| What is "DRAMA" ??
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:24:16 AM | In many profiles I read "Must not have drama." Can someone be specific on what the true desire is?
Seriously, everyone has "drama" in thier life, otherwise there would be no fodder for soap operas..well besides the captured by alien episode and the lost your memory episode and started a new life on the other side of the world and the episode where you were buried alive...
Why must men advertise they don't want "drama"? Maybe just a space filler? OR Could it be true there are "drama-free" lives? What is that like? | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:42:16 AM | I have a drama free life, and its great
some just love to seek it out
leran to accept those things you cannot change
And change the things that you can | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/8/2008 11:22:59 AM | | Its hard for me to specifically define DRAMA since it takes many shapes and forms, but I know it when I see/hear it. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/9/2008 6:23:56 PM | | Drama would be pretty much bringing up bad experiences with the ex lovers. Being too emotional also. Talking about problems at work or in the home like you are some kind of head shrinker. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/9/2008 8:23:30 PM | Thanks Kevin, I appreciate your feedback. So to clarify; work, or past relationships would be considered "drama"?
Not to be argumentative, but consider this: I haven't slept more than three hours a night in the last week due to on call duties for work, but it won't impress you how dedicated I am to my job? You won't understand that's the reason for the bags under my eyes when we meet for the first time tonight? (Hypothetical ;p) Perhaps men don't want to know that when I discovered my child was on meth, I drove him straight to MonteVista and left him there to get clean? Because in that in that moment I realized, that I alone could not help him become drug free, but that won't impress you much? Men think it's a bad idea to learn how I (or a prospective ) may have dealt with a bad situation with a former? All of that is considered "drama"? Would it be fair to say men in general don't like hearing about the life experiences of a woman the first few (or six, seven?) dates? When then?
For me these would be telling characteristics of someone I may (or may not) decide to spend some time with. Again, for me, I think I'd rather get some of that important stuff up front so I can make a decision about HOW this person has dealt with "drama" in thier life and if I should cut and run! By the way, I have found men an easy egg to crack when queried about so called "drama" topics..so much so, that rarely do I get asked the same in return. I guess they must be so happy to have someone listen to their stories! :) | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/9/2008 8:48:51 PM | I don't wanna hear about how you used to fight with your ex, who is pissing you off at work and you wanna beat their ass, how your sister slept with your husband.
that is drama . | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/9/2008 9:11:08 PM | That is Jerry Springer!
LOL! Cut and run. Next!
Kevin, I know we are few, but honest women with real and meaningful lives are looking for love online too. Don't be gullible, just outwardly optimistic, that's a huge attraction.
Thanks again for your comments. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/10/2008 6:00:58 PM | | what you see on jerry springer defines "drama" online. i dont like him and don't wanna hear it on a date. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/10/2008 7:58:54 PM | What you see on Springer is just nuts!
I think "drama" means every little issue might become a big issue, which lots of people seem to let happen.
Why complicate the easy things in life?!
But then what drama to one person might be nothing to the next person..........all perspective I suppose?
For instance: I am having drama right now in the office..............the spam faxes are running me out of ink!!!!.............now that's DRAMA dadugmmit!!! | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/12/2008 11:04:38 PM | Wow, I asked the same question a few days ago and had like 20 PPL jump at it...now the threads been cancelled for some reason....lol.
I believe everyone has "drama" of some sort and that it would be impossible to have a relationship without their "drama" becoming both persons "drama"...Maybe, thats the secret of compatibility....Can you handle your partners "Drama"?If not, theres a word for that cure..."Divorce".... | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/15/2008 3:40:08 PM | drama in a relationship is when nothing goes to plan.
i/e:
NORMAL DATE: meet her, get her number, call and ask her out (she says yes) you pick her up -you go out and have a fun time. take her home, goodnight kiss. call her next day and ask her out again.
