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Posted: 9/10/2008 2:52:05 PM | Gentelmen please, the pics with no shirts do not turn us on, please put some decent clothes on. Woman are not visual, and please, take some decent pictures, this is NOT high school days, you're not making photos for yearbooks... this is dating 101.
Also, have some manners, do not discuss "what are you wearing" on a first conversation. Sex is over rated. If you want trash, this isn't the website for you...
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:04:50 AM | Amen Sista!
    Uggghhhhhhhh CL0921 | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 7:17:30 AM | oh God..and these pictures... do they really think the pics that are blurry are going to make a DIFFERENCE...? everyone if you can't get normal pictures, men and woman, they're gonna meet you and waste their gas to get their...so be honest...even if you're looks are average, if you dress nice, take good fun pictures, and have a nice write up, you be more atttractive.......True beauty is from within...... trust me....I have had my share of GQ men, who had nothing inside, and was a real turn off.....and nothing going on in other areas also....(hehehehe) so now...I look for average looks with alot going on in other areas, mental, physical, spiritual...........................the balance in life..
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Posted: 9/14/2008 6:37:54 PM | | Please keep the children and grandchildren out of the pictures. It's not too hard to crop pictures. Children should not have their photos out on the internet on a dating site no less. | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 2:11:18 PM | And guys.... while we are discussing pictures.... Please look at what is behind you in the picture... When I look at the guy (who obvisouly took a computer cam shot) and see crap piled up all around him in the back ground... not a good sign in my book. Even if you live alone... that's not attractive.
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Posted: 9/15/2008 7:41:00 PM | | Hi Pinky I like em tidy too! | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 8:10:19 PM | and girls dont suck in your cheecks and puff out your lips in pics | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 8:24:27 PM | If we don't suck in our cheeks and puff out our lips we won't look like fish!
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Joined: 6/22/2007
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Posted: 9/16/2008 5:56:33 AM | hehehehhehehhehehehehehehehe
The fish look is the fashion statement this fall. Saw it in Vogue.
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Posted: 10/12/2008 12:24:18 PM | In searching for guys I'm amazed at how many have pics of 2 or 3 guys in the shot with no caption as to which one is the POF'er! Should we just pick the handsome one and hope for the best?
Also, you guys MUST pay attention to the background of your shots! I'm not too impressed with the background of a mattress on the floor covered in litter! Maybe I'm just being superficial but all I think about is 'am I going to have to pick up after you all the time?' The worst shots are the ones taken in the bathroom...I can clearly see that you do not put the seat down on the toilet...
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Posted: 10/12/2008 12:35:59 PM | | Thank you. Who ever thought is was a good idea to put pics of your kids online. I could not agree with you more. Good job! | |
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Posted: 11/24/2008 3:24:15 PM | | There is not a women in the house! Why would he have to put the seat down... Just a typical women. Just find something to B**** about | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 6:08:21 PM | I just have to jump in on this...
1. Do not e-mail a girl and say "Hey, what's up?" Women that are here to date are not your buddies that you pal around with, do not talk to them as if they are.
2. Add some beef to your first e-mail to get a reply... again "Hey girl, you're hot" or "Hey hon, I'd like to chat with you sometime" is not going to work! If you really wanted to chat with us then you'd take the time to write out an e-mail to us to start this conversation.
3. Read the girls profile... seriously! My profile for example says that I do not want to talk to men with their shirts off, if you have a pic like this your message is going to get deleted.
4. Please fill out your profile. Tell us about yourself, take time to put something in there... please. If you don't have a profile then how can you expect us to think anything more than you aren't on here to have a real realtionship? If you aren't going to take time to make a profile, how can you say you're going to take time to do things for us in a relationship?
5. Be honest. Honesty goes a long way. Even if 75% of people lie online... why be one of them? It wastes everyone's time.
6. Let us know if you don't want to date us. If you go out on a first date and don't hit if off... DO NOT TELL US YOU'RE GOING TO CALL!!! Just be honest, we're grown women, we can take it! If you tell us you're going to call, just do it... even if it is to say that you thought about our date and feel there wasn't a match. Don't be a puss.
That's all for now... I'm sure if I sat here any longer I could write a book on this. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 7:32:31 AM | These tips, from what I see....the positive and constructive bits at least... don't seem to work anyway....
