| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:32:19 PM | I would like to know what everyone thinks of women who may go to a bar by themselves....I sometimes do not have anyone to go out with and would love to go and get a drink at a local bar, listen to some music and hopefully engage in some nice conversations and meet some new friends.
My question is...is it still taboo for women to go to a bar by herself without looking like she is out to hook up with someone. Or is it more acceptable now days? | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:46:03 PM | | Personally, I would think it was odd... I would be wondering what her motivation was... either she's there to hook up, or she's an alcoholic... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:52:35 PM | | OP if you had done a thread search you would have found your answers. This question has been asked before. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:58:31 PM | | As a matter of fact I have searched and you will see if you do a search that the only thing that comes up is how to approach a women when she is by herself...my question is...is it frowned upon to go to a bar by yourself. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/8/2008 8:03:01 PM | | Well then, why don't you go to a POF event. I hear a lot of women go alone . | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/8/2008 10:49:24 PM |
I would be wondering what her motivation was... either she's there to hook up, or she's an alcoholic...
Wow....I didn't realize those were the only reasons to go to a bar...guess I have a lot to learn! Are women also not supposed to dine in a restaurant or go to a movie solo? No wonder so many of us are single...who knew!  | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:26:11 AM | I've had female friends say that they would never go to a bar, lounge, pub, or nightclub alone. I've never understood that, if I'm in the mood to go out and can't find a friend that wants to join me, I go out.
Sooner or later you'll run into someone who thinks that you're there just to hook up, ignore them and enjoy yourself.
Just remember to keep yourself safe, park in a well lite area and close or better yet take a cab, don't leave your drink unattended, pay attention to your surroundings and the people in them. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:38:01 AM | cotter: I agree.
I think if more women went out alone there would be more successful couples formed. How many times have people not ended up together at the end of the night because
*their friend wants to go and they have to go with them* or
*he's a jerk i don't like him, lets go somewhere else and I'll find you a better guy* or
*I cant believe you think he's good looking, I would never go for a guy like that*
or countless other reasons that make a friend stop a girl from hanging with a guy.
Granted. Yes sometimes they guy is a jerk, but i think being out alone leaves a women to choose for herself. Just be careful and blah etc .....
If I want to try to find someone on a night out I go out alone. If i want to go out for a few drinks I go with my mates. That way I am not subject to their harassment if they think the woman isn't up to their standard.
I performed in a band in Canberra for years and have seen every kind of nithouter that you could think of and I have to say most of the women that were at the venues alone were having just as much fun as anyone and, if anyone was judging them, it was other women who would never do it themselves.
I say good ya to any of you gals out there on your own. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:40:45 AM | have seen every kind of nithouter that you could think of
try
have seen every kind of night-outer that you could think of | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 4:03:00 AM | | Isn't it funny that men can go to a bar alone and that is fine. Woman go and they are looking for sex is what most men think. I have gone to a small restaurant on the beach where they play music at night by myself when my friends are busy, life is short. I say go for it! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 4:28:44 AM | Some people will think the worst of you, some will not, some won't notice you're there alone and others, like me, will think "I wish I had enough guts to go to a bar alone" LOL.
I often do stuff alone for lack of other people to do stuff with, but a bar is somewhere I would not feel comfortable by myself - this is my own hangup and I'm glad not all women share it.
Good luck to you OP! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 5:06:08 AM | You may want to do what feels right for you...if you feel fine going to a bar alone then you should. It's your choice. :)
Hey, I just recently started going out to lunch by myself! Seriously...it's not so bad.
(I am not into the bar scene...so it's lunch for me) | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 6:04:14 AM | | If it is what you enjoy doing, then go. It does not mean anything, except that maybe you wanted to get out and there you are. I personally do not really enjoy bars, and not just because I do not drink; the environment is normally not to fun. But that is me. People hook up anywhere. I get hit on at the gym a lot, chances are I would get laid there faster than in a bar, but I am not in the gym to hook up either! Go have fun do what you want just be careful. I spend a lot of time alone, including going to dinner. At least the company is safe..:) | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 6:08:44 AM | I'm a Karaoke singer ... I go to Karaoke places by myself. Once I get up to sing ... I'm not alone for very long. Other singers invite me to join them and are eager to have me join them on future nights.
Even when I'm not asked to join other singers ... I'm still always treated with respect and have even just been sitting there and someone who enjoyed a song I sang ... will send a drink to the table.
We put off "aura" when we're out. If you're looking to "hook up" ... whether you broadcast it verbally or not ... it will be plastered all over you. If you're just out to enjoy the evening ... it will show and you will generally have a good time.
