| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:43:48 AM | | In this modern age of equality if you can make your woman cum orally and there is no attempt to reciprocate are you obligated to continue in the future? If you are a gentleman and make her orgasm first and even second should there be any gold at the end or your rainbow? | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:55:35 AM | What a childish and immature attitude towards sex!
Is the only reason you give sexual pleasure to receive it in return? Do you not find pleasure and satisfaction in knowing the satisfaction and pleasure you gave to your partner?
Do you not enjoy the act of oral sex for what it is? Do you not savor the closeness and intimacy that comes with it? are you so egocentric that you cannot give pleasure without concern for yours?
Is this strictly about you wanting needing a blow job and he not giving it to you? Does your woman not satisfy you in other ways?
Sex is a wonderful and some times complicated thing.........and you have a very selfish and misogynistic approach that will surely limit your ability to have a fulfilling sexual relationship.
Sex is not a rigid process where you do "A" and your partner MUST respond with "B". Relax and enjoy what comes along...........if your needs are so rigid that you must have something you should let your partner know rather than bring it up here.
Grow up...................I honestly thought this was written by a 21 year old not a grown man that should know better. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 11:07:47 AM | Kinda like marching in military formation- left, right, left, right, tit for tat. Lol
I don't measure equality by the piece, but by the whole, in this case, experience, or continuum of experiences. If she has trusted you enough to dance on your tongue, and show you her orgasm, maybe twice (!), treasure THAT, not the tally sheet, because now you have her attention! She's steamin' hot, ripe, rippling and ready for repeats. Damn, and you're resentful? If she so much as sniffs that odor, you've just scared the lobster, and that tail is gonna shoot backwards before you can blink.
Once had a lover who would only take about 2/3's of me, until she came, and then she couldn't get me deep enough, damn near swallow me whole, vaginally. I love to make my lover cum, she's showering me with her gifts, and I know her talents, and enthusiasm, aren't far behind.
I've never had a selfish lover. Maybe, just maybe, you have, but there's too much missing from the picture you're giving us to say. If she's really all just one-way, well, split; lousy lays lead lonely lives. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 11:29:08 AM | | It would be nice if she returned the favor, but she shouldn't be expected, or pressured, to do so. If the gal doesn't enjoy doing something, she has a right to not do it. I have had several GFs, over the years, who had never given a guy-not even a hubby-head before....much less let him cum in her mouth. I explained what I would like, but made it clear that there was no expectation, or pressure, for her to ever do anything but what she wanted to do. I went without head for awhile. Eventually-as a show of thanks for my understanding, and out of a desire to please me-these non-head givers finally gave me a lot of great head. One started on my birthday. Another started on Christmas. Another began on Valentine's Day. One waited 6 months, and another waited a year, and another waited two years. Each was comfortable with it in her own time, and found that she enjoyed the ability to please me, and the ability to control my orgasm. They would take me to the brink, pause, let me come down a bit, go at it again, and so on. They could make me cum sooner, or delay my climax awhile, as they chose. Having such power was a turn on for them, but they had to grow into the appreciation of it on their own. I made my desires known once, and let them know I was fine with them not doing it, and then I shut up. I pleased them in every way, for months, and they finally got around to wanting to please me in that 'special way'. When they felt the time was right, they pleasantly surprised me. Sex is not about keeping score, and sometimes you get a bit less than you give. Knowing how to deal with that is part of what maturity is all about. Besides which...bad head-from a woman who wants nothing to do with it, and who is only doing what she feels obligated to do-is not worth the bother. Great head-from a woman who does what she wants to do because her heart is in it-is well worth waiting for. Grow up. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 11:58:03 AM | | One of the greatest pleasures in a sexual relationship is the amount of pleasure you can bestow upon your partner. Not once have I thought - it's my turn and he won't get his if I don't get mine! That would take the pleasure out of any encounter! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 12:01:30 PM |
What a childish and immature attitude towards sex!
I wasn't aware that sex was just about keeping score.
If she has trusted you enough to dance on your tongue, and show you her orgasm, maybe twice (!), treasure THAT, not the tally sheet..
Not the first time I've seen such silliness from the OP, and I suspect not the last. Shame too, considering his age that he hasn't learned what sex and making love is all about. He's too busy keeping score to really understand it's not about what you get, it's about what you GIVE. All I have to say is..
You get what you give...