DRAMA DATE: meet her, get her number, -wrong number or her roommate, kids or ex answers the phone (she never gets the message). -run into her again, she has lame excuses as to why she never got back to you, she barrows $10 bucks from you -(never intending to pay you back). you run into her again, get the right number, call her, get put on hold several times cuz she has call waiting, she finally agrees to go out with you, however cancels at the last minute. finally get a time when she is free. get to her house -she's not ready -wait for her while she whines about everything she can think of, her hair, her car being impounded cuz she doesn't have any insurance, her cat has worms and her ex keeps calling her when he's drunk. finally get to the restaurant, she keeps smiling at the guy sitting at the table next to you, she drinks too much and gets sick. -take her home. -then she calls you twelve times a day for the next two weeks, wondering when you are going to ask her out again... | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/15/2008 9:39:03 PM | | Pre-date-Interview: See ad online and agree to meet for lunch (45min to an hour) ASAP so not a lot of time is invested emotionally (in writing & phone calls etc..). Worst case scenario, he is wearing a moomoo and is fifty years older than his picture and you weed out the whining, edgeiness, dependencies and all the other undesirable "dramatics" knowing that within ten minutes or so; we have a pleasant luncheon which ends in "Thank you for your time, but I don't feel a connection. Good luck in your search for love-online. " He doesn't know where I live, doesn't have my number to pine at me. visa versa and etc... NO drama! Best case scenario: We hit it off and talk about the next time we can get together, exchanging numbers and investing yourself in the potential of actually finding a compatible person, risking all the drama that comes with normal people and the respect that comes with making an appropriate choice in having an actual first date? Maybe I'm just a dreamer, but I swear there are so many really cool people online just looking for the same spark I am and have no ill-will when we meet aand it is not mutual. We "just keep swimming" ... | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/17/2008 3:34:24 PM | | funny thing is, it seems like some of the ones who say they can't tolerate drama are the fussiest and most dramatic ones of all. they also share the longest, bitter tales of woe, filled with blame for everyone else. the easy going ones never mention drama! | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:11:30 PM | | Can't argue with that..........simple, concise and easy.........not a lot of pressure.........the KISS theory (Keep It Simple St...). | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/24/2008 7:35:39 PM | | You are so right! The no-drama guys also want this perfect, gorgeous 22 yr old...especially when they are in their 40's. Hahaha....Like that will ever happen! I say more power to them if they think they'll find it there, let them stay in that dreamland. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 9/29/2008 6:13:02 PM | The no-drama guys also want this perfect, gorgeous 22 yr old...especially when they are in their 40's. Hahaha....
Not this guy..I don't want an immature under 30 year old head case. They don't know what they want in life. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:42:29 AM |
funny thing is, it seems like some of the ones who say they can't tolerate drama are the fussiest and most dramatic ones of all. they also share the longest, bitter tales of woe, filled with blame for everyone else. the easy going ones never mention drama!
Exactly.
Sounds to me like people use the word drama for what I call baggage. If life were drama free, it wouldnt be life. There is no utopia that I know of. Everything has a price. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 2/3/2009 6:20:53 AM | Drama to me is the kind where the woman incessantly nags the man - He spends too much time with his car, too much time in the garage, he loves football more than her. Then there's the little Drama Queen that continuously sends IMs, emails, phone calls - "Where are you? You are exactly 4 minutes and 29 seconds late coming home from work!! YOU HAVE ANOTHER WOMAN - I JUST KNOW IT!!!!!!!! WHO IS SHE?"  It's just those people that look for something wrong.
