| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 9/29/2004 10:22:55 PM | ok, ive never gone a date before in my LIFE. can somone PLEASE give me some pointers on what to talk about (how romantic) and where to go (like the setting of the date)?
we set friday, but we dont know what we're doing yet. we got the whole day possibly.
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 9/30/2004 3:39:44 AM | hey good luck! I wouldnt be too romantic on the first date, of course being polite (opening door, etc) is great.
Stay away from the movies, they just dont let ya talk. Hmmm but if you have the whole day it might be good, you can talk about the movie afterwards. How about a zoo, park, museum?
Someone told me to get a person talking about themselves. People like to talk about themselves and by them doing that, you learn alot about a person, and they like the idea of someone listening. Thats all I can think of atm, I just woke up. | |
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 9/30/2004 9:31:18 AM | Try to calm down for one, women like guys with some confedence, just dont be over bearing and above all else be yourself. Find a topic that puts you at ease and work from there. For some reason people relax around me and I think its because I do most of the talking first and let them just stay to there shy side and learn that I am relaxed and they can do the same thing. Go to the zoo, make sure you are polite, find something funny to talk about, laughing always breaks the ice, and dont expect to much from her. If you two click things will move naturaly and if not, show her a good time anyway, cause you never know, that might turn out to be one of your best friends later down the road. Take her out to eat after wards or just grab something there, bring money my friend and lots of it ok. A woman likes to know that you are intrested and going to show that she is special to you, so one way is to listen to what she says and dont guess, but know before you answer. Look her in the eyes when you talk and when she talks, this shows respect to her that you care enough to pay attention to her when you are talking to her and listening. Try not to touch her in any way but the small gestures, take her hand and lead her down some stairs, slight touch on the lower back when sitting her down or leading though a door. IF you run into a crowd, grab her hand and bring her behind you and lead her though the crowd, shows that you are a man that can take charge and are not scared to. The little things that you do will be noticed on first dates, its like a interview actually, if you show up in crappy cloths, bad attitude and talk about why you hated working for this company, think they will hire you? hell no, so treat it as such. Above all else you are the man courting her, show her that you feel lucky getting the chance to take her out and strut your stuff man. Good luck to you, let us know how it all goes bro.
Gadolinx
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/4/2004 3:02:46 PM | My advice if you wanted is to treat it like your meeting a business colleague or a non commiting meeting. Remember! You are in control and if you feel uncomfortable then just leave curteously of course. I used to feel obliged to date a fella because I had a problem with saying "sorry but Im not inerested" of course in a much kinder way. Have fun not anxiety.
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/5/2004 2:14:24 AM | Being yourself is Soo very important. You don't want to try to create a personality that you make up as you go to try to fit the person and situation because you are too insecure to be yourself and I'm not saying that you are. But if you relax and think positively and confidently, then your true self will shine through and this will make for much more enjoyable day for the two of you. Aaah...how I love first dates. The excitement is overwhelming.
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/5/2004 3:33:54 AM | My advice is a little late ... since your date was a few days ago.
Personally, I think going on a date doing an activity where you can talk to the person and get to know them is a good idea. Some suggestions include: a picnic in the park, a long walk somewhere, minature golf, and going hiking.
A problem with going to a movie is that you don't get to talk to the person to get to know them better.
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/5/2004 5:47:48 PM | The most important thing, is to just be yourself. Dont walk into the date with any expectations. Take her down off of any pedestle, and realize shes probably just as nervous as you are. So, consider that, try and make her feel comfortable,with out making anything weird. Like I said, just be yourself. Act like you would if you were out with a cousin you havent seen in a long time. Just talk about whats been going on, ask her the same (pay attention when she talks)... and go with the flow of the evening. Its not a sentence, or the Spanish Inquisition... its a date, and they can be fun. Hope it all went well.
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/9/2004 8:57:39 AM | oh sorry for the absence guys :P
it urned out we both had to work, so we postponed it to yesterday :)
anywho, it went really really really well! we went out at nite, i picked her up right from work, and we walked to the pool hall. we played a few games (she won everytime =P), and time went by faster than expected :). then she chased a cat, and we walked to a park and sat in a tree for a bit. then we walked over to 7-11 and bought chips a slurpees, and went to her back yard and sat in a yard swing. it was fantastic, we talked about everything, and laughed tons!! i think it went really well, considering neither of us had a car! at the end, we compared our cold hands by touching each other cheek ( =O ) and we hugged at departed our ways. total time: 3 hours 30 mins it was great!
so, how do you think it went? | |
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/9/2004 9:01:39 AM | (i really wish i could edit =/)
she DID mention that she was extremely jumpy that day (i wonder why..) and before we went she told me that shed either go nuts and say "hi!" or go into a corner. so I said "well the worst case scenerio would be if we saw each other and just went into seizure on the ground :P, so it'll go good anyways :)" | |
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/9/2004 11:25:38 AM | Sounds like you did well, Stamp! It's usually a VERY good sign when you gab about tons and laugh on the date. Shows you both like listening to each other and have a similar sense of humour.
Getting to chit-chat with her in her backyard is also a very good sign. Shows she's comfortable around you, doesn't mind letting you into her private space.
Good luck! Don't be too eager yet, contact her in a couple of days and tell her how much you enjoyed things, and set something tenatively else up. This might be some event you would both mutually enjoy, or perhaps dinner out and a walk afterwards? | |
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/19/2004 10:16:13 AM | | Things are going really well now.. except for one thing =/ my friend (guy) keeps calling up and joining the action!! and its like hes trying to go out with her too now! argh! but we're still doing stuff together more frequently than her with him :) I feel like im in a competition. hes the bratitude type guy, which most girls dig in their early years :( I hope she likes me more! any suggestions? help! | |
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/20/2004 1:09:39 PM | ok, small update guys
looks like i was soo nice to her she wants to be friends. she had bad relations before, and doesnt want to lose this one :(. i feel bad for her. so, now were really good special friends :). | |
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| Possibly going on a first date on friday.. HELP!
Posted: 10/25/2004 3:28:11 PM | That's always a good place to start. The best lovers start as friends, though if you look on my previous posts, I'm not a huge expert on that. Sounds like things are going as well as possible. At least she was honest.
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