| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/14/2008 2:07:17 PM | | I have met a few people on this site..They were nice people but out only for themselves..I have found this site to have become a competition of who has the most favorites..Or they are liers and 1/2 are truely married..It only takes a few to ruin it for the rest..So if you have an sense at all or any morals at all..Learn some repect and use this site for what it weas intended for!!!!! | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/14/2008 2:21:30 PM | | Here here, well said...this site really is full of people who are not genuine and who get kicks out of messing people around :(:( | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/14/2008 2:33:44 PM |
.It only takes a few to ruin it for the rest.
There are a lot more than a few...unfortunately they are the majority....that made the odds out here not good enough for me... | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/15/2008 3:41:25 AM | I totally agree. I guess I was just one of the lucky few who found a great guy. I did not meet him here though. Sometimes the best partners are right under your nose.
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:02:30 AM | | Yes it has become a total game to alot of them..I am also noticing that its the same people over and over..lol.. | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:12:57 AM | | I'm here mainly for the forums nowadays. If I meet someone, great, if I don't, no biggie. | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:26:27 AM | I am sorry that some feel this way. Have any of the ones having the bad experiences possibly attended a POF event in their area? I attend ones in my area, and started hosting ones also. I haven't met "Mr Right for me" yet, but I have made so many new friendships that it has done nothing but make my life happier and opened doors to other possibilities.
Good luck everyone. | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:48:30 AM | OP, I couldn't agree with you more.
I saw one profile..........looking for 'long term'......who was on over 600 people's 'fav' list. You're kidding, right?? Yes - I know some of them could just be friends they've made over the forums.........I've made some myself..........but 600+................no way | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/20/2008 9:15:58 AM | I saw one profile..........looking for 'long term'......who was on over 600 people's 'fav' list. You're kidding, right?? Yes - I know some of them could just be friends they've made over the forums......... It has nothing to do with friends - few might be friends, but others just add you as a favorite if/when you post nice pictures or they read forums and like your point of view about something. Most people who add you as a favorite never bother to write you e-mails.
I add people as favorites when I like their posts or their profiles written as good as I would do it myself. I wanna keep them as examples of the profiles...just in case.
I don't think it's just a problem of this site - internet generally is a tool to be hidden and express yourself as you want to.
They were nice people but out only for themselves
I don't understand the phrase "nice to themselves" because it means they are not nice, right? Or selfish? something wrong with wording here | |
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Posted: 9/20/2008 12:09:10 PM | | That is people every where not just here,,,sad huh? | |
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Posted: 9/20/2008 1:15:48 PM | Its ironic isn't it? The internet was suppose to make it easier for people to get to know each other better, but seems like just the opposite. Sometimes though, you have to realize what men you are looking for are not the same men that are looking for you. We all have standards, but I would rather go out with miss average with an awesome character than miss perfect with no character. That could be your problem right there. Good luck.
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| This site worked for me....
Posted: 9/20/2008 2:15:38 PM | Not to long ago a really kool chick sent me a message..AND FRIDAY SEPTEMBER 19,2008...WE GOT MARRIED....METTING HER WAS THE BEST THING TO EVER HAPPEN TO ME...THANKS TO THIS SITE I MEET MY SOUL MATE... | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/21/2008 5:19:40 AM | I must say I did not understand what married men and women are doing on a dating website. I lost my husband to a car accident a few years back. We had a good marriage, yes we had problems just like all married people do, but to cheat was not one of them.
I have been contacted by several men who I must say did not disclose on their profiles they were married. Why lie about if you’re not happy at home then leave. If you want to act single, then get single. I know have heard all the line's I will loose my house, cars and have to pay her big bucks every month. Well think that won't happen if you get catch????? Oh yes it will. If your sex life at home sucks we single people are sorry, but we don't want to help you out with that, so please stop being dishonest on your profile's and contacting us single people we are here to meet other single people and may be just may be have a relationship. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 5:47:33 AM | I also wanted to say, if any one got a email from the profile Lynnj and it was out of line it did not come from me. The person that help me set up my profile and user name was getting on my profile and acting like me. I travel a lot for my job gone weeks at a time, so I wasn't getting on POF that much,but when I did my profile had been changed and nasty emails were coming in but the boat loads. I have since changed my profile back to what it was before and my passowrd will never be known by any one every again. I can laugh about it now, but it wasn't funny there for a few weeks. I am still thinking about changing my profile name and still may. This person is no longer a friend of mine. I guess that is why I wrote the first thread. I got a lot of emails from married men.
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Posted: 9/21/2008 6:25:23 AM |  Well said!!!
There is nothing I dislike more than cheats & liars I just don't get it. Unfortunatly these kind of married men or men in long-term relationships, find it just as easy to deceive in the real world. I met a guy a few months back & we really hit it off. So we started the dating game. Long story short, found out he had a long-term girlfriend. The nerve of him, he wanted me to be his mistress as if!!!
So thats what brought me to this site thought it might be easier but just discovering that its actually easier for these cheats. Any how I'm not going to get disheartened by this experience: I know the is still some decent guys out there...somewhere.  Good luck with the hunt. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 6:36:27 AM | POF is like real life-it's what you make of it. There are plenty of nice people on here as well as ***holes.
Blaming a website for your romantic bad luck is pointless. Take it as a lesson learned and be more careful with whom you deal with.
The dissing of people with more than x amount of favorites is silly. It has no bearing on their dating habits. Do you check potential date's cellphone numbers IRL?
