| High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/8/2008 6:54:01 AM | This thought came to me after reading one of the other Threads...
How do you as a MAN define "high maintenance" in a gal?
How do you as a WOMAN define "high maintenance" in a gal?
Wonder if men an women have different view of it...  | |
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| High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/8/2008 7:05:37 AM | In my fractured mind, a high maintenance person would be some that takes too much energy to maintain a satsfying relationship and therein lies the operative word... satisfying. High maintenance people never seem to be satisfied albeit emtionally or materially.
Just my $.02 worth. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:14:23 AM | Great post Bobbe! I agree 100 percent...
When the effort required to keep them happy just outweighs the benefits basicaly. LOL
Cheers
Cowboy | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:22:49 AM | | High maintenance, in my opinion, is someone who has to spend hours getting themselves ready every day. Blowdrying hair, packing on makeup so that it's totally perfect. Making sure none of your nails are chipped. If they are, repainting them so they look perfect. Clothes have to be just right. Get the matching shoes. Pantyhose can't have a run in it. Alot of women will do that if they are going out somewhere for the evening but if you're doing it everyday I would say that is fairly high maintenance. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:31:09 AM | My gut reactions (in random order):
1. Needs more than 15 minutes of prep to go to a convenience store;
2. Cannot conceive of spending a night camping in a tent, because of lack of prep facilities;
3. "Before" prep/"After" prep photos bear no resemblance to each other;
4. Needs three safari bearers for luggage when traveling;
5. Freaks when a day passes without contact from you;
6. Asks you how your day at the office was every time you get home from work, and refuses to take "Ugh" for an answer;
7. Has purchased more than 6 pairs of shoes in the past year;
8. Flinches when you touch her hair;
9. Wears make-up to the beach;
10. Sends you to the store for feminine hygiene products;
11. Unable to bait a hook anywhere other than on POF;
12. Expects you to do all the paddling in small watercraft;
13. Monthly clothing budget exceeds total of all utilities bills;
14. Stocks shower with more than three bottles of ectoplasm;
15. Insists that husband wear wedding ring;
16. Measures love/affection/interest in dollars;
17. Carries a purse at all times;
18. Buys gas only at full serve stations (NJ ladies forgiven for this, as they have no training);
19. Eyelashes come off and night and go back on as part of "prep";
20. Has never stepped foot into the garage | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:40:24 AM | | Asks how your day was, then interupts 2 sentences into your description, to tell you for 25 minutes how hers was, then how everything went wrong, except what she did. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:45:10 AM | Some of your ideas are good but most of them suck. High maintenance to you seems to be anything that isn't frumpy. Feminine hygiene products? Wearing a wedding ring? Carrying a purse? Geez!!!
My idea of high maintenance for a male is:
Having to soothe his huge ego on a daily basis
Having to say "Yes dear" every time he speaks
Only going to places HE wants to go to keep HIM happy
Having to work two jobs just to help support his gun collection, fishing equipment, and big boy toys.
Having to wear heels all the time to keep him from whining about how HE likes them.
There you have it. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:47:44 AM | Signs of a high maintenence woman:
>Requires the man do all the work in planning dates.
>Never offers to pay for a date.
>She can never leave her house without makeup. Even if it's just to run errands.
>Her shoes take up the entire floor of the closet.
>She can't (won't learn) to cook.
>Her kitchen has little food in it because she eats out all the time.
>She's a regular customer of Starbucks, Byerly's etc...
>She won't do anything outdoors when it's too hot or too cold. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:56:02 AM | Simple answer would be "When seeing someone is a chore rather than a pleasure"
For me personally I hate when a girl needs constant re-assurance. That can be about anything, her looks, personality, clothes, make-up, that I'm not ignoring her. Urggg, just leave me in peace!! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:00:30 AM | [qoute]In my fractured mind, a high maintenance person would be some that takes too much energy to maintain a satsfying relationship and therein lies the operative word... satisfying. High maintenance people never seem to be satisfied albeit emtionally or materially.
exactly. Like a high performance or Luxury car, they need constant care to maintain optimal performance and over all aesthetics.
Whether amle or female they can drain you of energy and put you in a emotional upheaval and can fill your life with drama. They can be time wasters. And underneath all of that primping, prepping and physical care you may fear not being attracted to what's really underneath. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:01:32 AM | For me high maintenance means being expected to cater to someone's emotional well being, having to dish out constant approval or having to hold their hand thru things they should be taking care of on their own...or not being able to go anywhere without a chaperone.
Mostly it means obligation and/or a lot of effor on my part in order to be around them...they cannot just "be".
Basically whatever I can do in my life I expect others to be able to do also...or at least not expect my assistance in doing it. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:12:06 AM | Wow, some of you are a total TRIP! 
I've never known of a high maintenance man that wasn't a drunk or an abuser; or just plain emotionally inept. Most are fairly easy going guys that are pleasant to be with, once you're able to accept their code, and know how to best maneuver around it. :)
I define a high maintenance woman as one that' s unable to function properly, on an ongoing basis, without assistance. In my world, it has nothing to do with prep work, as she's the one doing the prepping; she's quite capable of doing it for herself--and it has nothing to do with clothing/make up, hair, blahblahblah. *sigh* | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:14:22 AM | Oh please... Man up fellas.
Damn, if these are the definitions of a 'high maintenance woman' then I must LOVE high maintenance women.
I'm sorry, but I like the fact that a woman wants to take care of herself, likes the finer things in life, and is well... Feminine. Don't get me wrong, I dig a woman who can get down and dirty too, but at the end of the day, I don't mind waiting an extra 30 minutes in your living room if the result is you walking out of the bathroom looking like a goddess...
