| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 2:12:07 AM | i am going to ask a question i believe i already have the answer to:
what does it mean when a man tells you that he thinks he loves you on first date?
he is just looking to get laid?
all feed back welcome. and why are grown men still doing this?
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 2:17:48 AM | | It either means they are looking for a quick piece, or it means they are desperate. No adult in their right mind, or who has a proper amount of maturity falls in love on a FIRST DATE!!! Run away, hon! Run like the wind! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 2:21:24 AM | | I have had this happen to me....I believe they just want to be in a relationship so badly.. that anyone would get the phrase.. I don't assume by any means that it is me.....I kind of have compassion for them... to be so needy.......I also understand the need to run from them....... some of them can easily become stalkers and this can be a very dangerous thing..... my advice be careful.... but if your very attracted to him... explore who he is... but take your time even if he doesn't want to go slow. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 3:25:29 AM | I totally disagree with nvrgvup46 here,
It does NOT mean they are looking for a quick piece, or they are desperate.
Love at first sight is a reality, rare maybe but a reality none the less. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 3:42:10 AM | | Run! I believe in love at first sight...I think most would wait to say anything until they got to know the person. Either looking for sex or will stalk you. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 4:31:10 AM | Since I do not believe in love
Ask the man what does he love about you.
If he starts naming body parts
Tell him in time goodbye unless you seek the same
If he tells you he loves the way you think ... you might want to see what's up next | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 4:39:09 AM | | Bravo! you are right when you said you already have your answer, now go with it, move on and why even let something like this become an issue? | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 5:11:35 AM |
Since I do not believe in love
Well, I am sorry for your loss sister. Peace. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 5:29:40 AM | It happened to me once..I actually laughed and said you don't even know me...
My advise....Run Like Really Fast.....This man ended up stalking me...He was very needy and desperate..His ex-wife was unfaithful to him through out the marriage, (trust issues)...He would not let me leave ( or show me the way out of the campground where I followed him to, he wanted me to stay the night with him..creepy) ended up me having to threaten him - either show me the way out or I will find my own way.
The next day called me 5 times within a 15 min span at the gym, leaving me messages like where are you?...why are you not answering your cell?...I never take my phone on the gym floor with me..stays in my locker..I had explained that to him in advance. After I told him - that evening that I was not going to see him anymore - and I explained why, and gave him some advise for the next female..he proceeded to tell me that - He took my license plate number down the night before, and had connections in the arson/fire dept. and would track me down- find out where my house was and I would date him....keep in mind nothing happened between us the night before, and I only saw him once...I only met him cause I promised and he was already annoying me over the phone before we could met. I never said anything to him about seeing each other exclusive and that evening I pulled my profile off the site I was on - because I was so freaked out...RUN LIKE FAST AS HELL.....and don't look back.... | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 7:32:54 AM | | He is in love with the thought of being in love. You can be in lust at first sight, but to truly fall in love you have to know the other person. You don't know someone in a couple of hours, and certainly not by just looking at them. You don't know anything about the real person inside... what they like and don't like, what makes them tick, what their moods are like, how they interact with others, all the nuances that make us each an individual. That doesn't happen instantly and sometimes it never happens, no matter how long you know each other. I would be very leery if a man told me he was in love with me right away. How can you love someone you don't even know? | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:40:17 AM | what does it mean when a man tells you that he thinks he loves you on first date?
he is just looking to get laid?
I had a woman tell me she loved me on the first date. We ended up getting married, and stayed together a total of 14 years. So don't automatically jump to conclusions when you are told that right away.
How can you love someone you don't even know?
It's called overwhelming instant chemistry, and love at first sight. It's real, and it does work. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 7:50:15 AM | HE IS A JERK, AND A LOSER. HE DOES NOT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS...IF HE STATES IT THAT FAST...
I like to go very slow...actually it starts like this...Your name...perhaps spell it back to each other...taking small steps...Learn what you want slowly...true love is so hard to find, I want to follow the yellow brick road slowly with someone till I get to Oz...not to hear I love you the first night...
With one man I met on line, I never heard I love you till 5 months later, and I was like "WHAT"...I think I believed he cared after 5 months...could I be wrong, anything is possible, but I have to believe...have FAITH and walk away if you hear it that fast...
I love these questions, my book will be put out 2009
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:50:58 AM | indehilss notwithstanding, 'love at first sight' is not real love - obviously - and is merely infatuation. In some instances, it turns out that the infatuated person has actually chosen someone they're compatible with and it works out as it did for indehills.
However, that happens very rarely. If a guy tol d me he loved me on the first date, that would be a BIG RED FLAG . I'd drop him. Immediately. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 7:52:22 AM | Love at first sight is a true oddity. It happens though rarely, mostly phernomes give off a sense of lust/desirability and people act to quickly upon it. Either they sleep together right away or tell you they love you.
He could be desperate or in love with the idea of a relationship. All to often people are lonely or needy and seek anyone who will have them rather than be alone. God help them when the honeymoon phase is over, if they didn't build upon who that person is, and the feelings are mutual. Then someone will either break it off or find someone new.
