| | How to get him to ask me out..Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Background aka useless info: I met a guy (not from this site) a good week and half ago.. and we have been hanging out every moment we have except for one or two days. No issues with that by all means.. I adore this guy.
My question: how do I get him to commit and actually make it official that I am his girl? Or how do I find out what he wants..? He keeps hinting to us being together.. but he hasn't made it a fact.. ;0
So.. help me! Helpless little romantic..
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| How to get him to ask me out..
Posted: 9/26/2008 11:23:10 PM | It's written all over this site in more threads than can be counted. Communication is key in anything...relationships, sex, going to the store, renting a movie, or what's for dinner.
Talk to him, tell him your feelings, and ask him his. If you've hit it off that well, it shouldn't be a big deal for either one of you.
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Posted: 9/26/2008 11:29:28 PM | very true. i'm just a huge turd to the rejection thing..
and i'm not wanting to bring it up.. i want it to be something cute and random and i want to know it's something he truly wants to have happen. ;) | |
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| How to get him to ask me out..
Posted: 9/26/2008 11:45:56 PM | My question: how do I get him to commit and actually make it official that I am his girl?
Thats the crust of the sandwich right there.
It is fairly early in your relationship to ask for a commitment after only a week
or so. I understand that is what you want but if you try to shovel this to him
too early.......you will be back here soon writing a thread about heartbreak.
I will assume that you are dating someone your own age so a commitment might
not be what he is looking for regardless of some of his "hints."
Afterall, when it comes to dating.......it sometimes seems that men and women are
speaking two different languages.
EDIT: Your profile says friends and he wants Hang Out....
How does commitment fit here?
No offense but are you talking about an exclusive FWB? | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 5:04:37 AM | Take your time with this guy but do not hesitate to speak up about how you feel.
A missed opportunity is just that.
If you play hard to get , he will most likely decide your a player and bolt.
Communication is the key. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 6:49:44 AM | Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There is a very simple answer to this.........
Tell him how you feel and ask him.........
He may be as scared as you and may not take the initiative becuase he thinks you may so no........
Be direct, life is too short...........
JUST ASK HIM or turn to him and say "God! I want you"!!!!! | |
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| How to get him to ask me out..
Posted: 9/27/2008 6:55:48 AM |
He keeps hinting to us being together.. but he hasn't made it a fact..
There's a saying: You're doing it wrong. Why does HE have to be the one to do it? If you're interested, and you want to take things forward, stop playing games, take the lead, and do it yourself. While you're sitting there waiting for him to do something, he just may pass you by. | |
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| How to get him to ask me out..
Posted: 9/27/2008 6:59:15 AM | | Just let him know in a way that doesn't put him in an odd situation. Perhaps something like "I have a great time with you, if you ever want to commit to a relationship, I would adore it!" Let him know it would make you really happy but don't blackmail him into it, don't let him think that is the only possible result of your friendship. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 6:39:56 PM | i think i'm just going to randomly say.. you should be my boyfriend :)
hopefully, i am sober when i do that! ;0 i'd have more balls when i have a few in me! lol | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 7:07:00 PM | | Do you randomly talk to him? I thought you talked to him all the time? That is all you need to do is talk to him and ask him where he sees the relationship going. No tricks, no games, just straight up talk to him. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 7:31:12 PM | | How about exuding confidence and telling him you adore him and want him to hook up with you in a more commited manner! Tell him you hate to waste time and you'd like to see where things will go for you both! Always worked for me! | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 9:51:31 PM | "Do you randomly talk to him? I thought you talked to him all the time? That is all you need to do is talk to him and ask him where he sees the relationship going. No tricks, no games, just straight up talk to him."
That's the best advice so far. Keep talking to him until he chokes and his head turns blue. Keep talking, even if you need to use words chosen randomly from a dictionary or a "Vogue" advert. Guys love that. If you think you've talked to him long enough, think again. And talk again. Sorry no; that would mean you stopped at one point. Never stop. Just keep on talking.
This is only to exhaust him, to wear down his resisance, to crush the barriers he's built. You're ready for the next step. You tell him that you bra strap is stuck, it's wound around your left nipple -- would he be so kind and do you a favour and unravel it?
If there is no nose-bleed, you know he's gay.
So if his eyes bulge out and his jugular throbs like a... like a... like throbber, a really good rubber throbber, then you ask him if he can slobber when he's sober, you dapper warbler, but not with your bladder or your blubber, please.