I'm careful about what I say in a message, try to make it unique enough to catch that person's attention.... and hear nothing...not even a brief message of rejection...
I'd prefer even that little bit to ignorance.... | |
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Posted: 12/6/2008 8:31:51 AM | and cutting the past girlfreind out of the Pic, well ,that is just tacky LOL.......sorry had to say it | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 4:58:28 AM | | Hey G...I know exactly what you mean I do the same try to be unique, keep it simple and all I ask is a simple "no thanks". Most of the time I don't even get that | |
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Posted: 12/13/2008 11:21:37 PM | Hehe Nice post and very good advice. However - if I may make a correction. Most women I have contacted (a few hundred) were strictly visual. If they were not.... I would have received more replies. Also, as soon as they saw my picture (I am disabled) they ignored me. If they were to have taken five minutes to talk to me and actually see the true potential within me they would have lived happily ever after with a sweet, kind and caring, faithful and honest, fun and funny man who would worship them. Not to mention they would have been told and understood that I actually have a lot more strengths and disabilities. It is their loss. I do not think that I am that bad looking of a guy. Matter of opinion I suppose. Ha ha.
-Antonios
PS: if anyone ever has any questions for me or about my situation, please feel free to ask. I am completely open about everything and anything. There's nothing you could ask me, that would upset or offend me. Especially since I have been educated children and adults for over 16 years about my situation and consequences, respect, self-esteem and what it feels like to be made fun of or exiled.
I would post a thread with a paper I wrote in high school that goes into detail about my accident, my hospital rehabilitation, what happens when I came home from the hospital, when I went back to school and about my first to my recent lectures. I still do my lectures quite a bit during the year. My goal is to do them nationwide. Eventually worldwide. But I am sure that they would delete it because it would draw attention to myself. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 1:32:52 PM | Well, "in the search of" if women actually put SOMETHING INTERESTING TO SAY instead of USELESS GARBAGE THAT SOUND LIKE ALL THE OTHER PROFILES, maybe us guys could actually use material from their profile to start a conversation. I can't begin to tell you how many female profile have this type of line: "My family and friends are very important to me. I enjoy spending time with them." Well, who the heck HATES their family and friends? DUH!! Who doesn't like hanging out with their friends??
Here is another of my favorite lines in female profile: "I like to go out and have fun (or have a good time). I enjoy going out as well as staying home and watching a movie." Who the heck doesn't like to have fun? Who wants to stay home every night and not go out and enjoy themselves?? Double DUH!!
Take a look at my profile. I talk about my hobbies and I add a little detail about those hobbies. I make sure my readers have SOMETHING to use to start a conversation. Ladies, make your profile INTERESTING. The last thing we need is to read BLAH.
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Posted: 2/25/2009 9:22:23 AM | Well, I am visual (not shallow, but visual) but do agree I get turned off if I see a posed shirtless or open shirt pic...unless its a candid beach shot someone else took (not posed)..but a posed shirtless or unbuttoned open shirt pic just tells me the guy is too into himself. The same goes for the women who put up cleavage and 'barely there' clothing shots, come on- they have to know what kind of men they'll attract. Men who have those posed shirtless shots..try taking them off and see if you get more messages. ;)
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Posted: 2/25/2009 9:23:53 AM | | Um...to clear up my last post......when I said 'try taking them off' I meant take the pics off, not the shirts! Hahaha | |
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Posted: 3/2/2009 5:00:38 PM | | Did you ever think it could be a child or other relative that was cut out of the picture to protect their identity. Some of the best photos of me are candid ones, but usually other people, daughters, son or other family or friends were also there. So to protect them I have cut people out and cropped the photo. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 6:49:59 AM | | Just saw this today.....What I don't understand is men holding up their FISH....is that suppose to be an attraction to women? We really don't care how big it is.........well let me rephrase that......we really don't care how big the fish that you caught fishing is......... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 4:25:18 PM |
4. Please fill out your profile. Tell us about yourself, take time to put something in there... please.
I have to agree with Jftennis on this, there are too many girls on this site who do not post enough information about themselves. This has to be a two-way street. I tend to ignore the girls that just say "I like to laugh" or "I love my family" "or I like having fun". They don't help a guy in initiating a conversation. I usually have to go fishing (pun intended too) for something remotely similar to what is in their abstract profile, and end up getting no response and message deleted. Way to go for the rejection setup btw  | |
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