| | Honesty and courtesy in general.Page 1 of 1 | This title should actually have read “lack of honesty, selfishness, total disrespect”, but since there was a point to be made…….
I’ve no doubt that what I’m saying might also apply to some men out there, but I am only positioned to comment about the women since that is all I’ve seeked out and experienced.
Somewhat hard to make a point without having everyone who’ll read this not say “here’s a frustrated one” which actually isn’t the case, but I wonder how many out there actually have morals, and perhaps it might actually get a few people thinking about if they really like the person they see in the mirror.
Quite a few profiles are totally meaningless as they only have a few words along with a photo. Is that to mean that this person is totally shallow? Stating “look at me” and “if I like your looks as you like my looks I’ll think about getting back to you” ?? Why don’t those people just get a t-shirt with “single and looking” and wear it on a daily basis? They’d surely get the attention they seem to crave!
Then there’s the one who actually know how to write a few full sentences, even complete paragraphs. But save for about 5%, all is lies! So many women asking for something they’re not even willing to give themselves, RESPECT.
I might understand not always having the time to reply to every single “hi” or “you’re hot” every women might receive, though they could copy and paste a reply which wouldn’t take that long. But to those who actually get quite a decent introductory letter, the very least they could do is give some reply, all be it a negative one.
Then there’s the really shallow ones who actually delete messages without even reading them, now that’s when I wish we did have an “ignore user” feature, ‘cause I’d not want to contact that one again nor would I even want to be contacted at a further time, like maybe when she’d have ran out of people to play?
And last, those who read and never delete nor reply. What’s with that? Sure, you might reply next week when you have more time, but when a message’s been there for over a month read and undeleted…… If it doesn’t work with the one you’re “trying out” then you’ll move on to the nest one? I don’t think anyone here truly believes to talking with just one person nor should anyone be expected to, at least in beginnings. So what’s wrong with actually talking with a few people to actually do your “shopping”? You’ll not be able to compare otherwise anyways.
Are there simply that many frustrated women out there especially towards men because they’ve been played in the past? When did two wrongs began to make a right? We probably all have our little “lack of trust” for having been in past situations we wish we hadn’t gone through, but get over it! Isn’t that the purpose of dating sites and such? Maybe some people should think of joining a “frustrated against the opposite gender” group and get it out of their system prior to joining a dating site.
Well, I didn’t say half of what I had on my mind, mainly because those who will probably end up reading this just might be those who aren’t aimed by this thread in the first place, but at least I’ll have given my two cents worth, which can be more then some others.
Best of luck to all nevertheless!! | |
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Posted: 6/15/2005 3:02:14 AM | Hi,
I understand your frustration. I went through it for years. I started 'advertising' on Internet sites about 6 years ago. To date, not a single photo of a male has been reflective of his real age. In the photos, they all looked about 20 years younger than they actually were.
Firstly, people who are dishonest, are dishonest because mostly they get away with it. Or, at least, they get away with it enough times for it to be profitable. Also, if they were honest, they wouldn't get any dates.
I used to reply to all emails. I don't bother anymore. The number of men that get nasty if you say, 'not interested' isn't worth it. If someone doesn't reply, it just means they aren't interested. And they don't have to be interested.
The Internet is an enormous melting pot of diversity. The odds of finding someone one is attracted to isn't that high... | |
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Posted: 6/15/2005 4:41:54 AM | whoooaa William I just read your post then your profile....i'm kinda taken aback, it's one of those reactions your witness of someone else's just plain fed up with all that is opposite gender and all you do is step back and give it a sec, bc you've been there and you know there's nothing you can say to make it completety less irritating. I'know that yes, there are alot of women out there who don't give two thougths about deleting..and the one that is kept.....maybe, as has been in my case inher she has so much going on she's waiting until she knows she can pick up and really talk to you. Bc i try not to blow anyone off but if I only have a minute to talk then they aren't reallypersistent and kinda just quit messaging....and not all of us lie All my is the truth i swear on elvis! you can ask anyone who knows me if you can find them on here, but so far I don't know anyone but new people now. it takes alot of bad ones to get to the good....imean alot, hell I'm still yet to pick up my first egg! Have a great day, and if you weren't so far away just might yourself with a new friend....I like your take on most things....but  too bad I'm a few extra pounds more than a few extra pounds ....not 250, but not 150 either...have a good one | |
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Posted: 6/15/2005 5:47:55 AM | William,
i understand your frustration. i think you have to take it all with a grain of salt. this is a totally free site and it you make just one friend here or learn something then it has been worth it. i have had the unread deleted too. i tried to make it a joke out of it in my profile. or at least i hope it comes out as a joke.
but i hope you feel better getting it off your chest. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2005 5:17:33 AM | *update*
just had a reply back from a nice lady who thanked me for my interest but that she really couldn't start anything with someone new right now.
so see William, honesty and courtesy aren't dead, just hard to come by. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2005 9:21:55 AM | Date/mate sites are densely populated with the lazy and the careless, and also the fraudulent. With so many site tools and search filters and methods of building an accurate profile, you would think more valid members would take advantage and make the experience more fun and efficient for everyone. They don't and you can't change that by complaining to the fresh air.
Much of what makes a good profile comes from self-examination, which many people are either no good at, or else never bother to try. Quite a few slap together a profile on a coffee break, goaded into it by their giggling friends, or in a fleeting feeling of desperation. Those people are not serious about participation and are almost never worth your grief. Sure, some of those ill-prepared profiles are the products of shallow personalities, but just as many members plainly don't understand the "give to get" plan. They may be perfectly nice and sincere, but you have to directly coax that out of them, which is less likely to happen when their participation on site and their self-representation is perfunctory at best.
Email handling is similar yet different. There are parallels here to job hunting, such as waiting 48 or 72 hours for a reply before either making a polite follow-up or dropping the prospect quietly. You simply don't know if the prospect has missed your mail, or has rejected your offer. There are all kinds of reasons we get ignored, but I figure no one who fails to respond is worth an excess of concern.
Also like a job hunt, it takes a hundred 'no' responses to reach a 'yes'. (... adding here that non-response equals a 'no' ....) The sooner you accept this reality, the less vexed you will be in your search. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2005 7:50:45 PM | | Everything I say here is true...what you see is what you get...even at the risk of sounding rude...that's just me...love it or hate it, it's me anyway and ain't a darn thing you can do about it LOL! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 5:47:49 AM | William, while there are a lot of fraudulent people on this site and others, you just have to just go with the flow. You can try to fight the current of BS and swim up stream, but then you just get it in your mouth, leaving that bad bitter tate LOL. Simply be your self and don't worry about the rest of the idiots out there who don't believe in honesty. Go with the current and don't let it pull you under.
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Posted: 7/15/2005 4:59:18 PM | I agree. I can only respond as a man with this... I have met a few women from here in person. As soon as I met them I noticed they not only lied about what they really wanted but also about looks, weight and hair color. Two had pictures and it was clear they were not current pictures. One told me she was a blond, she was a blond OK but 4 inches of brown roots were showing. Another said long term, after talking and some laughter she was up for a bootie call. And even said she had sex the night before and couldn't remember his name. One has been divorced three times but during our chats and email she implied one marriage.
When I first posted my ad I did not post a picture so I understand having only a few responses. But I sent at least 15 emails to women, 3 responded the rest didn't respond at all. Last week I posted my picture. Within 5 days 9 women contacted me, two of these women said they loved my humor and profile and wanted to know more and meet. But these are two of the women I had already contacted before and didn't even have the respect or courtesy to say no thank you or even say hell no..... I removed my picture. I am now on a paid site and see a big difference, lots of respect..... | |
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