*rolls eyes and walks away* | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 12:10:02 PM | It does seem a bit selfish... however if my partner is attempting to pleasure me orally I expect to be finished off... (I have never been able to have an orgasm from oral only) there has to be penetration and something other than fingers... anyhoo... Even if he was able to finish me off... I would feel obliged to return the favor... but not because he expected it... but because I wanted to!! Cheerio!!! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 12:13:25 PM | The only time I would notice and make a note in my head would be if it happens a LOT, meaning you never receive and she always gets. Yeah, at some point, you might bring it up to here in the form of a polite question about whether she would do something for you.
Sex should be about both people giving and receiving pleasure and yeah, if the numbers start to mount against you, you should ask, just not pressure. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 1:22:21 PM | No,
She doesn't have to.
If you expect oral after pleasing her orally, it becomes formulaic doesn't it?
Kind of like in porn. She blows him, he licks her, missionary, doggy, cowgirl, money shot.
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 1:30:37 PM |
In this modern age of equality if you can make your woman cum orally and there is no attempt to reciprocate are you obligated to continue in the future? If you are a gentleman and make her orgasm first and even second should there be any gold at the end or your rainbow?
OP - first off, if you can make your gal cum orally, then kudos to you...as there are so many men that can't get their partners "there", or she just can't ever cum orally. So mad props to you. 
Still, this ain't about keepin' score, brother. If you get her off orally, and expect to have it reciprocated, I can just imagine a chalk board next to your bed with notches for hers and a blank area for yours. The only way I'd ever say it's tit-for-tat is if it's mutual oral pleasures and nothing else...then yea, it's obvious that you gave her the satisfaction and should expect it in return. But that's the ONLY way I could argue on your behalf.
If it's the whole enchilada, where oral stimulation is just the beginning of the night's events (or day), then doesn't it seem absurd to expect that just 'cause you gave her the O that she give you one too? Do it right, and you get your O eventually anyways, right? Is it really that paramount that you get yours if there's more on tap than just oral pleasures? Seriously...
Now on the other hand, if you keep doing for her and she doesn't return it at ALL, in any way, then this is your choice to stay with such a selfish lover, now ain't it? If I always did for her, and never got any in return, she'd either get cut off or kicked out. Though I'm not a huge fan of oral on me, it's still nice to have once in a while, and I'll never deny that. If I got nothing, I wouldn't be around long enough to whine about it.
But keeping score ideally, is just foul play man. Really.
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 2:23:23 PM | | So, I guess I better go get a pad of paper and a thick ass pen to start keeping track ...lmfao Lets see, I blew you so now you need to go down on me. Okay, switch. For God sakes, what is this, Romper Room??? lmfao My man will have a few pots at the end of his damn rainbow without me having to ask for it in return. If you need to ask, maybe you should not be where you are. :) | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 2:28:48 PM | sigh....no, its not about letting anything 'slide', Its about giving pleasure becasue it makes YOU happy. If you would like her to perform for you, and she hasnt...then its about talking about it with her! relationships, even sexual ones, are best when there is an open communication. Nobody is saying that you shouldnt get your needs met, but keeping score isnt how you make sure that happens.
If you talk to her you may learn that she feels indequate at giving oral...maybe she needs a little encouragement and support. Maybe she just doenst like it....whatever the issue, its better to figure it out now and deal with it rather than complain in a forum.
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 2:30:23 PM | It's about the desire to please. If you do you everything you can to pleas her and forget about what you expect in return the lack of pressure and built up trust will most likely make her want to give back just as much in return.
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 3:41:05 PM | If the OP is saying that he is pleasuring his woman and then she turns over and falls asleep, then hell yeah he has a right to "want his".
I am assuming though, like the rest of the replies, that is not what he is saying and I agree that it is not about keeping score. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 4:16:30 PM | Holy carp! Why not try talking to your PARTNER about what you like, don't like, would like but never tried, etc.........ask her why no bj's or why not more often. THE MOST POWERFUL TOOL IN YOUR SEXUAL ARSENAL IS YOUR BRAIN, WHICH HAPPENS TO BE JUST A FEW INCHES FROM YOUR MOUTH. TALK, TALK AND LISTEN. I am dumbfounded by people who are willing to have physical sex but not mental sex. It's not a competition, there is no "score" to keep. The best sex you ever have whether oral, vaginal, phone....etc is when you give everything to the other without expectation. By being unshelfish and passionate about HER, believe me she will reciprocate many times over.
I need duct tape so my head doesn't explode............. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/15/2008 4:25:28 PM | I will try to make this simple.
Giving pleasure (of any kind) is a bit like giving a present at christmas (or fill in applicable holiday) The joy is SUPPOSED to be in the giving not in wondering what you get in return. I will say this though a satisfied lover is way more likely to jingle your bells than one who is told "you owe me" just saying.. give it some thought!  | |
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