| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 5:25:47 PM | For example: I am not into drinking wine as it give me massive headaches. Alot of guys (especially the Australian guys like to drink wine ) so my question is - If I had that on my profile, which I don't at the moment, would you reject me because of that? Ladies would you reject a man based on that info?
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 5:54:40 PM | I wouldn't reject a man because he does or doesn't drink wine (unless he drank to excess), but yes, there are things on profiles that would cause me "reject" someone or not contact him.
For instance, if a man says that his Christian religion is very important to him and he is looking for a godly wife, I wouldn't contact him since I am pagan.
I wouldn't contact a man whose main interest in life is NASCAR.
I am sure that many men don't contact me because of things that my profile says. I don't think of it as rejection, but just incompatibility. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 6:35:51 PM | | I may pass over someone based on comments in their profile if I didn't think we were compatible. I don't think of this as rejection. If someone has contacted me, I am always polite and return e-mails and explain why I don't feel we would be a good match. (ie. distance, lack of common interests, ect)... I hope this helps.... | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 6:49:42 PM | I have. One lady said she was into casinos and gambling. Not my style. Another lady had a yes in the slot for drugs. And of course the seperated will get a no from me everytime. Along with a distance issue. There are all kinds of reasons to reject someone.
And the opposite has happened to me. I guess the ladies saw something in the ol' pilot's profile that sent them packing. Oh well.  | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 7:43:05 PM | Of course I would "reject" someone based on something I disliked in their profile....that's why there are profiles. Now as to what exactly, that's another matter entirely.
If it something I extremely disagree with or shows that we would not be compatible at all and just a huge turn off, then yes you will be overlooked.
Profiles are a good way to kind of decide whether or not you want to pursue anything with this person. It can't tell you everything about them or decide if you guys will ride off into the sunset together but it can eliminate people who may be a complete waste of your time. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 7:46:10 PM | | Definitely not. I don't drink at all, and I think I subconsciously look for guys who don't drink- so that we're on the same level in terms of preferences etc. I won't mind a guy who drinks occasionally but I don't bother with guys who drink at least twice a day (or even once a day for that matter...). Sure the occasional beer after work is fine, but i duno about going to pubs every night if you get my drift... | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:16:48 PM | | There are few things, where I live distance and having a dog rescue has caused some to rethink their initial emails. Which is fine with me I understand not everyone is compatible with every aspect of a person's individual taste or life style. It does take trial and error, or kiss some frogs if you get the opportunity! Life is a blending of attitudes, choices and views who knows what chemistry can evolve from emails or a meeting | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:25:21 PM | Of course I say you should reject a profile based on content, because that's the point of people writing stuff: but having said that I think we can go wayyy over board. Why reject someone because you like wine and they don't or vise versa? I don't like beer, never have, yet I have no problem dating someone who drinks beer...
Are they making you drink or are they insisting you do? If so that's another story...
I have passed up a profile on another site that said something snobby along the lines of "If you don't know Merlot from Cabernet than don't waste my time!"...that of course showed he was a jerk and had nothing to do with the fact that he liked wine.... | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:27:24 PM | | All the time; how else would you evaluate someone initially, other than thru their profile? Hopefully they've written enough for me to gauge at a quick first glance simply whether or not we have a shot at being compatible. Seriously religious types, heavy smokers, drinks too much, or objects to the fact that I drink socially...if that's in their profile, it provides me a way to weed out the ones I definitely won't be a match with, and vice versa. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:42:47 PM | | OP, This is a bit of a silly question to ask. I know that came off as rude, but it seems that the question is kind of absurd. If you didn't reject people because of something on their profile, how would you narrow down your choices? Do you plan to talk to every single male member on this site? I thought the whole point of posting a profile was so that people could decide whether or not they wanted to contact you? | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 9:30:22 PM | | ^^^^I agree, unless you reject people just based on their picture, what else is there? You read their profile and see if there are similar interests, likes, dislikes, and go from there. Of course I also check to see if they have given out any of their roses. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 11:19:03 PM | A reasonable person would only reject someone based on what is in their profile if it is "deal breaker"....a "non-negotiable".......
Sounds a little foolish and immature to reject someone because they like to drink a glass of wine.....or because they don't.
There are profiles that I have rejected based on what was written, just like I can assure you that I too have been rejected by what I have written.
I wouldn't necessarily state in my profile
I am not into drinking wine as it give me massive headaches , why not allow them to ask, and then you can kindly tell them with a gentle smile that wine gives you headaches..... | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/20/2008 11:34:54 PM | I don't know if this helps, but I was told once that the reason some wines cause headaches and the hangover feeling are due to the tannins in the soil, and there are more tannins in newer vineyards (california or america in general, australia, etc..). Usually french wine has significantly less tannin in it due to the vineyards being so old and the tannins have already been drawn out of the soil. I don't know if this is true, and don't really care.
I personally don't drink all that much. I wouldn't outright reject someone for drinking, even excessively at times. I would want to know if their main idea of fun is to go out drinking. Then I would reject them as I personally do not find any fun in that.
Therefore I can see the converse of that. If my idea of a good time is to go out to a bar, nightclub, bar hop, or I spend every weekend at a local wine tasting event, then I would reject someone that put unequivocally in their profile that they dislike something that I spend a lot of time doing and enjoy.
I see it analogous to putting "I hate cats" in my profile and being rejected by a cat owner. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/21/2008 2:15:20 AM | of course! rejection is part of life/dating right?
just as I suspect my humour might not be everyones cup of tea (my looks either of course) I would reject someone based on a few (very few) things , namely
no job
going on and on on their profile about some beeyatch that did them wrong - hello unresolved issues much?
someone who does drugs (and I mean more than just a little pot smoking etc) or heavily drinking
religious zealots (I'm looking for a date, not to be converted, thanks.) | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/21/2008 4:08:28 AM | I wouldn't reject any woman because she doesn't drink. I don't drink myself because I don't like the effect it has on me. Now there are other reasons for passing by a profile, most of them have to do with extremely opposing personal views, beliefs, and personality. We all have our own tastes and preferances, that's why we're not all hooked up with the same type of person. Yes that was the BIGGEST overstatement of the obvious. LOL peace and good fortune to all. S.W. | |
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