My advice for those women is this: Don't nag the man - get into his world a little bit - go out in the garage, hand him a wrench naked and TRUST ME - THAT CAR WILL BE IGNORED!!!! Football season? Sport a jersey, thong underwear, put beer in the fridge and offer snacks - for the games on Sunday - the closer the score, the better the sex will be during halftime! Quityer****in' and enjoy the journey!!  | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 2/3/2009 11:24:38 AM | | Well drama to me is a person that constantly has emotional turmoil happening in their life, many times over stuff that is "just life". It is usually negative emotional stuff and it usually is designed to bring attention or sympathy to the one having the drama. They thrive on the attention that comes from being emotionally upset. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 3/5/2009 12:52:58 PM | This one always gets me. I don't care who you are, EVERYONE has some form of "drama" in their life. If you do NOT have any drama in your life that pretty much makes you a "sociopath". Pretty scary thought, but think about it. A sociopath (which is what most serial killer are) does not feel any emotion (guilt, remorse, sadness, ect..)
I wouldn't want to be dating a sociopath! (YIKES!!) | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 4/25/2009 10:05:48 PM | Well if everyone has Drama in there life then you already know the meaning of drama, right???
I think what men are trying to say is the same thing I am trying to say in my profile. I don't get along with a lot of women because I cannot stand listening to this crap;
"Oh my god, you know what my husband did the other day, I could of killed him!" and you go on and on about some dumb argument because of something he did when the entire time you thought I was listening... LOL... I can be an awesome friend but I have my own things to deal with in life, I don't have time to listen to other people's negative issues. Some men are guilty of doing the same crap too!
I think men do not want to sit there and listen to the girl talk about her x boyfriends, all the mean things they did, and just sit there like your chatting with your girlfriend. They want to hear real things about you. They want to get to know you and all you show them when you sit there talking about drama is that you like it! Men are simple as where women have to dig to get deep inside otherwise they don't feel like they really know you. When really it's just as simple as it can be. I live life with a drama free approach. If something happens that brings stress, well that's drama. Fix it or get rid of it. Don't sit and ponder with it. It's negativity and all that does is bring you down!!!!
Happy 
"Janice Marie is and unlicensed, bipolar schizophrenic, psychotherapist; trapped, like most of us, in Reno, NV. She knows where she wants to go and how to get there, but fears she won't make it because of her fu%ked up head. All opinions by Janice Marie are with said emotional issues that come along with the few bottles of medication taken for mental issues!! The Dr. requires her to get out at least once a day before she is restrained to her quarters! Please do not hold Janice responsible for any decisions you actually make!!!!! Tune to openlybi775's profile for more of her freaky babbles!!!!!"
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 5/24/2009 2:00:24 PM | | OMG! I start reading a profile. The poster uses the word "drama." I stop reading. Drama happens people. Life isn't always fun and games. If you can't handle the down times with someone, that doesn't show much strength, consideration, or patience. | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:11:09 PM | DRAMA = any show on MTV
I figure anyone who is not on a reality show or talk show is fairly drama free.
just my $0.02 | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 8/1/2009 8:52:44 AM | | Drama is Andrew Lloyd Webber meets Puccini. Didn't you ever feel you'd like to have a day like the scene in the Phantom of the Opera where they sing their hearts out about the beauty of song? Didn't you ever feel you'd rather have a girlfriend who moved like Betty Davis instead of a sack of potatoes? What is a drama free life? Sitting in Barstow Ca, watching flies on the wall and tractor trailors going by? We know we don't want to be shouted down today, but why must all drama be bad? I had a boyfriend who had the most irreverant wit toward mostly everything. Man, he was so damn funny, I'd literally roll in convulsions on the floor. Jesus., a lot of you act like Disney is too thick for your blood. Doesn't anyone wish they had a date who could enter a room like Julia Roberts? That's drama, if you take drama as anythoing that is acquired. Pass the salt please is drama. You didn't say it when you were 6 months old, your mother taught it to you and you bloody hated it. Anything you weren't born with is drama, so are we going to googoo in a crib til we're 99? | |
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| What is DRAMA ??
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:55:08 PM | | i find it funny most girls say that. meanwhile there the ones that have 3 kids and have been divorced twice by the age of 20. plus they have all these requirements for you to message them. beggers cant be choosers moms always said | |
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