| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:37:28 PM | | My X of three years is going around telling people that I am gay. We live in a fairly small town so word got back to me pretty quick. We were married for 15 years, and have two children of which I have custody because she was and is not mentaly stable. My inclination is to let it run its course and forget it. But it still pisses me off. Any suggestions? | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:43:14 PM | I would laugh it off, and keep on doing what I was doing. I am of the type that could care less what others say or think about me.
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:45:18 PM | Option 1: get a T-shirt that says "I'm not gay but the ex is crazy" and wear it
Option 2: talk with her, ask what's your problem and what do get out of spreading lies
Option 3: let it runs its course and forget it. | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:47:40 PM | | I would let it run its course also. You know that old saying "Thou doth protest too much" about something untrue. People who know you know the truth already. People who listen to idle gossip aren't worth your time. When the time comes you wish to start dating again, word will get out that you are anything but gay. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 2:49:47 PM | Did you get divorced because you were gay?
If you are gay and she outed you then deal with it.
If she is not mentally stable (in reality rather than simply your judgment) most people will realize this, or already know it (since as you said it is a small town) therefore take what she says (when it is derogatory towards you) with a grain of salt.
If you are still worried about your ex's behavior maybe you still have feelings for her, maybe you should deal with all of them before looking to date.
Maybe since you were with her for 15 years you could tell her to stop it. | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:50:28 PM |
My inclination is to let it run its course and forget it.
Your inclination is correct. Getting pissed only gives her the satisfaction she succeeded. | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:51:18 PM | If you didn't live so far away, I would put that rumor to rest real quickly.   | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 2:52:48 PM | I'd be more pissed off about everyone knowing I was with a crazy woman for 15 years.
Honestly, isn't what you've done worse than anything she might say?
She's not mentally stable, so we can understand her actions.
What's your excuse?
i guess it's true what they say, three fingers do point back at you... | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 2:59:21 PM | | Let it run it's course...be a good dad...and a role model and let the dogs scratch in their own fleas.... | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 3:24:56 PM | If you defend yourself against this rumor OP, it suggests that it needs defending.
Say nothing, ignore it and it will eventually blow over.
Since it's a small town, they are likely to know that she's not all there mentally anyway. They're likely to get bored of the 'drama' soon and find someone else to chew up and spit out. This is the nature of small town minds. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 3:42:33 PM | | If it really really bothers you, you could have a lawyer send her a letter saying that if she continues to slander you, you will sue her for slander. Might deter her, but probably not. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 3:42:58 PM | OP- I say run with it. Back in Arizona I had a friend that was openly gay and he was able to meet/befriend women almost like magic. Why not use this to your advantage? I mean don't lie, just don't address it. You might have to dress a little bit nicer though... Do you like wine?
I love small towns! They are a hoot! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 3:48:51 PM | angel has very good advice in this situation.
However, her prejudicial remark about people who live in small towns is to be ignored. | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 4:06:34 PM | | If this behavior has the tendency to sabotage future dates, maybe you should consult an attorney on the advantages of a libel suit. Especially if said actions are deemed injurious and give immediate grounds for a suit. | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 4:17:21 PM | | Wow what a witch! There is not much you can do really except ignore it. I am sure any women you date and you ex herself know very well that you are not gay so don't worry about it. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 4:34:19 PM | | I'm pretty sure anyone with common sense knows that you aren't. Ignore the stupid rumors. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 4:44:22 PM | Could you not have just made that your title question. You didn't need to "lure" people in here looking for an interesting question. Like so "ex wife tells people I'm gay". Thats how you write a title.
If you are gay she is doing nothing wrong. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 5:32:53 PM | do you suddenly find men stay away from you; and women befriend with you?
if not, nothing to worry about. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:41:28 PM | Take the high road.......small town, children together, etc.
Those who know you, know you. Those who don't, will judge you by your actions, not what your ex says about you.
I understand being pissed and wanting to set the record "Straight" :) But it's best to let this one go. | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 6:44:45 PM | | She's doing what she set out to do-piss you off. You've admitted she's a bit off her rocker, so why even feed into her nonsense-because if you do than she gets what she wants. If you don't feed the fire it can't burn. Your real friends know the truth, and so do you-so who really gives a rip what she's saying. Unless it's slanderous or affects your livelyhood just let her rant. Some folks aren't happy unless they make everyone around them miserable-let her stew in her own misery-obviously she needs no company in that. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:51:30 PM | | I'm sure there is more to this story than you are telling and we don't know what kind of relationship you have with your ex either. Something set her off to say that about you. Whether it is true or not she should not have acted out like that. Your friends and family know you so who cares what the others think. Some will believe and some will not. Take care and good luck. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:20:29 PM | The gossips will want to believe it but without any proof they will move of after awhile to some other bit of juicy gossip. Those who know you will know better or not care anyway if you are or aren't. Anyone who knows your ex is off her beam will know she's a pathetic liar. As a woman who's heard this crap from so many desperately unhappy dumped women who did themselves in because they act like idiots, most will not believe it or even listen to it.
You could always pay her back and start a rumor that she's sane! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:24:26 PM | | truthfully, it shouldn't matter what everyone thinks, you and ur kids know the truth to heck with anyone who says different | |
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