| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 4:32:26 PM | ok well im sure you get this question all the time but i really need help
There is a girl that i really like going to the same school as me. i dont really know much about her but i cant really explain it, but there is just something about her. I would really like to ask her out one of these days but not really sure how to go about it, being really the first time. She hangs out with us at our break between classes none us really know much about her , since she went to a diffrent school. I'm not even sure she really knows much about me but there is just something about her. I dont really know how to go about it cause i dont want to ask her in front off the entire group, but its really the only time i do see her, unless i catch her before she goes to class? Im also a little worryed about being rejected, i know the worse thing that can happen is she says no.
Any way i really dont know were to go with this, how i should go about it, I know i should because i fill that there may be something there cause i have never felt this way about anyone. If there is any thing that you can sujest please let me know i would greatly apreciate it.
So i know you probaly get these messages all the time so im very soory for posting something that you have probally answerd 100 times.
Thanks for all your help. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 4:35:26 PM | | just come right out and ask her out for coffee or a bite to eat after school. if you procrastinate with asking her you might end up being too late. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 5:04:01 PM | Your shy and apprehensive and definitely want to make a good impression.
Try an indirect approach, such as writing a clever funny note/letter, and leave it where she is sure to find it.
Buy a cute little puppy and train him to run up to your crush on command, now you have a reason to approach her,
at this point you could say something like "I'm sorry, but my puppy is so attracted to cute women".
Next time you have to do a verbal report in front of the class, read a romantic comedy in front of
the class, at the climax of the story reveal that your story is about a true life crush, then walk really slow
towards her placing a blue rose on her desk.
Use your imagination stud
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 6:00:41 PM |
I dont really know how to go about it cause i dont want to ask her in front off the entire group, but its really the only time i do see her, unless i catch her before she goes to class?
It's not a good idea to ask her out in front of the group. Wait until you see her in the hall or in the cafeteria. When you do see her alone, ask her if she'd like to join you for lunch or coffee. If she's interested, she'll say "yes". If she's evasive or indecisive, it probably means she's not interested.
Try not to get too worried about getting rejected. It happens to everyone many times in life. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 6:21:13 PM | Since you all hang out in a group, you might want to try talking to her or paying more attention to her when you're all together. I agree with the others, don't ask her out in front of others. You put her on the spot and can make her uncomfortable whether she wants to go out with you or not. As the group breaks up to go to class, you can always walk away with her and ask her then.
Im also a little worryed about being rejected, i know the worse thing that can happen is she says no.
No, she could run away screaming and make a scene! Just kidding. You're right, that is the worst thing. So you risk rejection. Would you rather not take a chance and see her the next day with someone else? Which will hurt worse, a little bruised ego or kicking yourself for a chance not taken and singing "Jessie's Girl" in your head all day (sorry, old song)? If you want someone to take your heart, you have to hold it out to them.
Good luck!! | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 6:30:15 PM | Make sure you sit beside her. As you both leave, casually ask her if she would like to go to coffee sometime---if she stalls, she is not interested. If she is interested, she'll ask "When?"
Good Luck, and smile when you ask. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:28:33 PM | Thanks for all your help hopoe to see her on monday i will let you all know how it goes.
Thnaks Agine | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:41:00 PM | I honestly would not suggest writing a note. The main reason is your age, I assume your still in high school? if so you dont want to write a note if you dont know more about this girls personality, you dont want a spin on it that you didn't intend as she shows it around to people. May be harsh to say that, but hey High School Girls are not normally very nice. (not saying they aren't sweet -- but there is a different side to girls that age)
My suggestion is you probably have the 5 minute bell that rings to let you know to get your asz moving to class, offer to walk her to class and then ask her, if your in high school - hell it is football season, ask her if she wants to go to the friday night game and get pizza before or after as your walking. meet a bunch of friends at the game as you are spending most of your attention on her then when you go for a bite to eat you can talk about the game the people and ease into the date since your obviously a little shy,
That by the way is the same advice I gave my brother many moons ago when he had the same position, the girl is now his wife and is having their first baby any day now,, | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:51:27 PM | | My suggestion is to grow a pair of testicles | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/1/2008 9:19:45 PM |
Buy a cute little puppy and train him to run up to your crush on command, now you have a reason to approach her,
at this point you could say something like "I'm sorry, but my puppy is so attracted to cute women"
 Brilliant.