And now go for the kill: go up to him really close, so close he can establish an accurate count of dandruff pieces per square inch, and put your hand on his heart, the other, on his steely bum. Gaze into his eyes like a deer that's been stunned by bright lights in the night and wet his lips.
Then walk to the mantle piece, and say, "well, the Colts beat the Young Kees last night at Keso. Do you have any unused diapers on you? I need mine changed very badly." | |
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Ron9
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| How to get him to ask me out..
Posted: 9/27/2008 10:36:03 PM | If he does (IF HE DOES) feel the say way .......
You won't run him off.
If he don't ... you will find out.
I've not "connected" with anyone since 1986 (my now ex wife) but ...
I did have a few real girlfriends before her.
Back then - when a real match was in the making - we both knew it. Neither of us had to wonder about it. We both knew and we knew it almost instantly.
Things have no doubt changed in all this time but .... I still think both sides know it (if it really is a two way match).
OP .... do you ***THINK*** you are in a real match?
If you think you are - you may very well be in a two way match. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 1:51:11 AM | Ooooooh dear . . . OP . . . if you were my daughter . . . I would tell her to take it slowly . . . you have only known him 2 weeks . . . okay almost 3 weeks . . . the emotions are high . . . . DON'T RUSH . . . slow down . . .
Hang out with your girlfriends . . . keep busy with your family . . . or school . . . GIVE YASELF some THINKING SPACE . . . and don't sleep with him until you are sure you are not going to regret it . . . and if you sleep with him . . . don't blame him because you regret it . . .
This is good practice to learn to control your emotions and put them into perspective . . .
Best of luck,
~Myth~ | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 2:03:28 AM | | If it's essential for you to have your relationship defined after a week and a half, then ask him to define what he's feeling. But before you do, I suggest you search this forum for threads containing phrases like "take it slow" or "chased him off" or "moving too fast" so you know the potential risks of pushing that topic right now. You might find some helpful ways to broach the subject or you might decide that you can wait a little longer for that conversation to take place. | |
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agrah
| | Joined: 5/10/2008
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| How to get him to ask me out..
Posted: 9/28/2008 6:30:27 AM | You hang out together every moment you have, so what is it your seeking? An official "date"? If that is the case then you should pull on your big girl panties and ask him to join you to do something you enjoy. Whether its a movie, dinner, put put golf, skydiving or dancing. There is only one rule to dating anymore and that is communication. How can other people even begin to fulfill our expectations if we dont let them know what the expectations are?
As for committing to "official" gf/bf status ....... relax. Take the time to discuss what commitment means to each person before asking for commitment. Learn about one another and have fun doing it. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 6:38:29 AM |
Ooooooh dear . . . OP . . . if you were my daughter . . . I would tell her to take it slowly . . . you have only known him 2 weeks . . . okay almost 3 weeks . . . the emotions are high . . . . DON'T RUSH . . . slow down . . . Read and re-read this.
Don't rush into talking - it's too early...if you want him - let it grow by itself. The less you joke about serious matters, the more serious he will think about it.
and, yes, don't sleep with him so far...you'll regert later | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 7:34:25 AM | IF YOU CHASE A MAN, HE WILL RUN. He will quickly run for hills!
Bullsh*t! Only if he doesn't like you to start with.
What happens is instead of being honest about their feelings most women start playing these coy little "chase me" games that men mistake for total lack of interest, and then we decide that you are a waste of time and don't bother to follow through.
On the other hand, if a woman chases me, I might get the idea that she is interested, and since I am easy, I won't even run enough to make it look like I was putting up a fight to protect my virtue. (I know, what virtue?)
Meanwhile, here we are, all alone, but women can't seem to give up that teenage girl mentality. | |
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| How to get him to ask me out..
Posted: 9/28/2008 7:34:32 AM | Smileee4u says: " IF YOU CHASE A MAN, HE WILL RUN. He will quickly run for hills! "
He may run for the hills if you demand an immediate answer from him !!!! Women make this mistake all the time. DON'T DEMAND THAT HE ANSWER YOU, NOW !!!
GOD WHY ARE WOMEN SO THICK ABOUT THIS !!!!!
The way to do it, is to express your interest, hand him your name and number and give him time & space alone to think about you. DON'T ASK QUESTIONS THAT DEMAND AN IMMEDIATE RESPONSE!!!! YOU WANT TO LET THE GUY KNOW THAT YOU'RE INTERESTED, BUT GIVE HIM TIME TO BE ALONE WITH THE IDEA. | |
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