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Posted: 9/22/2008 4:03:56 PM | I know I'm not a very good looking guy, but I'm not exactly expecting to get flirty with a supermodel either. Though I rarely get a response, and even more rare is a message from a girl I've never talked too. Though I don't expect many of those anyway.
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Posted: 9/22/2008 4:18:24 PM | I read your profile and really didn't find anything wrong with it. Maybe add a suggestion of what you would like to do for a first date. Based on your message here, though, it seems as if you are lacking in confidence. You are a good looking guy and you should act like it. Confidence is very attractive. Get one of your friends to take some spontaneous pics of you so that you will look natural and like you are having fun. I love to see a pic of a guy smiling!
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Posted: 9/22/2008 4:51:24 PM | Hi Michael, you are not alone, there are few men here that get more than a handful of notes per week from ladies that they have never talked to. A 10% response to notes that you may send out is also considered good.
However, your profile could certainly be improved, may I suggest profile tips at the top of the page on this forum.
Follow the guidelines carefully, then post back here if you want us to take a look at your revisions.
Best wishes
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Posted: 9/23/2008 12:17:21 PM | How's that, any better?
I added to my about me, the sort of girl i'm looking for. and changed the first date description.
I'll probably put up some more pictures at some point, though not at the moment. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 2:24:41 PM | That is better, but you still need more, much more. You should have 3 solid paragraphs.
first, WHO you are
Second, WHAT you like to do.
Third, WHO she is.
Have you gone to the profile tips?
Best wishes
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Posted: 9/23/2008 2:54:45 PM | | I have been to the tips, and although I thank you for the suggestion, I have to wounder how much is too much, I don't want it to look too overwhelming. I realize its more of an opinion from one person to the next as far as how much is too much. and i can see why you would suggest 3 paragraphs, but i like it this way i feel that it's a lot already and adding to it could only make me feel more like there's too much information there. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 9:56:24 PM | Now it's time to cook! I know my profile doesn't quite reflect my advice yet, but I recently deleted my old one, and...
I think a good way to look at a profile is organically, meaning it grows a little day by day, & don't look at it a a herculean task with a pass/fail requirement. I am adding interests as I seem them in others' profiles & realize they're also my interests.
PICS: Not bad in general, but more mySpace than POF. I don't know if you have a good camera or your cell cam is good, but I really recommend taking pictures of yourself, just to get a feel for what a good picture is & being your harshest critic. A digital camera or cell cam is good because you can take the picture & immediately see the result, on the small scale that will be represented on POF. I'm not a photo expert but I did date one in college for 2 years & helped her on many projects, so lighting -more & natural!! Angles - you don't look necessarily bad in your main pic, but no ones' eyes are level, among other non-symetrical realities of human faces - notice how nearly all women's pictures are from some angle, however slight? the camera is a **stard because nearly all people look better in motion than still - those that don't are known as models. Take 8 good pics of yourself, post them & keep taking more & upload the best & delete the worst. More smiles.
Interest: more, & more specific. Instead of listing "movies", list your 3 favorites, then your favorite genre of movies (war, love, dark comedy). I see women really click on the interests links, so the more & specific the better.
About Me: Really, the "About You" section. When a woman reads this she wants to see herself described mostly & a bit about you (again, that's where the "Interests" section works), & she'll be more likely to respond. Yours is too generic, be specific & forceful in what you are looking for - men are also allowed to have requirements!
I saw your original request today, about e-mailing women, & I found a bit more success in this mode: I only e-mail my matches. I set the age range, distance for the lowest I want them to be - so low I don't stoop until the search says "too few users, expanding to statewide search". I incrementally increase my criteria until I get a successful match set, & then fish within that pond, one at a time. Send an e-mail to one girl, wait a few days for her to read it, if she does, wait more for her to respond, if she does, then respond & take it slow. It may seem frustrating but really there are only so many people on the site, don't send almost spam type e-mails. Learn from every interaction, & to pass the time & increase your "pool"....
FORUMS!!! The humor forum is really fun, many others are great & you will meet some people you will just be friends with but can help you here, & it will help you learn about all the fish, not just from the "ask a girl" or "profile review" sections, you can catch some fish there too!
P.S. You can change your screen name, go to "Edit Profile", then right under that menu bar, there is the "Edit further registration options". | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 12:21:49 PM | Thanks for the suggestions, I made a few changes, added quite a bit to my about me sections, changed my name etc.
I see what you mean about it growing day by day, and i'll keep adding and editing etc, but as far as the changes i made, what do you think? | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 1:20:47 PM | Nice! Definitely a big step in the right direction. Biggest thing I noticed is that your profile is completely positive, which equals confidence & as god knows, that is so, SO important for attracting women.
Something I do is stay logged on the whole time I am home & make sure to re-log in every 15 minutes, even if I'm not using the site at all. I think this may increase your visibility when women use the "My Matches" search. Every little bit helps!! | |
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