you - Courtesy goes a long way. I occasionally write to men on this site but few have answered - and out of those who have answered - well, let's say they decided I wasn't worth even talking to without a pic - too bad - their loss. Like you have your boundaries - so does everyone else on this site. I like the various POV's as well as the slanted anonymity but I certainly don't take this (or much else) seriously! Hope you find what you're looking for
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Posted: 11/12/2008 2:24:22 PM | | Wow! I don't fee too bad any more. I get better luck at Rumbay. I could come up with a list of excuses but no sense in dredging up old social boogiemen. In the interest of social enlightenment, how about just being amicable or cordial. Say hello or just respond to anyone who emails you, get to know them even if you know you only want to friends with them. In the 21st century, we are still rejecting people solely based on their race, looks, and physical attributes. Talking to someone is far from sleeping with them. Making friends is the least we should get out this site. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2008 10:19:03 AM | Try tweaking your profile, send messages with a question. I found someone similar enough
to me that I just sent another message asking why they just read and ignored me and if they could give me advice with my profile. Still thats only 1 person so far out of like 10 I have tried to get to talk to me. It is pretty discouraging, Especially when you see people you would like to talk to but they live too far away and wont accept mail if your more than 75 miles away.
I've concluded my prospects in/near grand junction are less than ideal... sucks but maybe its just that simple. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 10:54:14 AM | a lot of women have waaaaaaay too high standards. that isn't a bad thing but kind of ridiculous sometimes.
just because someone isn't a model (they usually aren't either) or makes 6 figures - they don't want to give them a chance. my best suggestion would be to turn off the computer and get out and meet people who are into the same things you are into.
just check the web once a week or so and you won't get so discouraged.
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Posted: 12/29/2008 10:31:49 AM | | Because you do not have a profile that is worth it. If a guy writes I read and if he has nothing to say I just click delete If I have time I'll tell him why. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 2:34:21 AM | | I'm with you. I have sent out over 50 individual emails to 50 lovely ladies and the only two replies I got were from sweet ladies explaining that they weren't interested. I can appreciate that and thank them for their "no thank you" replies. Why can't I get that same respect from the other 48 ladies I wrote to? I think women on here, or I should say most women on here, are not looking for a nice guy to settle down with. They are looking for a hot stud like guy who is probably not a nice guy, but they would rather go out with him then a nice guy who looks like me. I think I am pretty attractive. I just don't get it. Ladies, any thoughts? | |
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Posted: 1/6/2009 3:16:55 PM | vicious has it right, the women here have way to high of standards and only look at certain criteria before they decide your not worth talking to. unfortunately most of the time their passing by somebody who is exactly what they claim they want simply because he isn;t cute enough or he's not tall enough or some other bogus reason. btw i use claim very loosely, most women don't know what they want just as much as the guys don't. seems as though most people in general play well out of their league on here, women and men alike.
i've noticed actually more then occasionally - i played in numerous bands over the years in various places and i can safely say i recognize a lot of faces on here, and i mean A LOT of faces. i can also safely say many of them have hit on me when i was playing in some form. rather recognized me and came up to me someplace else or while the band was on break or what have you, those same people on here i've tried to talk to and get ignored. i don't post a picture with a face anymore for that very reason. i'd rather somebody like me for who i am rather then what i did or who i knew.
people on here plain and simple see a picture, then they see kids/money/smokes/ whatever then they might waste the time to read what you say. if your picture isn't good enough bye bye. i hate to say it but even women who i usually wouldn't give a second glance at out on the street seem to think their the best damned thing to grace the earth. granted i'm not the greatest looking guy out there and never claimed to be but some of these women are well below my league and think their too good for the average guy. plus many of them EVEN THE ONES WHO SAY "NO GAMES" really are just playing a game to see how good they can get and have no real intentions on finding anything serious.
i guess my whole view on this site is, if your gonna play those kinds of games go to a bar where others are gonna play too. if not for christ sake stop acting like you are and take a few seconds to get to know a person before you dismiss them. reply to a few emails, not just the cute ones and rich ones.
aw to hell with it, i stopped emailing people years ago, stopped dating years ago, practically stopped caring years ago. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 6:39:17 PM |
why dont i get any mail?
Because you deleted your profile... oooh rocket science there | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 6:50:07 PM | I wish POF would let you post photos other than your own personal pic. I've got a cartoon that shows a female skeleton sitting on a park bench, and the caption reads, "Waiting for the perfect man." That's the problem with women and the internet in general. They want the perfect man. They'll all wind-up little old maids before they find "Mr. Perfect." I'd rather find a lady who is down to earth, and realistic in her expectations anyway. And most of the women on POF are anything BUT that. So the heck with women! Let's go fishing!   | |
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Posted: 9/23/2009 8:09:07 PM | "vicious has it right, the women here have way to high of standards and only look at certain criteria before they decide your not worth talking to. "
Yeah, like who the shit do they think they are anyway. Their egos have gone bizerk. Most are nothing but plain janes but that is obviously not what they see in the mirror. They need to get a grip and get real and men need to smarten up. | |
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