| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 6:50:58 PM | Due to abuse as a child i don't give men oral sex and i was wondering how much it would bother the men out there if they weren't given blowjobs in an otherwise good relationship.
My last partner didn't like them for various reasons which worked out well for me but i'm starting to worry what reaction my next partner might have.
I'm interested in any males opinion here, thanks. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:13:29 PM | Geez... I'm nearly fifty years old. I don't remember having ever gotten one. I mean... there's been a little voluntary mouth contact here & there, but that's it.
I don't think I'd die early without one.  | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:14:34 PM | | While I can be sympathetic to your situation, it really sucks (pardon the pun), I don't think I could enjoy every meal I ever have, for the rest of my life, to be devoid of my favorite food. Same thing for oral sex. Having said that, there are some men who actually do not like oral, or can take it or leave it. Your chances of finding such a fellow may not be as slim as you would think. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:19:22 PM | Everything being equal and relationship's great... wouldn't faze me a bit. It's just one small aspect. Its not the be all / end all some guys makes it out to be.
You'll find what you're looking for. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:34:02 PM | I would probably suck it up and try not to worry bout it if I really liked you.
I wouldnt prefer it by any means, but dont think it'd be a deal breaker.
You'll prob be ok with being that way....just might have to get a guy used to no bj it if hes used to them. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:40:41 PM | | OP, I'm sure some men can't, but many will be willing to give them up if they think you are THE ONE. It's quite possible (just guessing here) that the more mature men will have less of a fixation with BJs. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:42:38 PM | If I'm not mistaken I'm pretty sure the right to BJ's is in the constitution.
I think it's after a right to a speedy trial
I tell ya...our forefathers knew what they were doing | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:49:48 PM | | well i can't speak for all men, but i'd say that in a relationship most men probably don't care as long as they have sex and it's good...i know i don't...but then again, sex isn't the only thing guys want either...most of us want a good friend out of a relationship, but are too insecure to admit it so hey hide it with their 'macho' side. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:51:21 PM |
OP..
I Personally HATE BJ'S!!
Actually I totally refuse any offers, After the first time, What happened...Wow, NEVER,EVER AGAIN!
So don't worry, There are plenty of guys that don't mind, Not getting them...
REALLY? I'm not trying to be a smart ass, but I have never met one single man that did not like it. WOW.... Damn, you learn something new every day! | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:55:49 PM | It's quite possible (just guessing here) that the more mature men will have less of a fixation with BJs.
You know, it's easy to have a negative comment for someone that doesn't see things the same way you do. For instance, someone could make the argument that only a really desperate man would be willing to forgo BJs, if he could find a woman that would accept his shortcomings as well. This, however, would be no more true (in most instances) than your moronic comment.
OP... If a man loves you already, he would be more likely to accept a life of no oral. If it's important to him, and you withhold that info until he's hooked or feels he would appear shallow for running out, then there is likely to be some resentment eventually. Be up front about it, and you may find a guy who doesn't care. Then you can both be happy with the situation. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:58:00 PM | | I personally prefer a good poker player. Straight beats a face card any day of the week. I don't need a BJ if you have a good hand. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:59:56 PM | Due to abuse as a child i don't give men oral sex and i was wondering how much it would bother the men out there if they weren't given blowjobs in an otherwise good relationship.
For ME, as long as we had a good sexual relationship otherwise, then I'd be fine with it.
but then again, sex isn't the only thing guys want either...
That's true, but I've been in LTRs where there was virtually no sex at all, and that can be VERY frustrating and stressful. For most men, it's not the ONLY thing we want, but we definitely do want SOME. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2008 8:00:26 PM | | Jen Bean - My hats off to you for your strength, I would like to chat with your off line from your thread on your subject thread. As a lady I would offer my support to you, but in a more private discussion not open for all those already on this thread. If you choose to post back to open email or im if your interested. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 8:03:34 PM | | Absolutely! Any man that doesn't care enough about you to be happy with an otherwise complete sex life isn't good enough for you! | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 8:04:39 PM | definitely not for me.
The no BJ isn't the most frighten part for me, it's other hang ups you might have due to the abuse. I'm looking for a partner to make my life easier, not harder.
Sorry I sound like a horrible person. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 8:06:25 PM | You can't get an answer about all men! I'd say I'm definitely in the minority,
when I say, I could really care less, but how does that have anything to do with
a man YOU might meet. I can't help believe that much about oral is a lot of hype
and popularity! It almost seems that some women advertise their skills at
performing this as some sort of sales tactic! I really wish, they had a whole lot
more to offer then that! | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 8:11:13 PM | I never get off from blowjobs anyway so it wouldn't bother me. I would have trouble being in a relationship where the woman never wanted to receive oral though.
As well, knowing my partner had suffered abuse in the past would make it easier to not engage in activities that upset her. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 9/29/2008 8:12:13 PM | | uhhh seriously, most of these replies ive read are a crock of shit, most of them are telling you what they think you wanna hear, the truth of the matter is all dudes, wether they admit it or not, love getting good head and any girl out there, i dont care how hot she is or how much money she has, if she won't do what it takes to make me feel good, she's outta here, i mean c'mon guys be serious | |
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