And as far as emotionally high maintenance? No different from men. Except instead of talking about it, we keep our dissatisfaction inside only to use it as an excuse to cheat later because "we're not getting what we want" in the relationship. At least a 'high maintenance chick' will tell you that you suck before she cheats on you. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:46:48 AM |
Some of your ideas are good but most of them suck.
LOL. Yeah, I hear that alot.
My idea of high maintenance for a male BBBUUZZZZZ! Penalty box for the next 5 pages. High sticking. Retaliatory. And OP only asked for high maintenance def of "gals". lol | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 9:22:38 AM | Wow, some of you guys sound sooooo angry, lol! It sounds like your recalling some woman in the past that scorned you for wearing black pants with a navy blue shirt. I'd tell you to freaking chill, but I know in real life, many these complaints of high maintenance are just sour grapes from being rejected by the implied high maintenance woman.
Besides, if you're dating a woman, and you have a problem with how long she takes in the bathroom, you'd never tell her to hurry up, you'd just resent it, like the philly guy so PERFECTLY put it, resent it and maybe use it as an excuse later to cheat, or when she dumps you for your sulking, say you don't like high maintenance women. Don't go on like you don't like a girl made up every once in a while, and you wouldn't feel lucky to have a girl dressed to the nines on your arm even every single day.
Now this is coming from the most tomboyish of all my female friends (all 5 of them). I like to look nice, I like to do my hair and make up. I like to put on nice clothing and shoes and look attractive and enjoy the appearance of myself in the mirror, because I have self respect. I want to be the best I can be in many respects, including my every day appearance.
Being easy going though, if I'm camping, lose my make up, have to throw on yesterdays jeans for a quick run to the store, or get all sweaty in the summer heat, I will not freak out. It's not my ideal, but it won't make me miserable. So my definition as a female of what female high maintenance is, is a person who WILL be unhappy if all their requirements are not met. Someone who CHOOSES to be unhappy about it, instead of deciding to be flexible and to gain perspective on the situation.
Whether it be physical, or emotional, if you don't get your way, and you throw some version of a temper tantrum or get negatively reactive about it would be leaning more towards the high maintenance side. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 9:39:01 AM | yep Philly
you are right!
some guy on here was whining about a woman not offering to pay on a date! I can remember once going out with a guy and we went to a bar. When the bar person asked what I would like I replied 'I'd like a breezer for a change please'. My companion said 'it would be a change if you paid'! I assumed he was joking, discovered he wasn't and it lead to an excrutiating discussion about 'going dutch'. DEAREST GOD! This guy was even tight with his kisses, mean men SUCK - oh dear thats a whole different subject (I hope I'll be forgiven because although im hugely opinionated I'm also very new)
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Posted: 9/8/2008 9:42:51 AM | | Someone who spends a extraordinary amount of time and energy on their appearance or a person who constantly needs to be the center of attention. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 9:44:22 AM | High maintanence from how I have heard it used, as I honestly can't say I have ever really uaed the term, implies a woman who wants to be "kept" and "maintained" by a man usually, who has a taste for the finer things in life (whether or not she can afford it herself or she expects the man to seems not to matter), she cares alot about personal physical appearance and material things, is snobby and a handful in that she is always "wanting" things.
That is how I see it used most often and it is ofcourse negative more than positive. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 9:46:56 AM |
never seem to be satisfied albeit emtionally or materially
I agree with your statement about those 2, emotional and material demands. If you can leave your creditcard to your woman and she has both legs on the ground and do not overspend but have a healthy outlook on what really makes you happy - then I as a man totally relax. A woman who does not make impulse shopping but who have good financial knowledge. Good finances gives you freedom to do stuff together...like traveling much more. In my life Ive traveled extensively and Ive only been able to do this because I have healthy financial understanding.
I think the materially spender is one of every mans nightmare. For a woman any man who does not spend quality time with her must be a nightmare to the woman.
Emotional demands can be killing if she thinks you have to do all things together. Emotional addicts I call them :) - they feel they need to have close to 100% of their partners time.
Being "one" does NOT mean you have to give up ALL your interests. It only means you choose certain things to do together...or at least you create new interests together. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 9:49:44 AM | High maintenance? When it's always about them. No matter how sick, broke, sad,lonely you get their version is always worse.
Me: "I have such a headache today"
Him: "I thought I had a brain tumor last year" | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:00:14 AM | Just read this some time ago...cant remember the website.
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[B]What I think is wrong is when a woman demands these things from someone when she isn’t capable of providing them for herself. Or when she forces a man to go into debt just to maintain a facade, which isn’t affordable for either of them. A man complying with such demands need to reassess his involvement with this type of woman and bid her farewell.[/B]
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What do you guys think about this definition? | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:17:51 AM |
Just read this some time ago...cant remember the website.
What I think is wrong is when a woman demands these things from someone when she isn’t capable of providing them for herself. Or when she forces a man to go into debt just to maintain a facade, which isn’t affordable for either of them. A man complying with such demands need to reassess his involvement with this type of woman and bid her farewell.
What do you guys think about this definition?
That's not High Maintenance. That's a Gold Digger. *See Kanye West*
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:28:21 AM | | Well, anyone who is self-absorbed is high maintenance. And that applies to both genders. Yup, another word for selfish! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:28:52 AM | Here's a personal example. I dated a woman for time that was everything I thought I wanted, The sex was great in the beginning but as her demands wore on me, even that dulled t a point where I didn't want to do anything with or to her.
Now that's high maintenance.  | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:51:40 AM | I am a pretty independent woman actually. Please tell me I don't have to give up the shoes. As long as I am buying them, cleaning them and wearing them that wouldn't make me high maintenance would it? Gotta have the shoes.....luv my shoes.....more shoes.....  By the way, I consider high maintenance to be a male or female that expects someone else to supply more than half of anything to be content. | |
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