| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/1/2008 6:01:34 PM | Ok, I don't seem to get any luck on here. The amount of messages I send to ladies which I don't get a reply from is also unbelievable!
Can anyone give me any insight to what's wrong is it my pictures? Or what I have put content wise in my profile?
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| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:02:52 PM | I see the same problem with both of you guys. You have numerous grammatical errors and mispelled words. I think men in general don't realize what a huge turn-off this is for women. It makes you look sloppy and ignorant, and it makes your profile difficult to read. It's not worth my time to try to muddle through a hodge podge of letters in a big mess on the page, and I have given up on trying to read profiles like that; it takes too much time.
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| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:09:12 PM | I don't think the pics are bad. The only criticism I would give is to freshen up your description a bit more, spread it out. Right now it's one big chunk, use paragraphs. Maybe describe a bit what you are looking for in a partner. And take out the bit about being single for a while, it doesn't look very good lol.
You have also put that you are looking for 'friends'. This will put off people who want more than that, and your profile suggests to me that you want more than that. Plus it will affect the search filter, so better to change that in my opinion.
Other than that I think it's ok. Hope this helps  | |
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| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:16:40 PM | For starters, your pictures are not very flattering. Your main pic is shot off center and the background area looks like a dungeon. There is a film director, I cant remember his name, who shoots his movies with the camera always slightly off balance so there are no parallel lines. This adds a very creepy effect which is great for scary movies but very bad for a singles site profile pic. I would go with a nice bright outside pic or something a little more inviting.
Also, I would mention more stuff about yourself and less about your hobbies. You mention you like football, computer games, and drawing comics which is great but many people who like football and play computer games obsess over it and women do not like to compete with hobbies for attention. There is time to share this stuff later when you have actually found someone who is interested enough to reply back to you. The biggest potential problem I see though is the mention of you taking care of your dad full time etc... As admirable as this is, I think it might be hurting your chances. When I read that I assume you live with him and most women get turned off knowing they might at some point want to stay over at your flat and one of your parents will be there; that's a deal breaker if I ever seen one. That is something I would mention later on if the relationship is moving to actual dating.
Last but not least, fix your grammar and spelling; that is a huge turnoff to a lot of people. Your profile is a representation of who you are and if you don't take the time to represent yourself well, you can't expect a lady to take the time to read it.
Good luck to you and good luck fishing!
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| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:46:02 AM | | Ok I have changed a few thing description wise about my profile, I hope this helps. I am not a very good picture taker, I will have to see what I can come up with. | |
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| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/2/2008 7:03:33 AM | It's a big improvement already! I would perhaps re-word the bit about people that don't mail back, it comes across as a little bitter. We all hate it when you see someone you think you could hit it off with, and they don't even reply to your mail, but it might put potential partners off a little if they think you're a little bitter about it.
As for the pics, you are who you are, you can't change that, and shouldn't want to, for the sake of others. I would suggest maybe add a bit of variety. Show yourself in different situations.
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| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/2/2008 12:24:18 PM | Ok, thanks. Most pictures I take I tend to look very different in each one, a lot of the time I am forever taking pictures and deleting them just because they look awful. So I have stuck with the 3 that you see, one was taken in a club the other 2 at my home.
Doe the surroundings to your pictures really matter? I mean its wot you look like not where you are that counts right? | |
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| Where am I going wrong!?
Posted: 10/3/2008 3:51:28 PM | Does the packaging on products really matter or is it the product inside? There are companies that spend millions each year determining the best way to advertise a product to maximize exposure and sales. At a dating site you really are trying to sell yourself so I believe everything about your picture matters since it is the first thing a potential match will see. There are statistics that show that profiles with pictures receive many more responses than those without so it just stands to reason that a better pic will result in more responses or at least more profile views.
I would suggest having a friend take a picture for you rather than a camera with a timer or a web cam because self portraits are usually not very good. | |
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