| | Cute but too drunk...Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | More than once I've been out with friends and been hit on by a girl that I otherwise would like but is really drunk, and coming on a lot stronger than she might otherwise. What's the best way to handle this without embarassing her? Should I go for the nookie that I'm likely to get, or just see her home safe and call her the next day? | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:16:32 PM | Well OP-I wouldn't worry too much about embarrassing her....she's doing that all by herself!! And, would you really feel good about yourself if you, as you said, went for the nookie? Good gawd....she probably wouldn't even remember it! If it is a good friend, yes, it would be good to get her a cab so she gets home safe, but a stranger? Let her friends "pour" her into bed once they carry her home! I think it's best for you, or anyone, to avoid someone so drunk-nothing good would come out of it!! But hey, that's just my opinion....I am anxious to hear what other's might think.  | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:20:06 PM | Had to check the OP's age, as I was SURE it was coming from a very young lad.... of maybe 20.
Nope.
44.
Yup.
Opie..... what the fook are you thinking?!?! You're a "grown man" and you're asking us if you should take advantage of a drunk woman or just be a gentleman about it and drive her home..... making sure you snag her number in the process???
I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.
Yup.
44 my ass. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:27:23 PM | | Bullielover is absolutely right. If you are 44 then you shouldn't even have to ask this. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:34:24 PM | Well, since you are 44... say you have a 22 year old daughter and some guy was asking this same question to his buddies about her:
"Should I go for the nookie that I'm likely to get, or just see her home safe and call her the next day?"
What would want him to do? | |
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MizQ
| | Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 6 | |
| Cute but too drunk...
Posted: 9/13/2008 6:35:24 PM | | What would you want to someone to do if that were your sister? That might help you out with your moral dilemma. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:43:38 PM | ...........agrees with msg3.....you tell him pretty lady. Next time, reach right through your computer screen and give him a good slap! 
OP.....if you were any kind of a man you would never ask a question like that. Be a real man....make sure she gets home safe and no "nookie" with drunk women! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:43:56 PM | i'm not sure why it's your job to get her home in the first place...i would think she's either out with friends or could take a cab...
but that aside, if you're even considering taking advantage of a drunk woman (when you KNOW she's only behaving that way because she's drunk) then nothing we say here is going to make you grow a conscience... | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:45:37 PM | So essentially your options are:
1) Be an ***hole that takes advantage of a woman who likely wouldn't agree to have sex with you, if she was sober.
2) Be a decent human being with a conscience
The woman's behavior, would not excuse yours. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:45:38 PM | ahhhhh, on his profile, under smarts, he listed N/A, as in not applicable...
it all makes sense now... | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:25:53 PM | And at age 44, you come here to ask what the right thing would be for you to do?
Oh, no wait! You didn't ask what the RIGHT thing for YOU to do would be, did you? Not really.
You have a hard time figuring this out huh?
I know.........grow up! That would be what you need to do. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:30:24 PM |
More than once I've been out with friends and been hit on by a girl that I otherwise would like but is really drunk, and coming on a lot stronger than she might otherwise. What's the best way to handle this without embarassing her? Should I go for the nookie that I'm likely to get, or just see her home safe and call her the next day?
Well if you go for the nookie, she might wake up the next morning and cry rape. The fact that she was a willing participant is irrelevant. Who do you think the cops are going to believe?
Get a number and call her later. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:31:03 PM | | see her home, b-c to have sex with her would be taking advantage of her, and that wouldn't be right. In the end u''ll feel guilty. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 8:35:13 PM | | don't go out with them to drinks, suggest something else that avoids getting drunk. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 9:17:39 PM | I have to play devil's advocate here... isn't it possible that she's drunk and hitting on a guy *because* she wants to do something a little reckless without having to take full responsibility for it? I'm assuming this isn't a woman who has to be carried out of the bar but if she's stringing together coherent sentences then she hasn't lost all control over her actions.
If you want the nookie I think there's a way to approach it and still be a decent guy. Before any hanky panky gets started, make your honest intentions known to her (whether that means telling her you want a one night stand or if you'd like to see her again). And ask her a few times in different ways if she's sure this is what she wants to do and she won't regret it. Maybe even take your time getting to the action to let her sober up a bit. Or if you're really not sure, just make out with her and leave it at that.
I don't think you should aggressively pursue a girl who seems pretty drunk but if she's the aggressor, you don't necessarily have to run away. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 9:23:09 PM |
I don't think you should aggressively pursue a girl who seems pretty drunk but if she's the aggressor, you don't necessarily have to run away.
Speaking out of experience, a guy can't win here. She will get upset if the guy doesn't do what she wants him to do. On the other hand, if the guy does what she wants, there is always a chance she'll call him up the next day and tell him that she was drunk and how dare he take advantage of her when she was so drunk.
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:13:35 PM | What ... the ... eff?
So if this was a girl asking this question would the answer be the same?
"I was in a bar and this cute drunk guy came up to me, he wanted to have sex and so did I, but he was more drunk than me, what should I do?"
Honestly if a person gets drunk they should accept the consequences of their actions, I have never, never, done something that I didn't want to do simply because I was drunk, I did things that I shouldn't have done, and things I normally wouldn't do, but nothing that I didn't WANT to do.
If a person, for some reason, always makes horrible decisions when drunk, then they shouldn't drink. If I wake up after a long night of drinking with a tattoo on my face, or I cut off my toe, or if I even slept with some girl that I didn't want to sleep with, that would be my last night of drinking.
Personal accountability, it's what this world is sorely lacking. | |
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MizQ
| | Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 19 | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:36:30 PM | Speaking out of experience, a guy can't win here. She will get upset if the guy doesn't do what she wants him to do. On the other hand, if the guy does what she wants, there is always a chance she'll call him up the next day and tell him that she was drunk and how dare he take advantage of her when she was so drunk.
Have you not studied the rules yet? No, of course guys cannot win.....Pfffftt for even thinking you were on a level playing field  | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:41:53 PM | Drunk women that hit on me at the garage i work at get told to come back when they are sober, to be honest i think all 1st contact situations should be when both people are sober.
44 years old...still not realise alcohol impaires judgement??? | |
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WackMC
| | Joined: 4/23/2008
Msg: 21 | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 12:07:30 AM | | I think the OP was drunk when he imagined some cute girl was hitting on him. Really, if you're that desperate to bone her why can't you take her home, let her sleep and bone her in the morning? Oh, can't figure that one out because....er....someone is drunk! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 12:16:35 AM | | make sure your drunk too. you cant get in trouble then | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 12:49:22 AM | | Let me get this straight...drunk girl confronts dude...the intention being...to exchange quips? NO! To get some play. Frankly, no person should go out to get sloshed and expect to come home without having done something stupid. I personally find it a turn-off for a woman to put herself into a child-like state through intoxicants...I mean, learn to handle your liquor or drink within your tolerances. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 11:01:17 AM | I'm going to agree with alooooohaha here. Women are so perpetually afraid of being called a slut or even of thinking of themselves as such that they can't admit to themselves that they want some. It sort of has to be had "accidentally."
Either that, or plenty of women just need at least a couple of drinks in them before they can allow themselves to be pursued/or pursue something a little wild.
Still, if a woman is completely sloshed, you should pass her by - it's a trap. | |
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OP isn't getting any from here! Shame shame, OP, one would think that a 44 year old would have grown up by now. Tsk. tsk. 