I need a damn puppy! I always wanted one, this just affirms it. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 7:16:48 AM |
Buy a cute little puppy and train him to run up to your crush on command, now you have a reason to approach her,
at this point you could say something like "I'm sorry, but my puppy is so attracted to cute women"
Brilliant.
I need a damn puppy! I always wanted one, this just affirms it.
No it isn't, it's a stupid idea. A puppy is a responsibility for the next 10-15 years. It's a living creature not a toy nor a pawn in a dating game. Stupid, stupid, stupid reason to get an animal. Next we'll be seeing you in the thread about giving up a pet because the SO doesn't want it. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 7:40:06 AM | | okay why dont you find some stuff about her ASK her what she's into sports movies stuff like that and see what happens If she likes th gym tell her u guys should go workout together sometime . if shes into movies tell her this new movie is comin up on the weekend and she should check it out , on the day of the movie u ask her to join you things like that | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 12:30:44 PM | | You could try inviting her for a coffee after school but invite some of the rest of the group aswell. That way you take the pressure off her but you get to see her socially. If you still feel you would like to take it farther then I'm sure you can find an opportunity to speak to her 1-1 in a different setting away from the others. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 1:25:26 PM | well im going to try and catch her on monday before she gets to the group because i think she has a class with on of my friends and he cant take anything seriously and would probally make it in to a big joke.
Funny thing is i have a dog that is still like a puppy that i paid big money for ( ~ $1000) that i could tell her to go run up to any one and she would, but being on school proberty they may not like it.
No it isn't, it's a stupid idea. A puppy is a responsibility for the next 10-15 years. It's a living creature not a toy nor a pawn in a dating game. Stupid, stupid, stupid reason to get an animal. Next we'll be seeing you in the thread about giving up a pet because the SO doesn't want it.
i love my dog way to much to ever give her up for anything even if she puts me in a poor house she is the best ever. but i kow what you mean. Thanks for all the advice that you have been giving i think it will be usefull.
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Posted: 10/2/2008 2:29:50 PM | Good luck! We're all pulling for ya! (H*ll, I might as well live vicariously through someone else's success!!) Let us know how it goes!
With the new 20 response rule, how about we all leave the last 6 spaces in this thread open so chasman can update us?  | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 2:46:12 PM | Chatte the puppy thing was meant as humor methinks  | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 2:47:15 PM | Just go ahead and ask her. There are two responses you will get:
Yes or No. The worst that could happen is that she says no. | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:20:32 PM | heh try telling her this: "Ive been watching you for weeks, are you walking home alone from school today."
no but seriously, if anything, remember this; Her saying no clears the road for you to ask her friends out too.
Theres a million fish in the sea, dont hesitate, no inhibitions, go for it. Good Luck Mate! | |
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| asking a girl out?
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:53:41 PM | | dude, seriouly i did the same thing. turns out she liked me but i waited to long. just do it, once you do it and realize its not that hard its alot easier even if you do get shut down man so what? at least you can say you gave it a try. | |
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| Yeah!...no. wanna know why i say no?
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:14:28 PM | Don't do anything yet. Just hold off a bit. I like to read. I cam across this book at the library called "Penetrating the secret world of pick-up artists. Don't think negative about this book. Many guys who do not have that certain personality to make a girl open up get their answers to their problems from pick up artists in this book.
The book is more of biographies of succesful pick up artists. I think that this book will be valuable to you as it was to me.
I have no problems meeting women and making them attractive to me.
I'm now a stand up guy. I know much about women. I am not to say that I am some expert just a guy that knows himself much more. | |
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| Yeah!...no. wanna know why i say no?
Posted: 10/3/2008 8:12:55 PM | | Next time you are with her, hand her a piece of paper and say "here give me your phone number/email" now you can talk to her without others around. You would be surprised how easy it is to get a phone number just by asking. | |
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