Don't give up & better luck next time! | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 7:23:52 AM | I think too many people" my self included" don't understand the favorite thing. I recieved e-mail from 3 different women accusing me of being a player because of the number of favorites I had, so I delete them now.Some were because they liked my picture, original profile, posttings on the forums,some to talk, some because I had talked to them. One lady who was shy didn't want to talk to me cause I had to many favorites. For my self numbers don't mean a thing, its the folks on line, some good ,some bad.I don't need to keep score.
Blessings always,be safe
hugs always | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/21/2008 7:42:59 AM |
One lady who was shy didn't want to talk to me cause I had to many favorites. If a person is going to use that as an excuse ... then they are too insecure for me. I really don't need to be with someone who might feel threatened by me having so many friends (even though I really don't know most of the people who have added me as a favorite).
POF is what we make it for ourself. If we just sit in front of the computer day after day and interact with folks that way or we actually seek to get out with someone ... that is what we make it.
For the past 3 years I have basically chosen (related to a personal tragedy) to sit here and play on the forums and meet folks in that way. I have been to and sponsored a few POF parties ... they were a lot of fun, but at the time I was not seeking a partner, so I made a lot of wonderful friends.
POF is what we make it.
I do not allow others to dictate to me how I manage my profile or what anything on my profile indicates. I have no control over who puts me on their favorite list and quite frankly I just don't care. I do not judge others by that stupid little number at the bottom of their profile.
In the end ... if I see someone I might be interested in ... unless they openly have it stated in their profile that they are not available ... I consider that person approachable. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 8:05:52 AM | | I was on the couch for a year. All I did was work, pay bills and watch tivo. One day I saw this add for Plenty of fish and I havent been home since. I've met some awesome, good lookin, money makin men. I'm very grateful to POF. ITS WHAT U MAKE IT. | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/21/2008 8:13:58 AM |
I do not allow others to dictate to me how I manage my profile or what anything on my profile indicates. I have no control over who puts me on their favorite list and quite frankly I just don't care. I do not judge others by that stupid little number at the bottom of their profile. I agree with *Cotter*. I pay no attention to that "stupid little number".
I have no idea what some others think, but just because one has more than a few favorites, it doesn't mean that that person is dating or even talking to all those people. That's ridiculous. Or that the person is lining up dates on a rotating basis.
If someone thinks that, then it's their loss.
I had someone point out in an email that the favorites number could keep someone from contacting me as it almost did him. But that's how he chose to begin the email. I feel NO need to explain myself but SOME people need to have their eyes opened to some things.
Many people use favorites differently, so if that puts you off then don't contact that person. But to make a judgment based solely on what you THINK the reason why a person would have many favorites is again ridiculous. And as Cotter said, "if a person is going to use that as an excuse ... then they are too insecure for me." That just screams lack of confidence/insecurity to me....but that's me. JMO.
The majority of mine are forum members and some who aren't but added me because they liked the profile and contacted me saying that's the reason why as they were far away. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 8:27:06 AM | | just want to point out that women are just as bad as men when it comes to cheating. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 9:01:07 AM | First I gotta say you are a cutie! You look like that chick with the annoying voice from The View!
Second Plentyoffish is FREE!!!!
Some people come to the Internet looking for love and compainionship. There are wonderful people here but they are mixed in with THIS bunch...........................
The people that come to fawk with your head. Married pigs who come sniffing for truffles ...I mean for the easy lay! Duck your head married losers! If your wife/husband
doesn't want to have sex with you...... what makes you think the women/men here will? Hmmmm???
There are saber toothed husband hunters and their younger goldigging counterparts. There are homeless bloodsuckers looking for the single Mothers/Fathers because they need a warm body and...single Mom's always have the best snacks!
There and cops who murder their pregnant girlfriends and we get to see the gory details on the... all the news all the time networks..
There are big ole sweet bikers who get killed and get stuffed into the trunk of their cars. Drug deals gone bad?
There are "Good Guys" who blame the lack of female attention on those dasterdly "Bad Boys"...... And "BBW" "Good girls" who blame their lack of male attention on those skinny assed "Barbies".
Then there are the whack jobs...
If you are a newbie DON'T innocently give your home phone number and last name.That is just enough to get info from Google or ZabaSearch about you. Crap you can see even a satellite pic of your house!
There are those that get overly interested, start stalking, and watching you from afar, it builds up a relationship of sorts in hi/hers mind. Next is anger and revenge if you don't return his/her interest. Scary shit!!!
Which brings me to the Forum addicts. My faves!!!! They have either given up or become so jaded that they just don't give a flying fawk anymore!
In closing... People can be anyone they like on the Internet. They can make up any persona that suits their fantasy du jour! It is up to us to read between the lines and keep things REAL.
And then their are those people like you who worry about Favorites? Seems like those peeps with lots of faves might be worth knowing .....no????
Aww crap I forgot about the people who lie about their age! *wink* *wink* | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/21/2008 9:41:10 AM | Insincere people are everywhere; it's not just this site. I don't think it's fair to blame the place for the lack of sense/morals/scruples of the people populating it (just my opinion).
Being intimidated or influenced by the favorites thing is pretty silly. The 'owner' of the favorites doesn't have to do a thing to be chosen (which shoots the number up) and many times they don't even know someone has selected them! I had 50 favorites before I ever went back to view my profile and I didn't know they were even there. I still don't know the meaning of it all, but I truly don't care. Only a handful of people on that list have ever contacted me. It's just a silly feature in my opinion and one not to be taken seriously. In fact, I think I'll do what pluger60 said he did and delete the ones for people I don't know. | |
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| POF has become.....
Posted: 9/21/2008 12:11:49 PM | This will tick some of you off!
But keeping favorites that you don't know &/or not really a favorite, a first step to lying about how great you are. | |
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