| | I Feel A Bit Unreasonable - What Do You Think?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | if a guy contacts me, and i respond, i sign my name at the bottom of the e-mail...i have a fairly common name that's spelled in a normal enough way.
when a guy writes back after i spelled my name correctly, with the end "ie" and spells my name ending in "EY" it makes me not want to write back because it makes me feel like they couldn't even take the time to make sure my name was correct.
but then i feel like that's an unreasonable reason to stop speaking to someone...
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:24:11 PM | My daughter's name is Zoe.
My own mother always tried to add a "Y" at the end.
Do you think that I would want to stop talking to my mom because of it?
In you response, correct the spelling error and emphasize the proper spelling to him.
But do this only once. If he doesn't get it by then, he's pretty dense in my book! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:25:26 PM | Most women are like that, you are not the only one. Women always pay the most attention to the smallest of mundaine details, as that is where you can find out the most about the person. There is also something to be said about correct spelling.  | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:33:05 PM | OP, if YOU find it a valid reason to stop speaking to someone that is really all that matters.
Kind of like the woman in another thread who refused a second date with a man because he wore a fanny pack.
Personally, I would not ditch someone that spelled my name wrong. Then again, my name is Jim and if a woman couldn't spell that, she has bigger issues.
So maybe you have a point.
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:33:45 PM | Unreasonable ?
Not at all OP. I feel like you are giving the guy a Big Clue
of how petty you can be. If you use it as an excuse to
stop "speaking " to them, it sounds like a win-win
to me.
No afence ment, bud if thad is so impotent to u thatd yu wood bee wiling to
wok away frum a grate guy, i predicted a long happy lif 4 u ...alonee | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:35:03 PM | Besides own limitations I might have with English language as not been the one learned in the school, there are same names spelled in differents ways.
Point him out the error as a light comment, no pun intended.
If someone tell you are unreasonable, is questionable. If you think about it by yourself, is probably true.
Don't drawn in a glass of water if is not signing the marriage certificate.
Edit: If you already mentioned, then tell him that future communication is upon the correct spelling of your name as something that is too important for you, as not to be considered. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:39:57 PM | i find nothing "petty" about wanting someone to spell my name correctly after i already told them how to spell it...i can honestly say that you are the first person to call me petty...
did i say i actually stopped talking to people because of this? nope...i said i consider it...or it makes me want to stop talking...whatever my intial statement was...i didn't say i actually blew someone off because of it... | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:46:58 PM | If you stop speaking to someone because he misspells your name, then you definately have issues. If you correct him and he still misspells it, then he definately has issues lol.
What if that man is everything you been looking for in life? Would you be able to live with yourself knowing you dumped a good man because he misspelled your name? Come on lil lady, your smarter then that. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:47:09 PM | | If someone misspelled my name I would simply state in my next letter, “Hey my name is spelled ________IE. Get it right!” We are human and make mistakes. So forgiveness and compassion are nice traits. If he is lazy and continues to spell it improperly or writes in text speak, I’d let him know that it won’t work out. But that is my opinion. You have to follow your heart Wolfy_1066. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:48:53 PM | I don't really think that you are being petty about a dude
paying attention to the correct spelling of your name. Perhaps
you may be thinking what else can/will he be inattentive about?
I think it would be alright to politely correct him and if that
doesn't work..............send him a 6 paragraph tirade.....in CAPS....
telling him what an inattentive jerk he is. (jk) | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:52:06 PM | Well its perfectly up to you but i'd give him at least a chance.
For whatever reason he spelt it wrong (there could be loads) you should just make sure you emphasise the fact you appreciate having your name spelt correctly. So write him back again because its only a very small thing really. If he does it again knowing fully you dont like that then dont reply.
It just depends what matters to you. I dont think i'd be incredibly annoyed but thats me. Im lucky if people even say my name in a reply haha!
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:53:11 PM | | Sure you want an honest answer? Anal comes to mind. I see that you don't capitalize the first letter in your sentences. What if a guy were to see your email and think, "Christ ass, can't this girl properly construct a sentence?" Wouldn't you think that is just as petty? | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 6:56:31 PM | i think there's a difference between someone's name and a random word...lol...
but anyway, i admit that i'm in a pretty foul mood today which is probably what is leading to my unreasonable attitude...
i e-mailed back...gave the guy a chance... | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:09:05 PM | I don't think you're being petty to have a reaction to this. People who care, even dyslexics, DO tend to take care to get others names right when they are already written down for them. Someone I work with has spelled my name wrongly for over 2 years despite regularly corresponding by email and my always signing myself with my name spelled correctly. He is someone who frequently behaves selfishly, without consideration for others although I believe he does not actually mean any harm.
However, tempting as it is, I do think that it is dangerous to rely on one minor behaviour when making conclusions about a personality so I would simply flag this thing mentally and be a little more alert to inconsiderate behaviours from this person. I would not bring it up, because it doesn't upset me to see my name spelt wrongly, but I'd just continue to sign my name correctly and hope they noticed.
Maybe they are dyslexic and were so excited to be talking to you they forgot to think about the spelling of your name -- I think it's too little information to base a decision on, but definitely a potential indicator.
"What's in a name? A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:18:38 PM | | It is not at all unreasonable to expect the common courtesy of having someone address you by your correct name. Someone who misspells your name is obviously inattentive, inconsiderate and rude. You don't have to settle for a guy like that. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:18:53 PM | I frequently get my name mispelled, and I try to correct them as I see fit. Not because I am so incredibly unique that I MUST be spelled as such, simply because they haven't learned the correct spelling yet. I will either continuously correct them until they get it right, or until I see no progress being made (or effort? Perhaps. It happens. So what.). It doesn't mean they are necessarily trying to show a lack of respect. Hell, sometimes people will call me a similar name and I'll answer to that. Sometimes if someone knows it bothers me they will mispell it on purpose just to **** with me. I just laugh it off... and maybe do it back.
But...
I do appreciate it when my name is spelled correctly and consistently. I understand how the fact that many different things go on during the course of the day, and the proper spelling of MY name may not be high on someones list. Give them a break already.
Even my grandmother has spelled my name wrong for literally YEARS... but am I not loving that birthday card from her? I even adore the shaky handwriting. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:34:03 PM | | It wouldn’t bother me. With all the pervs and other things on here that wanna go hump in the night, a misspelling of my name would be like reading veritable poetry. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:42:42 PM | | Happens to me all the time... My name ends in an "i" and most people end it with a "y" or a "ie". Im used to it. Some people just aren't good at remembering things like that or even spelling it right when they see it. People at work sometimes end it with "ra" I don't mean to ignore then lol. but it happens. My parents were foreigners they didn't even know how to pronounce my name correctly let alone spell it. lmao | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:07:17 PM | OP: It's just possible that he didn't notice the ending of your email to him. It does happen, some folks read the body, not the other text.
Just politely point it out to him. I'm sure, given the chance, he'll ship up. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:11:34 PM | Op I can really understand how you feel. My name is Jennifer, I have always said Jennifer...yet sooo many people want to call me Jen, Jenny or some other shortened version. (My father called me Gin). If they ask me and I tell them Jennifer, some will say well I want to call you this instead and I swear it makes me want to say...well I dont want to talk to you anymore. My exhusband called me Jen, should have know it was a sign!!!!! .
I think part of it is respect but I think some people just arent detail oriented and some might miss the correct spelling of your name | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:14:12 PM | I think how well you use proper capitalization and grammar in your profile and communications is important. If your profile is like a text message then just how serious are you? I'm far from perfect but I try and I expect the same from someone I am interested in.
I say to each his own. | |
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