If it was love at first sight, give it a chance, IF you feel there could be something there, if not move on, you won't be happy. Bob | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:12:23 AM |
indehilss notwithstanding, 'love at first sight' is not real love - obviously - and is merely infatuation.
Infatuation doesn't last 14 years. I'm sorry, it just plain doesn't. Just because someone doesn't believe in something doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 8:13:19 AM | I have had this before. They are not looking for a piece of A...
I had this one man look at me as if he was stunned. (It was at a nightclub.)
It was for a long moment and I was kind of caught up, too, only because of the look on his face. (It is rather a different feeling. It's as if time stood still. ) Then he smiled and it was like the sun. He just beamed. Then he said "Stay right there, I will be back in a sec ..." Then he told me that he didn't want to let me out of his sight.
He came back and asked if we could go for a coffee somewhere. I was curious so we met. Then he told me he just now believed in love at first sight. We were together for almost 10 years and he still phones 5 years later...."because there is something about me...."
Background on this man? I knew him by sight and from gossip tidbits of friends. He was an elusive batchelor who had a reputation of being a committment-phobe. Very handsome, great job and appealing personality. Everyone was surprised.
It does happen. Don't ridicule it unless he is truly a whacko. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 8:24:44 AM | We all have differing levels of maturity and experience. You can be infatuated with someone immediately, be fond of them immediately, but you can never be certain it's love until the bloom is off the rose. When you see them at their worst and still get that little gut wrinkle inside...it just might be love. When some big glaring flaw crops up and slaps you in the face and you think, "Hmm, that's weird. I can live with that", then you just might be in love. When you cannot imagine living a day without that other soul in your life, you just might be in love. That all takes time!
One date...not likely. It would scare the carp out of me (that was an intentional misspelling, lol). I would think, not that I'm irresistable, but that the other is delusional. Barring any psychotic tendencies, at the very least they don't know the ettiquette of dating. That's a big sail out there flapping in the breeze. What can you possibly say in response to that? Thank you? I love you too, stranger? Did I tell you I have to go home......now?
If I ever say that again, I'll mean it. Period. Love shouldn't be like standing in front of the microwave impatiently waiting for popcorn and tapping your foot waiting for the ding.
I'll know I mean it after some TIME. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 8:38:51 AM | | criky this poor guy is getting some stick.why slag someone off when you dont know them?,if you like the guy go with it see what happens, give him a chance at least!!!! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:40:02 AM | Op, did you ask him?
We dont know if you just met him, if you talked for months by email, instant messages, or phone. Was this a meet/greet and first date together or had you meet him before. Maybe he had to much to drink but the only person who knows is him.
Maybe he does fancy himself loving you, but that isnt *in love. I had a few people tell me over the phone they loved me, they didnt live close and it was a few months down the line, it still creeped me out. The last time someone said it to me, I explained that I didn't think emotional connection was a good idea before you meet someone face to face. I then added that I thought people who throw "I love you" out are usually trying to rush someone into something and in some ways I resented it. He then said it was more as a friend, he loved who I had become to him but wasn't in love with me, but working on it. He liked the hope I offered that there was someone out there he would have strong feelings for without having met them. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 8:40:03 AM | Bob...I read your note...you said it correctly, I did not mean to say he was a loser, I was wrong...he could be desperate in love, or a relationship and feel very alone...we all have been there, I still would not want to hear those words...just be careful, if those words come out that fast, what can you learn about him in one night to understand why he used such words...
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:46:16 AM | | The men are likely best for answers to this; however, psychology would suggest an emotionally needy person. If you get to know him more, 'things' about his personality, history will likely reinforce this. Not bad but could indicate personal troubles. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 8:53:04 AM | | HE EITHER HAS A EGO PROBLEM- OR YES -HE'S LOOKING FOR A QUICK ONE. ABOUT 99 PER CENT ARE CONS OR PLAYERS. MEN SOMEWHAT NEVER TOTALLY GROW UP. 20 PER CENT DO AND 80 PER CENT ARE FULL OF IT. JUST BE CAREFUL ON HERE. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:54:20 AM | I don’t believe I’ve ever done this, but I can imagine that I might - if I felt deeply stirred by her, if the vibrations from her were open and warm and I was confident she would NOT take it as a come-on. Of course it could not have the depth of conviction formed after long acquaintance, a variety of situations, the gradual exchange of confidences, much laughter, spontaneous touching of each other’s forearms or the backs of each other’s hands...
But why, in general, this suspiciousness, this readiness to put under a magnifying glass any expression of feeling? I have been corresponding for some time with a woman I cherish in many ways but whose circumstances make it highly improbable if not impossible that we’d ever be lovers. And because of her circumstances, she’d be very reluctant to contemplate an intimate relationship with me.
Fine, I can accept that and still be her loving friend. But when I wrote that I loved her recently and she responded: “I dunno--Jer...I think what you describe is more infatuation than love...” I hit the freaking roof! Because she had every right of course to decline my love but it was/is deeply offensive to me when anyone presumes to tell me whether it is “love” or not... | |
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