Go out and enjoy yourself and don't let some "loser" statement keep you from going out alone ... it's 2008. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:23:39 AM | | I see nothing wrong with it-depends on how you carry yourself and all...otherwise, why the worry? | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:33:35 AM | please more women go to the bar...i wish more women would go and less men....do what you feel......i thinks cool.. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 11:03:46 AM |
I would like to know what everyone thinks of women who may go to a bar by themselves....I sometimes do not have anyone to go out with and would love to go and get a drink at a local bar, listen to some music and hopefully engage in some nice conversations and meet some new friends.
Girl, this is 2008. First of all, you have every right to go out no matter alone or with company and enjoy a place if you want to. Second, who cares what people think? Most of em would probably admire you for having the guts to go do something without a chaperone.
I go everywhere alone - movies, bars, clubs, the longer I do it, the more I prefer it. You don't have to worry about someone else's drama when you go alone. Come when you want, leave when you want, spend what you want, talk to who you want - it's quite awesome.
My question is...is it still taboo for women to go to a bar by herself without looking like she is out to hook up with someone. Or is it more acceptable now days?
It's never been taboo for a woman to do this as far as I remember. Men will approach because they think you need company which can be annoying (and strange, since most of them are alone too and they're ok), and you can tell the ones you're not interested in "no thanks", you are just there to enjoy the band/DJ/atmosphere/people watching.
Personally, I would think it was odd... I would be wondering what her motivation was... either she's there to hook up, or she's an alcoholic...
Apparently some men are still living in the dark ages. Don't pay 'em any mind... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 11:07:18 AM | Wow, I didn't know it's taboo. I go alone. Might have to reevaluate?
I chat with the female bartender, I have a brew, pay to listen to the jukebox, and I pay a few quarters to play some of the computer games. Mostly, I get human interaction -I enjoy listening to stories from people. Twenty bucks gets me a couple hours out for myself.
In my experience, I like local dives for the main reason that they aren't meat markets. You can hear people talking about their kids and grandkids, neighbors and townfolk. I haven't had men act disrespectful, think I was going home with them, or say I was an alocholic. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 11:18:42 AM | What is wierd or taboo about a woman going to the bar alone. I see alot of them going by themselves and it doesnt mean they are there to hook up or because they are Alchi's. I think its perfectly fine.  | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:10:03 PM | I will go to a bar alone and sit and have a drink. It doesn't take long before someone strikes up a conversatin even if it's just the bartender, women included.
I don't think I look like im out to " hook up" with someone. I look like a woman that needs a drink or two to just unwind, and would prefer to do so at the moment without dealing with a "date"
I say go for it!!
(( but then again I am not shy and strike up conversation very easy)) | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:16:24 PM |
Personally, I would think it was odd... I would be wondering what her motivation was... either she's there to hook up, or she's an alcoholic...
I get the impression that this is still the usual way that people do consider women that go to bars alone - at least in the south of England, which is a bit sad in this day and age. Usually I wouldn't go to a bar alone because I would feel uncomfortable, but I am sometimes envious of guys who can easily just go to a bar and kind of blend into the background and chat with other guys without anybody thinking they're behaviour is odd. When I was in Canada last year though I found the culture to be a bit different - and I found it easy just to go and sit at a bar and have a chat and a joke with people. I had some great times there actually... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:36:16 PM |
I would be wondering what her motivation was
Ummm...have a beer and a burger? Talk to old friends or make new ones? Learn about a community? Enjoy a band, a DJ or Karaoke singing? Play pool? Watch the NASCAR truck race on big screen TV?
Unfortunately the quoted poster is an example of a common mindset. Personally, I don't give a rat's rear end what anybody thinks,if there's something going on at a bar that I want to enjoy, I damn well go. I've never had any problems with disrespect from either gender.
Cindy O | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:44:25 PM | ^^^Cindy, you know what's funny? At this point in my life, instead of trying not to worry what people think, I go a step further and do things like this in hopes that there are people that find it odd. Maybe they lose a couple days scratching their balls over it. I figure if all I do is blend in with everyone else, what's the point of going?
I like to make people wonder what I'm doing - keeps em on their toes. And if someone is THAT fascinated by what I am doing in a public place, I'm glad I could entertain them - obviously life's pretty dull. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 1:07:04 PM | DJChickie401
Abso freakin lutely!
Very possibly it's because I am a friendly and pleasant person,however, a friendly and pleasant person who looks like she could benchpress a 1958 Chrysler(According to one of the "redneck" comedians ,one should NEVER offend a lady who looks like she could bench press a 1958 Chrysler) I have not as yet ever had to deal with disrespect from anybody. Of course, I pretty much stick to the small town local places, or am there for a purpose...friends playing music, friends playing in a pool tournament, a special event. I don't know as I 'd just go sit in a bar and deal with noise and smoke for the mere purpose of drinking because I had nothing better to do with my time.
Cindy O | |
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